Try this out a few times each week for at least four weeks. At the end of the month, notice if your thought patterns have changed. The Pain Interview Good for: chronic pain, headaches, joint pain, nerve pain, stress relief This exercise is designed as an interview with your pain. In order to change your thoughts and perceptions about pain, it's essential to There's a saying that where the mind goes, the energy flows. If your mind goes to negativity, frustration, and stress, that's exactly where your energy will go. It's important to identify which parts of your mind and body are involved with your pain. With this exercise, you will be able to identify your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, which will help you look at how pain impacts your body in real time. Thetford concludes, The findings of this study would seem to be consistent with the theory that the organism is able to discharge more rapidly and completely the effects of experimentally induced frustration as a result of therapy. In simpler terms, the significance of this study appears to be that after therapy the individual is able to meet, with more tolerance and less disturbance, situations of emotional stress and frustration; Here is an indication of a type of behavior change which, if confirmed by future study, is significant indeed. Both Bills (24) and Axline (13) have shown that when maladjusted children who are retarded in reading are given even a moderate number of therapeutic sessions handled in a client-centered manner, there is an improvement in the functioning of the child in reading, as measured by standardized tests. In the study conducted by Bills, nine therapy sessions (six individual, three group), in which reading was in no way the focus of the experience, were accompanied by an increase of approximately one year of reading skill during thirty school days' time. This was in a group of eight children who showed marked retardation in reading ability as compared with their rating on an intelligence test. Perhaps the study which comes closest to a direct attack on the question raised by the man in the street, is one conducted by the Veterans Administration (18). As a part of the Personal Counseling program of the Veterans Administration, a follow-up study was made of 393 cases handled by the Personal Counselors. Six months or more after referral to the Personal Counselor, each veteran was rated by his training officer as to whether he had shown any improvement in his adjustment to his training program or to his job (or to both). The training officer had no knowledge of what had gone on in the counseling.

In a swamp, the flow of energy and money is stuck. Here's what to watch out for: jammed closets, attics, and basements; The body movements in a swamp like this are low, heavy, slow, and jerky. A few deep breaths can start your movement out of the swamp and begin some inspirational ideas and actions. Do the Cross Crawl in Appendix A. Add creative movement as a regular part of your day. Check your intentions around getting unstuck. Be easy and gentle with yourself as you work with experiencing more flow and abundance. I realized that for over two weeks, I had just 'stood and looked' at my closet and then my garage each time I opened the door, Leslie, a mortgage broker, told me. I was frozen and needed some help in moving forward. When you begin to identify all the things that are happening during a pain episode, you begin to demystify the whole process of pain. Once you've done this several times, you may find that it's easier to do it in the moment of a pain experience. The process of writing down what's happening in your body interrupts the unconscious pattern. It brings to light new information, and brings the possibilities of change and hope into your life at the moment that you are experiencing pain. Let's begin. What am I thinking right now? For example, if you walk today, will it make your hip hurt more? Does it matter? What am I feeling? Make sure that you just observe what you're feeling rather than judging or changing it.

Of the total group, 17 per cent were rated as having shown no improvement, 42 per cent as showing some improvement, and 41 per cent as much improved. While this finding seems significant, the study is a rather crude one, and the possibility of some general bias on the part of training officers for or against the counseling program is not ruled out. One of the subsidiary findings is therefore of interest. It was found that when the ratings were compared with the number of interviews with the counselor, there was a definite relationship. The training officers did not have information as to the number of times the veteran had seen his counselor. Yet forty-eight men who had seen the counselor ten times or more were almost all rated as having shown improvement, while those who had seen the counselor two times or less were much less frequently rated as showing improvement. This finding gives more weight to the general conclusions, since it indicates that with regard to a factor on which the raters could not have been biased, their ratings show a consistent trend in accord with logical expectancies. The data on this point are given in Table II. Table II * Relation of Job Adjustment to Duration of Counseling19 What, then, is the current answer to the question, Does the process of client-centered therapy involve any change in the behavior and actions of the client? It turned out that my best friend had decided to clean out her attic. We partnered and helped each other. She wanted a taskmaster or a persecutor, so I got really good at saying 'Now tell me why the hell you are holding on to this after all these years? I also realized I was stuck in, and just complaining about, several areas of my business life. Clearing out the clutter in one area released my energy, and I took care of the backlog in my business. And several new clients appeared the next month. Now you know some new information and are gaining some new tools and techniques. The journey continues whenever you are ready to step off the Sticky Triangle. Welcome back to the River of Gold! The Grand Fall

The act of observing emotions and beliefs allows for change to occur. Can you think of a more positive emotion, such as gratitude for having good shoes to walk in, or relief that the sun is shining? Choose several feelings that are positive. What do I believe about this pain that I'm feeling? Make sure that you look at whether it is true and whether you're willing to die on the sword of this particular belief. Ask yourself what happens if this is a false belief. What's going on in my body? Bring your awareness to your body and neutrally observe where you might be holding tension. Are your knees locked? Are you tensing your jaw? Pulling together the threads from these various studies, we may say that, during the process of client-centered therapy, the evidence at present available suggests that the client's behavior changes in these ways: he considers, and reports putting into effect, behavior which is more mature, self-directing, and responsible than the behavior he has shown heretofore; SOME GAPS AND WEAKNESSES IN OUR KNOWLEDGE We have completed our summarization of the factual knowledge and the clinical hypotheses which are available at the present time to describe the process of client-centered therapy. To the clinically minded reader the description may seem too static, lacking in the dynamic and moving quality which accompanies the experience of therapy. To the research minded, it may seem too loose, based on studies which are somewhat crude, which are lacking in the methodological elegance which is possible in other fields. Both these criticisms seem to be justifiable. The first we hope to remedy to some degree in our statement of a theory of therapy, supplying something of the dynamic element which is evident in these changes. The second criticism we hope that time will answer, as increasingly exact methods become possible. We should also like, in support of our efforts thus far, to fall back on Elton Mayo's statement: It is much easier to measure nonsignificant factors than to be content with developing a first approximation to the significant. But serious weaknesses should be pointed out in the material already given.

Here we are going along the river in our vessel, enjoying the view, when all of a sudden everything drops out from underneath us, just as if we were going over a huge waterfall. What happened? Shocked, we become aware of a basic game in our lives: that of Being Right at All Costs and making other people and ourselves wrong. Our Grand Fall allows us to realize that our ideas of what was right have shattered and come apart. The right-wrong positions we take consume time and energy and prevent us from enlivening our dreams and creating lasting abundance for ourselves. For example, a financial Grand Fall happens when the stock market takes and enormous nosedive. The conventional wisdom before the nosedive was that many things were worth a lot of money, raising the value higher and higher, until eventually the bottom dropped out. Then people began to realize that they had agreed on the inflated value without any practical support underneath it, such as the price/earnings ratios or other financial indicators of continuing value. For a while everyone had been right; Another Grand Fall happens when you assume that something will continue to increase in value at its current rate. Draw a picture of your body and color in the areas that you've noticed. Where is my breath? Are you holding your breath? Is it short and rapid? Can you change your breath? Observe what happens in your body when you change your breath. Write down the changes. Reading an interview with someone helps you understand them better, and it's the same with your pain. Once you begin to understand how it impacts your mind and body, you can then try to reframe it more positively. Increase Your Stress Awareness