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You're worried about it. Worry forces you to think about little else over the weekend other than getting to see a doctor on Monday. It's annoying that you can think of little else, but the fact that you are so preoccupied makes it likely you'll go and see the doctor and get the mole checked out. Another example of an emotion that narrows and focuses your thinking is sadness. Sadness helps you to slow down enough to take in and adjust to your loss. Emotions such as sadness, anxiety, worry and guilt might not feel good yet they do have beneficial aspects if you respond to them positively. If you don't act positively on those emotions, if you let them overwhelm you, they can contract and distort your world and keep you feeling bad. In contrast, `positive' emotions such as hope, compassion and happiness and their associated positive thoughts, can expand your world and the possibilities in it. A life well lived is, simply, the product of focusing on one single day at a time. If you can win today, you can win tomorrow. If you can win tomorrow, you can the rest of the week. If you can win the rest of the week, you can win the month. If you can win the month, you can win the year. If you can win the year, you can win the rest of your life. Successful people also have evening rituals and processes they go through before they go to bed because it helps them to relax, get quality sleep, and wake up ready for the next day. Read, learn, and prime your mind - don't finish your day with junk in your brain. Just like brushing your teeth, clean your mind and feed it something useful and healthy. Completely unplug and disconnect - do something completely different than what you've been doing all day long. Disconnect and unplug from work, projects, school, your cell phone, etc. Give your mind and body a break.

Spend time watching your favorite show, listening to music, etc. Allow your mind and body to de-stress. Spend time alone or in silence - Meditate, go walking, jogging, or do something that allows you to hear yourself think. Something that allows you to process the day and sort it all out. There are also times when we may inadvertently miswrite our initial instruction because of our tendency to be perfectionists. As habitual procrastinators, we often expect too much of ourselves, falsely believing that if we don't accomplish everything we've set out to, then anything that we have gotten done along the way doesn't count, meaning, it has no value whatsoever. This belief system is counterintuitive to how method works, where everything that we accomplish not only counts, but counts a great deal. However, unless you write down your initial instruction in one clear sentence, using simple and basic language, you could experience a degree of difficulty in using it. One way to avoid being a perfectionist is to understand that it's very hard to find anything that's truly perfect. In fact, perfection is so rarely found that if we constantly seek it or expect it, then we're most certainly bound to run the risk of feeling frustrated or disappointed a good deal of the time. Given this truth, we should strive to remember that for habitual procrastinators, "Good enough is great!" For many depressed people who want to attend treatment, the problem of finding treatment programs can be difficult, especially if they live in a small community where certain programs may not be available. Anyone attending treatment for the first time may also feel reluctant to become part of a treatment group where they would be expected to talk about their emotional problems and share many of their most intimate secrets with people they have never met before. As a result, many people with depression may be tempted to go online and take advantage of one of the numerous Internet support groups already available. Not only would this allow them to stay anonymous but these groups are usually free and can be accessed at any time of the day or night. But how effective are these online groups when compared to in-person treatment programs when it comes to treating depression? Research looking at Internet-based cognitive behavioral therapy (iCBT) suggests that it can be as effective as traditional in-person treatment programs in treating depression. Still, much of this research is in the very early stage, and many more studies need to be done to determine whether this kind of online help can become more widely used. Despite the appeal of online, often anonymous treatment programming, there are drawbacks as well. Since online groups often allow people to participate without revealing their identity, this removes much of the emotional connection that those participating in face-to-face meetings would experience. Meeting in-person also allows depressed patients to relearn how to communicate honestly and avoid the impulse to lie when being asked uncomfortable questions.

In-person group members also learn to form strong emotional bonds with fellow group members and their therapist, something that can be extremely important for people who want to open up about secrets they might not otherwise share. With online counseling, on the other hand, many of the benefits of in-person treatment are often lacking. You would practice endless discipline to make it right. That's what I want you to do now, because you are your own true love--nothing more and nothing less. Now it's time to answer one of the questions I hear most from people around the world: "Where do I start?" The place to start is to swap out your old thinking for new thinking. Start out by having a made-up mind and take back your birthright with authority and power. Just pause and ponder for a moment and think about the word "power." Are you willing to do what is necessary to have the authority over your life and health? Do you realize you are your only competition? No matter what your family health history, you still have the power to do your part. You have the power to take action regardless of your circumstances or age. Here's the good news: Once you get serious about your health and get started, your body will start craving healthy nutritious foods and a good sweaty workout. Your mind will begin desiring additional inspirational and spiritual stimulation. And you will actively seek an emotional state where less drama and more peace feel exactly right. Stretch - morning stretching gets you loose and relaxed for the day ahead and stretching at night gets you loose and relaxed for bed. If your body is relaxed, you sleep better. If you've never stretched before bed, try it on a night you can afford to sleep through your alarm. One of my former co-workers didn't come to work the next day because he said he slept better than he had in 30 years. Journal/drama book - if you've had a long day, talk about it in your journal or drama book. Get the negativity, stress, anxiety, and anything else that isn't good for you out of your system. Review and update your goals - go through your list of goals and cross off what you accomplished, add anything new, and review what needs to happen for tomorrow.

If you inadvertently focused on the big picture by jotting down an initial instruction that can't be done in a single action, you'll likely find yourself going nowhere fast. Similarly, if you've fallen into the trap of perfectionism by attaching too many conditions to your initial instruction for it to get done, you'll also find yourself at odds with forward movement. In either case, if your initial instruction seems to be vague or confusing to you, then the remedy for this is to rewrite it. As habitual procrastinators, we generally aren't accustomed to taking our collective will back--especially when it involves a task that we're not being forced to engage in by an external party. So for us, it's only natural that we may feel a bit flustered when we're faced with the need to rework a step, while we're in the very process of trying to get that task completed. However, it's also important to keep in mind that we habitual procrastinators are often more used to blindly going into battle against our tasks, than in keeping our eyes wide open by using the tools of proper planning and preparation. Therefore, if you find that you need to rewrite your initial instruction, although you may momentarily balk at the extra work, do bear in mind the great importance of giving yourself clearly written instructions. If a task that you've written seems too complicated to act upon, don't fret or bemoan it, just put a light wavy line through it and then re-write the same task by reconsidering what else might first be necessary in order to act upon it. Ask yourself what you need to do prior to what you had previously written down as your first step, and then write that new instruction underneath the line that you drew the wavy line over. Then, look over the new instruction and see if that motivates you to take action. Despite the disadvantages of online treatment programs, there is no disputing that they are becoming much more popular. Not only are there far more options available online than most people are likely to find in their own community, but joining an online group is far easier than finding an in-person treatment program. Considering that many programs may not be covered by standard health plans or receive government support, that also adds to its appeal. Though online treatment is becoming increasingly popular, in-person treatment will continue to be available for people who need something more comprehensive to overcome depression. People seeking treatment should be able to investigate a wide range of treatment options. This can mean using online resources in supplementing the help that can come from conventional treatment, though it should never replace it completely. If you are considering online treatment groups, make sure you do your homework to ensure that such treatment is the right choice for you. Most reputable treatment programs are affiliated with national or international organizations that also provide access to local resources as well as other resources that can help. Check the appendix section for some possible online sites to contact. Ever fell asleep watching TV and then had a dream related to what you were watching or woke up thinking about what you saw the night before?

It's because, again, your mind is constantly consuming and programming itself with whatever you're feeding it. What you feed your mind before you go to sleep is what you're telling it to process and program itself with all night long. It doesn't care if it's negative or positive, smart or stupid, or quality or garbage. It can't tell the difference or decipher it. That's your job. Your brain's only job is to find a place to put the stuff you're feeding it. It doesn't say, This is garbage or I can't use this. It only says, I can't tell and don't care what this is. You put it in here so I'll put it away. Be smart and give your mind something good to process and program itself with while you sleep. Give it something that'll make you wiser, faster, more competent, and more knowledgeable. Something that will make you a better person. Something that will make reaching your goals and becoming the person you want to be easier. The last thing you feed your mind is extremely likely to influence the next morning's thoughts and mood. If you want to motivate yourself go running when you wake up, devour some content on running and when you wake up, you'll, naturally, be more motivated to put on your shoes and go running. Your brain spent all night processing and programming itself with the last thing you put in it - running. Feed your mind something healthy and beneficial before you go to bed so it's not processing and programming the junk music you had on in the car or the fear, worry, and anxiety you got from watching the news. Control what you put into your brain because it will, with 100% certainty, manifest itself in your thoughts, emotions, behavior, and habits. If, by chance, the new instruction you've given yourself still doesn't work for you, then put a light squiggly line through that new one as well, and give yourself permission to re-write it once again. In fact, it may take several attempts at first just to find the smallest-sized task you're comfortable with; that's fine, just remember that once you complete your task, be sure to draw a light line through the task.