Are they accurate? Professor Stephen Schnaars of Baruch College analyzed the forecasts published between 1959 and 1989 in sources like the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, and Business Week, and found that they were wrong about 80 percent of the time. The predictions of major think tanks fair no better. In fact, Futures magazine once analyzed 1,556 technological forecasts and found that the experts were no better than nonexperts in their prediction accuracy. So-called technological experts over the past forty years have predicted that, by now, most people would be using video telephones, ultrasonic dishwashers and showers, moving sidewalks, and jet-powered cars. Some experts even predicted that the average person would be working only about ten hours a year--by the year 2000. Moreover, innovations that have had a major impact on our lives, such as cellular telephones, atomic energy, compact discs, and the computer, were not predicted. In fact, the dictionary definition of a computer was "a person who computes" as recently as 1950. In 1956 RCA predicted that by the year 2000, there would be only 220,000 computers in existence.59 The evolution of technology is so complex and uncertain that it is just about impossible to predict what the next breakthrough innovation will be. As Sherden states, "The main difference between technology forecasting and science fiction is that the former is sold under the pretense of being factual." Find yourself a quiet place, a secluded place, a place where you will be alone. It doesn't have to be some ideal spot in the middle of a forest. That's nearly impossible for most of us, but it should be a place where you feel comfortable, and where you won't be disturbed. It should also be a place where you won't feel on display. You want all of your attention free for meditation, not wasted on worries about how you look to others. Try to pick a spot that is as quiet as possible. It doesn't have to be a soundproof room, but there are certain noises that are highly distracting, and they should be avoided. Music and talking are about the worst. The mind tends to be sucked in by these sounds in an uncontrollable manner, and there goes your concentration. There are certain traditional aids that you can employ to set the proper mood. A darkened room with a candle is nice.

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The economy and other social systems are unpredictable because they are complex systems. In complex systems, order emerges from the complex interactions among components of a system, influenced by one or more guiding principles. For example, our ecosystem developed because of the complex interactions of many different life-forms guided by the principle of natural selection. Complex systems are unpredictable because it's practically impossible to know the outcome caused by countless interacting variables. These systems have periods of order interrupted by unexpected turmoil, and they can evolve, exhibiting new, unexpected behaviors. And so, chaos relates to many aspects of the physical world, while complexity relates to our biological and social world. In either case, accurate predictions are just about impossible to make. The most important rule here is this: When it comes to sitting, the description of Buddhism as the Middle Way applies. Don't overdo it. Don't underdo it. This doesn't mean you just sit whenever the whim strikes you. It means you set up a practice schedule and keep to it with a gentle, patient tenacity. Setting up a schedule acts as an encouragement. If, however, you find that your schedule has ceased to be an encouragement and become a burden, then something is wrong. Meditation is not a duty or an obligation. Meditation is a psychological activity. You will be dealing with the raw stuff of feelings and emotions. Consequently, it is an activity that is very sensitive to the attitude with which you approach each session. What you expect is what you are most likely to get. Your practice will therefore go best when you are looking forward to sitting.