What makes one person bounce back from adversity and another crumble? The answer to that is thinking styles. One of the most important ingredients in resilience is controlling your emotions and behaviors, and that means controlling your thoughts. As we shall see, how we think has a profound influence on our ability to handle stress. Therapist: I bet you can too, and it'd be fun, but no clay on the ceiling, Bob. Bob: Why not? Therapist: It's too hard to get it off. Bob: (He tosses the ball several times. When it gets within an inch or two of the ceiling, he looks at the therapist. Therapist: You want to see how I'm taking it? It gets nearer and nearer to the ceiling. Therapist: Bob, I know you'd like to throw clay at the ceiling. That's one of the things we can't do in here. You can throw it at the target or at the floor if you want to. Don't be distracted. Leaving no space for distractions will allow you to focus, especially when you focus on doing the right things. How do you know that you have determined what you like to do? Recognizing what you like to do is like winning a big prize. After feeling this, the search for the answer is over. In addition, you will have no questions or anything that bothers you.

However, if you are still confused, then you still can't find the answer to the question What do you like to do? Therefore, please try the above tips again to find the true answer to the question. Remember, the answer depends on you. The only thing you need to do is to dig out and find out what you really like to do, because this will enable you to achieve your life goals. If we want all the good stuff that resilience produces, and better stress management, then we've got to tackle our thinking styles. More than education, more than experience, it is resilience that determines who succeeds and who fails, who is satisfied in their jobs and in their relationships, who is physically and emotionally healthy, and who is happy. Thinking styles are the familiar ways in which we see the world and our place in it. They dictate how we view ourselves, our circumstances, our future--even how we believe the world or we should be. The problem is, we develop habits around how we think. We do this because it's time effective, but it's inefficient because our thinking habits are often wrong. One of the reasons we have such difficulty with work/life conflict is because we're bringing the same old tired thinking habits to the table each day. That's what's different here. We get your head in the game. We'll show you clearly how what you think can have a profound effect on what you feel and do. Bob: (He says nothing, but goes to the table and begins to pound the clay ball flat. Therapist: (Comes and sits down opposite him, but says nothing. Bob: Wait till you see what I'm making. Therapist: You mean, it'll surprise me? Bob: You'll see in a minute. Therapist: I'll soon find out?

Bob: (He makes a clay figure. Therapist: A man? Bob: (He puts a skirt on the figure, with great glee. He looks mischievously at the therapist. Why Have a Purpose and Vision in Life? Finding life purpose may be just a waste of time for some. But, actually, if you won't find your purpose in life, your time will be wasted until you came to a point that you will not have the time to fulfill your life's goals or dreams. Below are some of the reasons why you should find your life purpose: Gives Life Meaning- The purpose of life can make everything meaningful. You may succeed outside, but if there is no goal in life, you will not find meaning, because you will always walk on an empty path. Provides Guidance- Your life goals can provide you with life direction or guidance. It can also help you make decisions to the greatest extent, especially if you want to succeed in a lifetime. People who can't find life goals have no solid foundation when making decisions. Usually, they only listen to the opinions of others. You'll learn to think differently so that you can become more accurate in your assessments of situations, recognize problematic thinking styles, and learn how to navigate around them to effect change. With this program, you will learn how to: The result: You'll become far more empowered and better equipped to pull yourself out of stress messes, and able to more fluidly flow through the ups and downs of your everyday life. REMOVE THE ROADBLOCKS TO HEALTHY LIVING You're smart. You intuitively know that your body is significantly better equipped to stave off stress if it is fueled with the right foods, if your mood and energy are boosted by exercise, and if you get restorative rest and good sleep.

You've likely looked at a lot of tools for better living, including diet, exercise, and time management, and we know you're sincerely trying to live the best and most balanced life you can. We know you want a saner, calmer, healthier life for yourself, so really, why isn't it happening? We'll give you two good reasons. The first is that stress is the ultimate catch-22. Therapist: I don't know, Bob. Do you want to tell me? Bob: My dear teacher, how do you do? Therapist: Teacher got socked. Bob: Heh, heh. No, you did. Therapist: Oh, I got that one. Bob: (He hits the clay figure another blow. Therapist: I got another sock. Bob: I'll say you did! Motivates You- With your life goals, you will always be motivated. In life, failure and rejection always exist, which may be why many people consider quitting. But if you know your goal in life, you will always move on, because motivation will help you. Benefits of a Purpose and Vision in Life After you find your life goal, you will get many benefits. One of the main benefits of finding life goals is that it will make you happier.

You will no longer feel frustrated and stressed. Instead, you will look forward to doing what you like and enjoying everything you accomplish every day. Dealing with stress and other things that negatively affect your life is part of anyone's life. In fact, stress can also be a good thing, because it can help you become better and move forward in life, no matter how hard you persist. The more stressed you are, the less able you are to make the changes that would alleviate it. Stress saps our energy and motivation, leaving us too drained to care for ourselves so that we can stay ahead of it. Think about it: How motivated are you to cook a healthy meal or work out when you're exhausted? When you're troubled at work, how likely are you to seek out joyful ways to revive your spirits? If you're overwhelmed by your to-do list, how likely are you to snooze peacefully to refresh your mind so that you can get ahead of tomorrow's list? The second reason runs a little deeper: faulty thinking. Whenever we engage in behavior that seems self-sabotaging or absurd, there's always a reason for it. There are forces (aka thinking styles) keeping your behaviors in place, and we'll show you how to unearth those forces so that they don't have you repeating the same patterns of behavior. If you've tried to make changes in these areas before and have not succeeded, it's because you've tried to change at the behavioral level, rather than trying to change the underlying thoughts pushing those behaviors. If they're to stick, lifestyle changes cannot be made on the surface level. And here's another one for you! Therapist: You hit me again. Bob: And that's not all. Therapist: You're giving me an awful beating. Bob: You bet I am! Take that one too!