He has learned that it is safe to leave the less dangerous consideration of his symptoms, of others, of the environment, and of the past, and to focus upon the discovery of me, here and now. Change in Perception of and Attitude Toward Self The two previous articles have already indicated that much of what occurs in the process of therapy seems best explained in reference to the construct of the self. The self has for many years been an unpopular concept in psychology, and those doing therapeutic work from a client-centered orientation certainly had no initial leanings toward using the self as an explanatory construct. Yet so much of the verbal interchange of therapy had to do with the self that attention was forcibly turned in this direction. The client felt he was not being his real self, often felt he did not know what his real self was, and felt satisfaction when he had become more truly himself. Clinically these trends could not be overlooked. The clinical observations have now been buttressed and amplified with a considerable number of research studies. Raimy (153, 154) was the first to work in this area, supplying an extensive theoretical framework of thinking about the self-concept, which unfortunately has never been published, and also carrying through the first objective study of attitudes toward the self. He has been followed by a number of others. One woman, I'll call her Leslie, was complaining to the seminar facilitator about her employees. I'm sure they're stealing from me and I want to know what to do about it! My customers love me, my products, and service, but I am not making any money with this business. What am I going to do about my employees stealing from me? As I looked around while the facilitator gave Leslie her full attention, many people appeared sympathetic to Leslie's troubles. Then after several questions and answers, Leslie said, Well, I never intended to make money with this business! Several people's mouths fell open. I took a deep breath and relaxed and realized that I was glad I wasn't the facilitator. There in plain view was the source of her challenges--her underwater intention. From the comments that followed, it quickly became evident to the facilitator and to me that Leslie didn't understand what she had just said.

If you're trying to convince somebody to do X, show them that a lot of your peers do X. For example, if you're at a bar and you're a guy trying to meet people, become friends with your women and not friends with your guy with you Social Evidence. Four out of five dentists say. Just 100 iPhones left in this shop! Unity, since you and I are the same: place, beliefs, faith, etc In company, I've used each of the above. They're working. They're going to make you money. Influence is the whole purpose of language. In all of this research, the central construct is the concept of self, or the self as a perceived object in the phenomenal field. If a definition seems useful, it might be said that clinical experience and research evidence would suggest a definition along these lines. The self-concept, or self-structure, may be thought of as an organized configuration of perceptions of the self which are admissible to awareness. It is composed of such elements as the perceptions of one's characteristics and abilities; This definition has grown out of examination of the evidence and may change as our exploration of the phenomena of therapy continues. With this definition in mind, let us return to our basic question: What changes characteristically occur in the self during the course of a series of therapeutic interviews? The several investigations mentioned above supply at least the beginning of an answer. We find that the attitudes toward the self as a perceived object change materially. In cases where there is any indication that change took place, or that therapy was successful (whether the criterion is client judgment, counselor judgment, or rating by another clinician), the following statements would be supported by the research evidence. There is a trend toward an increasing number and proportion of positively toned self-references and self-regarding attitudes as therapy progresses.

Without her realizing it, Leslie had once upon a time set a firm intention, probably even silently, and forgotten about it. She was very successful in meeting her below-the-surface intention, and her results confirmed that: not making money even though her products were great, her customers were happy, and her income seemed to be more than her expenses. Now, in order to meet her unconscious or below-the-surface intention successfully, someone or something had to fall in line with that intention--and her employees were the ones who complied. Probably they did not even realize or understand their part. Leslie had attracted the very people who would help her out--in this case out of money and products and being profitable. Leslie seemed quite confused since she only wanted to know what to do about her employees and was not open to considering her part in the problem. She ended up leaving the meeting looking as if she hadn't gotten any worthwhile information. You, like Leslie, may be confused as you consider your underwater intentions and the results you are currently experiencing. Just begin with setting clear, spoken intentions and continue on with this journey. Eventually clarity about your prior underwater intentions will emerge as you go with the flow of the river. We are not animals that are solid. It's poor we are. We were saved by the language of influence. Probably a word such as, Run! The word spoken was the first. A Word of Effect. And it's been working. I still run from things that I'm afraid of. Developing a successful strategy of leverage involves going about four essential components: Firstly, organizations need a good understanding of the decision(s) they want to make by citizens, politicians, or other agencies.

There is a trend toward a decreasing number and proportion of self-references and self-regarding attitudes which are negative in emotional tone. Attitudes of ambivalence toward the self, in which positive and negative feelings are expressed together, tend to increase slightly until somewhat beyond the midpoint of therapy, and then to decrease slightly. At no period are ambivalent attitudes a frequent expression. At the conclusion of therapy there are more positively toned self-references than negative. These trends are not found, or are found in lesser degree, in cases regarded as unsuccessful. In the initial phases of therapy self-references tend to be negative expressions, emotional in tone or objectively negative; There are certain findings, less general in their nature, which tend to qualify these statements. The sharpest and clearest measure of the above trends is in terms of positive and negative feelings toward the self which are expressed as being currently held. The elimination of past attitudes from consideration heightens the slope of both curves. In the individual case, though the general trends are as described, there may be wide fluctuations from interview to interview in the self-regarding attitudes. Action Step When you engage your Feng Shui Current, set an intention before you take action. When you decide to place a cure in a Ba-gua area, set an intention for the cure before you place it. Consider putting the item for your cure on your altar, or taking it to a very spiritual place, to absorb your energy and intentions for abundance with an open heart. Now spend some time focusing on what you really want before you enter in to each upcoming experience. What kind of day would you like to have? How would you like to experience creating abundance? Look around your own home and work space with your Rational and Creative currents and consider your intentions for abundance and ease in your creative flow. Bring to the surface and release the thoughts and things that have not served you, and set some new intentions. Commitment to Struggle

Maybe this is a shift of actions, such as a person choosing to wear a seat belt or a helmet for a bike. Or a change of legislation that outlaws texting and driving. Or even a business choice, such as a business opting to give workers transit benefits. Or a sequence of choices, such as being a more sustainable company. A good sense of the choice that must be made; Knowledge about who makes these decisions An informed theory of how the decision will be taken; Knowledge of how the business can affect the decision-making process and a game plan to make it happen. Second, organizations need a good understanding of the decision(s) they want to make by citizens, politicians, or other agencies. Maybe this is a shift of actions, such as a person choosing to wear a seat belt or a helmet for a bike. After a slow rise in positive attitudes, negative attitudes may become sharply predominant for a time, etc (49) Within the general trends described there is more variability in self-regarding attitudes in the later stages of therapy than in the early stages. There is often an initial decrease in the positively toned self-regarding attitudes, before the general upward trend becomes evident. The unsuccessful case may remain consistently high in negative feelings about the self, or consistently high in positive self-attitudes. This material has to do with the feelings and attitudes which the client has toward himself, and the way in which those feelings change. Probably the more basic change is in the way he perceives himself. Unfortunately this is a complex and perplexing problem to investigate with research methodology; The major study is that made by Sheerer, and so far as her results have reference to the self, they may be summarized as follows. There is a tendency for the acceptance of self, operationally defined, to increase during therapy. Acceptance of self, according to the definition used, means that the client tends: