Probably something along the lines of recalculating. In a soft voice that is supportive. Calm yet direct and to the point. Imagine if it swore at you. Told you how pathetic you are. Scorned you. Shouted in a deep bellowing voice or indeed a shrill screaming high pitch one. Either you would change the settings or get rid of it. Now think on how you speak to yourself inside of your own head. Indeed, for some people maybe you even hear someone else's voice. Mother, teacher etc. It all depends on the memory triggered or circumstances. To start with those settings' then. <a href=''>A</a> health check. <a href=''>Our</a> collective focus seems to have shifted away from the delicate frequencies and magic of life and onto the solidity, value, function and appearance of things. <a href=''>All</a> the while, felt and mostly unseen energy within and around us constitutes and shapes our lives moment to moment. <a href=''>It</a> is time for us to suspend our disbelief, awaken to magic, and dive fully into the lusciousness of life. <a href=''>Creativity</a> is our spirit energy. <a href=''>It</a> is not reserved for artists, poets and writers; it is a gift each one of us possesses. <a href=''>We</a> are innately creative beings, and inspiration is all around us. <br /><br /><a href=''>When</a> we are inspired we arein spirit', touched by divine influence. A history of inspiration has resulted in innovation, art, beauty, music and literature from which we draw profound inspiration today. The work we do now will leave a legacy for those to follow us, and it is our responsibility to leave this world a better place through our own loving, creative acts and visions. How you define weight loss success is critical to your, well, success going forward. To feel like you're a successful maintainer, you must first be more or less comfortable with the weight you're maintaining. And you don't even have to get all the way down to your goal weight to be satisfied. You can still be happy and comfortable with weight loss even if you fall short of this mark. To do that, you have to understand and accept your body and your genetics. Once you accept your shape, life gets a whole lot easier. Then you can maintain a weight that's healthy but realistic, without having to make sacrifices that would detract from your overall happiness. As Ann explains, "This weight might not be the number you initially had in mind, but it's the point at which you're comfortable with your weight and shape and are still able to do all the things that are important to you, such as travel, play with your kids, hike, and so on. "Having a healthy life requires balance," she continues, "and you can't have balance when losing more weight would require having to eat so little or exercise so much that you would not be able to engage in other important aspects of your life." In fact, many people eventually settle in at a slightly higher (but just as healthy) weight than they'd originally planned. Consider that you will probably never be rail thin (and this is the case for about 98 percent of Americans, by the way), and that it's okay. Your genes might dictate that you will be solid and muscular or curvy. When you set your goal weight, remember to consider all the factors that affect weight, including genetics, your body shape and muscle mass, and how you functioned at various weight levels. For instance, if you struggled to maintain 140 pounds in the past, but were just as healthy-- and much happier--at 150, then you may have to adjust your goal weight up slightly. No matter what you weigh now or what weight you're trying to get to, it's crucial that you look beyond the scale for measures of success. There is, for instance, that improved lab report from your doctor and the sense of satisfaction you get from looking better in your clothes, or simply feeling better. Exercise milestones are especially satisfying--progress from five-pound weights to fifteen-pound weights, and you've tripled your strength! And how gratifying is it to double your miles on the treadmill?

Being able to walk your dog, play with your children, have the energy to cook a healthful meal when you get home from work, do anything that you once couldn't--there are so many ways to mark achievement. Continue to strive for the things you want and deserve in life and congratulate yourself for every barrier you knock down and every triumph (big and small) along the way. Many, myself included, believe that the ultimate success is being happy, as it is a reflection of all that is important and meaningful to you in this life. The first stage is about developing an awareness and acceptance that something is a problem. Although part of every healing process, this stage is more complicated for you because you've convinced yourself (or at least had done so before beginning to read) that all ten characteristics of perfectly hidden depression--from perfectionism to denial of most emotional pain--are normal. You seem fantastic to others. You're not crying or emotionally unstable. What could be the problem? The problem, as the more aware part of you knows, is that you're living a hoax, and it's creating tremendous loneliness and emptiness inside of you. So, your first step is to become conscious of the everyday damage of this syndrome--how it keeps you isolated and unknown. The second stage can be complex. Why is this? Because commitment involves letting go of control. And your fear of ambiguity, of not staying in total control, of not knowing what your new life might look like has kept your pain--your anger, your sadness--under wraps. Accepting this ambiguity may bring actual terror and cause you to vacillate: Is this actually a good idea? Or do I need to stop now? Yet if you stay committed and begin to experience the tight ropes around your actions and life loosening, as you begin to breathe more freely, hope will arrive. And hope is where you'll find the courage to stay committed. As I have said many times, when you choose the behavior, you choose the consequences, and your choice of demeanor is no different. You are a creator of the responses you get from the world.

If you prefer the "shrink term" for this, you are a stimulus of those responses. That simply means that the manner and style with which you engage other people is going to determine how they respond to you. When you approach with anger, you tend to get anger in return. When your style of engagement says "loser," the world tends to treat you as such. When your conversation, posture, and bearing communicate "victim," you soon wear everybody out; sympathetic at first, they eventually become impatient and restless. That, however, is not the only way you can "run them off." The opposite approach can be just as obnoxious. When your message to the world is, "I'm in charge here--this is my sandbox and I don't care one whit about you or what you want," then once again the people in your life quickly decide that they don't want to play there anymore. Everybody has his or her own style of engagement. Very few people, however, have ever stopped to consider what their style is. Yet it is a topic of the utmost importance. Why? Because as you begin to engage the world differently, then all of the responses and reactions you get change, as well. Your style of engagement stimulates an entirely different quality of give-and-take with the world. Accordingly, your style of engagement is most definitely a topic for us to address. You must realize and accept a fundamental truth about relating to others: You are either contributing to or contaminating all of your relationships, sixty minutes an hour, twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. There is no neutrality. As we move forward you must remain cognizant of the fact that you are doing one or the other all of the time. You doubtless have vast amounts of technology and equipment in your modern life. You do not question the facts that this equipment performs better with regular service checks. It may be that you cannot afford to have them done on big items at the time, and you accept that there will be a cost to not doing so.

It is common sense. What about you as a piece of technology? Where is your service? Granted, you may include a dental check-up or even a cursory body check-up. Some people may have a little more detailed checks. You even have technology available now to measure the steps you do each day, blood pressure, oxygen levels, your exercise, your fluid intake. What about your mind? A check-up on how you are thinking. How you are feeling. Do your beliefs still serve you well? Is it a good thing to be scared of spiders, lifts, flying...? What would that be worth, and what would the Return On Investment be (to put it in business terminology)? Perfectionism, self-criticism and growing up' at the expense of our playfulness are just some of the forces that stifle our innate sparkle. <a href=''>Educator</a> Maria Montessori wrote thatOur care of the child should be governed, not by the desire to make him learn things, but by the endeavour always to see burning within him that light which is called intelligence.' Indeed, the learning and exploration we pursue throughout our lives should continue to ignite the light within us and delight our spirits. We are all inclined towards different forms of expression. Writing, drawing, cooking, inventing, knitting, singing, crafting, gardening, song or poetry writing, sculpture, dancing, collage, woodwork and countless other creative, sensory pleasures await our exploration. We can all be moved by nature, words, art and music, and by expanding our vision through experiences, travel and exploration. When we come to know other human beings we connect, and our creativity expands its potential all the more. Indeed, being creative together can result in tremendous, transformative collaborations far exceeding our expectations or our solo efforts. Our perspective can widen to encompass fresh ideas as we merge our own imagination with the thoughts and ideas of others.