we are not in touch with what we really desire, what is deeply satisfying. If we sit down and really think about this, we often discover that what we really want it is not what we usually think we want, or that which we have simply accepted. If we ask most people what it is they really want in life they will often answer with something material or a changed outer condition: 'If I had a little more money; something for the kids; if we could just buy a new place; if so and so would just change their behavior. ' We all share these kinds of desire. I call it 'longing for the one thing. I am secured that nothing should have happened. It is more of a scary feeling. At that particular time I feel in the dream I am totally choked. I just can't imagine my life without them. ' Here we see that her main experience, her main sensation is, 'I can't exist without them. ' We don't see downward movement in the air crash. She did not say it is all going down; this is not the energy. The energy is in losing, that she will lose something. Put your mind in a mode of expectations. Feel confident that everything is possible.

Now make a list of all your personal wishes and dreams for the future. It does not matter whether your desires are realistic and whether you expect to realize them. Just imagine that you pop up in a fairy tale or fable and in the next few hours you can ask for anything you wish, no matter what. It is, of course, not so easy to think this way, but you should try to take life a bit lighter from now on, with a bit more humor perhaps, like the child that is till hidden in you--somewhere. Now write down everything you would like to enjoy, if you could have it all. You can now put the article aside for 24 hours if you like, because you have encouraged your subconscious to contemplate your dreams, wishes and goals. Write down any new thoughts and ideas that will come to you every day and put them all down. You will even find empty articles at the end of this article for all the information you will gather during your work. The truth is that, the sooner you start investing and cultivating your friendships, the better off you will be in the long run. So, make a choice to be ahead of the game and work to develop your friendships now, while also planning for your future friendships. As with any age, friendship in later life, which for the purposes of this article we will consider age 65 and older, is instrumental in one's mental and physical well-being, and it is not that different from friendships at other points in one's life-course. In fact, older adults often have very similar expectations of their friends now as they did during late adolescence. 18 Research has found that older adults still define a close friend as someone who provides emotional and practical support, and someone you can talk to and enjoy spending time with. One primary difference between friendship in older adulthood as compared to other stages of life is that friendship in the later years tends to focus more on personal well-being. An important factor for anyone's well-being, especially older adults, is continuity. For instance, building in regular opportunities for socialization, whether it's walking your dog, going to a article club, attending religious events, or volunteering, help maintain a sense of community and a feeling of being understood. Volunteering or being helpful to others can foster a sense of positive regard and create other opportunities for friendship. Helping a neighbor out with their children or pets allows multiple opportunities to get to know someone on a more intimate level. The room was now seriously in need of some inner beauty magic, and so I remember taking extra time and care to do a deep energetic cleanse and to create an especially beautiful sacred space here. Whenever we're moving from one place to another, even if it's just catching the bus home or to work, transitions can certainly be testing.

I know all too well the impact it can have on our energy when we're travelling to work on an overcrowded train: we can't get a seat, crammed in like sardines, the person next to us keeps banging us with their big, heavy bag. Transitions such as this can leave you in a foul mood for the rest of your day. Which is why, in the same way that you might carry a little make-up bag with you to touch up your outer beauty, a small bag of inner beauty magic can help you to touch up your goddess energy throughout the day. In Peru, I learned from our wisdom teachers about the wonderful Andean tradition of the mesa: a sacred bundle that people carry around with them wherever they go. These bundles were composed of a soft cloth tied up with a ribbon, and inside the bundle there could be stones or crystals from special or sacred places, special notes from people, and any other sacred items whose energy a person might want to bring around with them. This was portable inner beauty in its most inspirational form. And one aspect of this indigenous practice we really loved was that, whenever we visited a sacred site, we would open our bundle and allow our sacred items to be charged by the energy or spirit of that place. I'll never forget the special Winter Solstice sunrise in Isla del Sol on top of a sacred mountain, sitting amongst our group of shamans and friends, a row of mesa bundles all opened up in congregation to the rising sun, the crystals responding to the first rays with shimmering smiles as they soaked up the energy of this beautiful moment. There was little to no resistance in the brains of the monks to the feelings of heartfulness. Achieving gamma brainwaves may explain the feelings of bliss and higher consciousness that we experience after meditation. The same waves were scarce in the beginner meditators, however they strengthened as the beginners had more experience with the exercise. So we can see that heartfulness is the combination of mindful absorption in the moment and a conscious feeling of loving kindness and compassion. Heartfulness exists on the frequency of gamma brainwaves. Most of us feel heartful every now and then, but we know that heartfulness, like mindfulness and meditation, can be trained and is the result of daily practice. Try this simple exercise to practise mindfulness and heartfulness. Start by taking a deep breath in and out, and tune into your immediate environment. Bring your mind into the present moment. For example, you may hear the breeze blowing through the trees, the sounds of distant construction, an aeroplane flying overhead or a pottering neighbour. ' We focus on 'one thing' that we are sure will change our life or make us happy. We say to ourselves 'If I just had that I would be happy.

' But we usually discover, when we acquire or achieve the one thing, it doesn't do the trick. Longing for something different should not be confused with having vision. David taught that once we have created a clear vision we do not need to dwell on it constantly, rather trust that it will occur. We let go of the anguished imperative that it must happen. The concept of 'the perfect stranger' is an example of a misleading vision. Many of us, when we grow tired of our primary relationship, when we see it has a tiring pattern of constant unpleasantness, or when it seems to have lost passion, begin imagining the perfect stranger, someone we will meet who will sweep us back into love and intimacy. Rather than working on our current relationship, taking responsibility and learning how to deepen and revitalize it, we fantasize about a person with whom we will be compatible forever. The perfect stranger will attend to our every need, never complaining. That takes us to the mineral kingdom. The experience is not one of fright or shock but rather of losing something that she needs. We can go deeper than this and ask what the experience is for her of losing such a person. She says that she is extremely dependent on her close relatives and needs them around all the time. They are like a security blanket for her and she cannot imagine her existence without them. Having investigated the first dream to this level, we now turn to the second dream (of stools) and ask her to speak about this. She says, 'I feel that I am impure and that I need to wash my legs often, and I am feeling sick about it because generally even if a child is shitting, I can't look. I feel like everything is stuck on my feet. It is sticky and very odd, difficult to remove it. It is unhygienic, like when mud is on your foot, you feel you're slipping on it and you have to scrape it off with a leaf or something. After a 24 hour break, or when you decide to continue, write down why you want to reach and realize every single goal. You will see which fantasy is really a goal and which one is not, because if you cannot define why you want something, it is not a real goal.

Now write down again every goal you chose, and write down at the side why you want to achieve and realize this goal. Now, scrutinize each goal for its effectiveness and answer the following questions for every goal you wrote down: Is this really my own goal? (Many goals, for which we strive, have been programmed by our environment. Frequently we do not realize that a goal is not really our own. ) Is this goal morally acceptable and am I willing to live with the consequences? Does this goal fit in with the scope of my other goals? Take the case of Jane, a widow with adult children who lived out of town. Jane would occasionally help babysit her neighbor's children and, over time, became an integral part of their family. Jane gained a friend and so did her neighbor. Despite the many commonalities, friendships as an older adult do come with some striking differences. First, older adults may have fewer opportunities to find new friends, or they become choosier when it comes to picking new friends. I recall one grandmother's pointed feedback about expanding her social network. She commented that, at her age, it was more important to cherish the friendships she had than invest in new ones. To some extent, she was right. Throughout our lives we are selective in whom we keep in our circles. As you get older and value your time more, it makes sense to simply focus on those existing friendships. But you don't need to be a million miles from home to find a place in Nature that is sacred to you. Your first step is finding something to carry your inner beauty tools around with you.