Think of your life's anchors: alarm clocks, photos of your friends and loved ones, the look from your wife, etc There are many cases in which we have anchors our lives, yet in our favor, we are still not using these powerful techniques. Imagine the following scene: Guy, in a horrible mood, comes home from work, and the woman tries to embrace him as an answer. If she does that often enough, he gets the same bad feelings just by holding her. While that may not be her intention, it just happens. And, how exactly does it work to anchor? So, someone goes an intense (positive or negative) experience, and a specific stimulus is applied at the height of that experience. This forms a neurological connection between the emotional state and stimulus. Now, any time the stimulus is applied, this will activate the emotional response. Anchors can come in every shape and size. These may be visual, auditory, gustative, olfactory, or kinesthetic. Both in and out of the interview, many clients have experiences comparable to this one. The proof of the efficacy of our total physiological and psychological organization, if any is needed, lies in the efficiency with which we protect ourselves from having to recognize attitudes or experiences which have been denied to awareness because they are threatening to the self. One client, whose life had been built upon the basis of denying a great proportion of her actual experience, demonstrated amazingly the psychic struggle which may exist. She would recognize within herself a significant facet of experience which she had not faced. She would start to voice it in the interview. She would forget completely, in the middle of the sentence, what it was she was about to say. She would sit and wrestle with herself until the material again appeared in awareness, or she would, if necessary, start talking about some related topic until she could again capture and resolutely meet and assimilate the experience that she so obviously wanted to accept, and so obviously wished to deny. Miss Cam related still further her experience of the second interview. Having started at the end, and gone on to the middle, I have finally come to the beginning -- to the interview itself. I had quite a bad case of stage fright when I came to the interview -- part fear, part hope, part embarrassment.

We all keep accounts with our Rational Current. We count or keep track of whether someone said one thing or another, whether she did or did not do what she said they would do. We each keep account if the something said was a promise to do something, especially if we're invested in the outcome. Everyone has an account. You have an account with each of the members of your family, your friends, your neighbors, and the people in your spiritual community. You also keep an account on each of them, your private stash. In addition, you have an account with your employer and coworkers, your community, the local newspaper, dry cleaner, at the grocery store, and where you buy your shoes/ clothes/computer/vehicle. Some of these accounts are obvious, and some are not. While the things we enter into the columns vary, each of us has a balance. You instinctively know with whom you have a positive balance and with whom you do not. Have ever heard a song that took you back to some moment in time, or smelled something that reminded you of that time, you're all anchors. And now that you know how anchoring works let's take a look at how to create one actively. There are several criteria in the NLP which decide an anchor power. The first is the strength of the condition that the person is experiencing. The better the situation, the more likely it is that the anchor will work later on. Next is the Anchor timing. It will only work if adjusted to the height of the emotions before and after. If added later, it may not be as effective but may not work either. Applied stimuli should also be a special one, easily identifiable and reproducible. The final points are the stimulus replication (the anchor should sometimes be reinforced to keep it fresh) and also the number of times the anchoring was done.

Fear that nothing would happen, that I would never find my way out into that lovely world of freedom glimpsed for a flashing moment at our previous interview; The embarrassment is due to the fact that I would like you to think well of me, and here I am showing you all my foolishness and inadequacy without any opportunity to demonstrate my competence and control (Oh-oh! After the initial nervousness wore off, I kept looking for a repetition of that experience of the first interview -- the feeling that something had clicked, that there was a real unity of perception. So I hauled out all kinds of personal history hoping to touch off that response. And it's funny about that, isn't it? As far as I can recall, it was mostly quite historical and objective, very little of my emotional response to it. But I did have powerful emotional responses, I was perfectly well aware of them, and I remember them, but I always thought of them as accidents, just something to be coped with among other things -- and when I speak of past events, the way I felt about them seems irrelevant in comparison with the events themselves. I don't think I like not having any feeling of those feelings. It's almost as if some portion of my own experience were inaccessible to me. It's robbery somehow, makes me feel less than myself, cut off. Just now, think about who would buy you a birthday present today. If you're invited to a birthday party, do you want to go and do you want to buy them a gift? Who bought you a present or called you for your birthday last year? Now let's up the ante. Whom would you lend money to, no questions asked? Whom would you not lend money to, for any reason? Those are just a few of the accounts you keep. We keep track of one another and one another's behavior. Stepping onto a deeper and more solid foundation of integrity assumes that we acknowledge and accept the things we are really doing. The game is up!

Sometimes, it's enough already once, and sometimes you need to do it more often. In case this seems to be less than easy to remember, Tad James ' coined mnemonic I TURN can aid (intensity, pacing, consistency, reproducibility, and number of times). How to Anchor an Audience NLP Style? Anchoring is one of those magical things in which the new and experienced NLPer will continue to amaze. It is a beautifully powerful tool for life-changing, shaping, and transforming. Once you learn to master anchoring, you have to use an incredibly powerful tool in your daily life. Effective Anchoring Is Not In The Cause People make a mistake when they first learn to anchor, that it's all about the technique, touch, or specific type of anchor being placed. But that is not! The contact on the arm, the unique visual movement, etc is the NLPer's magic curtain pulled over its eyes. Well, anyway, as I brought out those things, nothing at all happened -- at least not what I hoped for. Sure, you caught the sense of what I said, the mirror image was as true as before, but it had lost its novelty, it was flat and dead compared with the view through your windows. As time wore on, I grew awfully discouraged, disappointed, slightly desperate. I wanted a repetition of that experience so much, and when it didn't come, the emphasis seemed to shift from the longing for release to a longing for just contact with you, any kind of contact. I looked at you occasionally, hoping that what didn't happen with words might be accomplished in a look, and failing of that I just looked at you in hopes of reassurance. Maybe you would look at me as if you liked me, or sympathized with me, or something. But that didn't happen either, though you still looked perfectly calm and friendly, and open, and sort of easily ready. Ready for what? To accept anything I said? To look at all of it, without setting any limits, but without getting tied up in emotional knots?

No more lying to yourself--or to anyone else. You can still smile when someone asks you about his account balance; Telling the truth in a friendly way keeps the current flowing deep, wide, and smooth. Without Reasons and Excuses We deny what is going on with our Rational Current, making up reasons and excuses instead of facing the thing or issue straight on. Here the classic phrase The way it is, is the way it is comes into focus. With denial, the Rational Current comes up with lots of reasons and excuses why what is cannot be. These reasons are repeated as a defense and to bolster the growing barricade that blocks out what is really going on. Repeating the reasons prevents you from turning, facing, integrating, and taking positive action steps in line with reality. Integrating the Rational and the Body Sensation currents allows you to turn and face your denied issue and to say what you have been avoiding. Indeed, for quite a while, the keys to anchoring have been pulled over my head. I used to watch some of the early NLP masters doing training video after video, trying to locate where, for instance, Richard Bandler would anchor the audience and be mystified. Very great communicators qualified at the NLP don't make their anchoring many times clear. So many of us forget that anchoring is and still happens during the learning process. Don't know if you've ever sat through a top-speaker presentation, even after learning NLP and not noticing all of the anchoring that's going on -all of the time. Yet the secret to anchoring has long been there right in front of all of our eyes-it's just been blurred. That's why Vik and I invited an exceptional trainer to post on anchoring later this month (register for the newsletter if you want to learn when it comes out). I'm sure what you're reading will ignite your curiosity as mine did when I spoke to him about how anchoring is often misunderstood today. How does one anchor style and NLP audience? There are three simple rules which work consistently every time you practice.