statistics, 60 percent of depression sufferers between the ages of twelve and seventeen fail to get any form of treatment. Of those who do get treatment, only 19 percent receive both psychotherapy and medication. For the rest, almost all receive counseling alone, with only 2 percent receiving some form of medication. In many developing nations that lack mental health resources, over 90 percent of people suffering from some form of depression will not receive any treatment. Though global health agencies are calling for more resources to help people suffering from depression and other mental health problems, the lack of trained health professionals and the stigma that surrounds mental illness in many countries still pose significant barriers for people in need. And many mental health professionals suggest that cases of depression will continue to increase in future as more people come to accept that the symptoms they are experiencing may be a sign that they need professional help, which makes it more important than ever for people suffering from depression to reach out in any way they can to find the right treatment for themselves. Take time to enjoy the journey towards your goal while also being mindful that achieving your goal will not fulfil you completely. Expect and understand that reaching your goal might make you happy - but only for a while. We continuously raise the bar for what we want or feel we need in order to be happy. Getting your book published will make you happy for a while, and then you adjust your ambition to hitting the Sunday Times bestseller list, becoming a global phenomenon. I speak from personal experience. I think we are yet to find the one thing that will permanently quench our thirst when it comes to ambition. So perhaps we need to consider how to turn the idea of the pursuit of happiness into the happiness of the pursuit. People on a quest for something they find meaningful - whether that is building a boat or growing the perfect tomato - tend to be happier; they know that happiness is the by-product of the process and not a pot of gold at the finish line. One morning, Winnie-the-Pooh and Piglet are talking about what they enjoy most in the world. And although Winnie is a big fan of eating honey, there is a moment just before he begins to eat which is better than eating itself, but he is not sure what it is called. The A. A. Milne who wrote the stories about Winnie-the-Pooh was not an author, he was a happiness scientist. Expectation can be a source of joy.

Imagine you could have a kiss from anyone you want. Any celebrity. Who would it be? George Clooney? Angelina Jolie? I would go with Rachel Weisz. (Yes, I know she is married to James Bond - no need to rub it in.) Do you have someone in mind? If you do, then consider this: When would you want that kiss? Now? In three hours? In twenty-four? In three days? In one year? In ten years? If you understand this correlation, you can very accurately guess, in most cases, what someone's home looks like and how much attention they give it just by looking at the how they conduct themselves. Look at your home right now. Look at every single detail. What you're seeing is a direct reflection of your mind. You're looking at the product of how much you have your act together. It doesn't matter how much you talk about how you have your act together, your home says different.

Your home tells the truth. Your home is your domain. Your territory. Your place to drop your guard and relax. Your place of peace. You place of solitude. Your place away from the world. You place of safety, security, and happiness. Not just for you, but for everyone in your family. Your home environment shouldn't be hostile and negative. It shouldn't be chaotic. It shouldn't be unpredictable. It shouldn't be wild and "crazy". It shouldn't be frustrating. It shouldn't cause anxiety. It shouldn't be somewhere you avoid. It's no place for disrespect, hostility, chaos, and negativity. Nothing about your home should make you feel trapped, cornered, hostile, and unhappy. It should be purposely designed as a place of happiness. A place free of negativity.

The one place you feel you belong. If your home isn't everything you want in a home, something needs to be done. Something needs to change. Whoever or whatever is causing the lack of peace needs to go. If it's a home you're sharing with family or roommates, find somewhere else to go or find a way to manage your money better so you can afford your own place. If it's your place, ask them to quit killing the peaceful vibe or go. Your happiness comes first and the quality of your living environment is more important than being afraid of hurting someone's feelings. For people with developed substance use disorders, including adults, families remain the greatest and most enduring source of emotional, practical, and financial support. Excluding families is bad for patients, families, and for clinicians who want to succeed. She was urgently concerned about her nineteen-year-old daughter, who had begun college in a New England city. An older brother, also living in the same city, had called to say that his sister, Andrea, was no longer going to classes. What's worse, she had a live-in boyfriend, a drug dealer, and they were using drugs and alcohol in what her brother described as a seemingly endless binge. The family was affluent; they had set up Andrea with a comfortable apartment near the campus, gave her generous limits on her credit cards, and paid her tuition and all the usual college expenses. But she was using their money to cover her deepening descent into addiction. Andrea did not suffer neglect or abuse as a child, nor did she live in a dangerous neighborhood. Her biological father likely had a mood disorder, perhaps bipolar illness, used marijuana heavily, and was emotionally volatile and threatening. Her mother was competent and devoted to her children, giving them opportunities to pursue their talents and dreams. The family was financially secure. While Andrea had the risk factor of mental illness and substance use in her biological family, her protective factors were substantial, likely keeping her from using drugs until she was away at school. These factors most likely helped tip the balance toward her recovery, but not right away.

Eleanor and I spoke over the ensuing days about her daughter, addictive behaviors, and where this might lead. We came to understand that Eleanor, as a mom, had two choices. One was to express great concern and try to reason with her daughter to get help and protect herself from the dangers of her behavior, while continuing her generous allowance. The other was to make ongoing financial support contingent on Andrea's getting treatment, working toward a clean and sober life, keeping a limited school schedule, and parting ways with those involved in drugs, including her drug-using boyfriend. The act of procrastination can be likened to how a cigarette smoker takes a smoke break because he "needs a time out." Just as cigarette smoking is a false option against stress, so is procrastination. In fact, the comparisons between the two are striking. After all, why do people smoke cigarettes? Well, first of all, it's a habit, just as procrastination is. Second, it provides people with the illusion of reducing stress, while at the same time, creating a dependency on cigarettes, which, as almost any cigarette smoker will say, causes stress. Similarly, the procrastinator seeks relief from his burden of stress by delaying work on his tasks. Later, with his task still hanging over his head, he not only feels regret over his decision to delay, but, more importantly, he perceives himself as a weak and ineffective person. Does the procrastinator then change course and tackle the awaiting project? Of course not! Without a track record of successful endeavors, he once again avoids confronting his feelings. So, the procrastinator develops a dependency on procrastination. Just as a smoker may require a cigarette after undergoing stress, when a procrastinator feels stress he tends to shut down; however, this itself is procrastination, which leads to even greater levels of stress. Over time, a person who possesses poor coping skills may adopt procrastination as his default method of stress reduction. Procrastination can become habitual when a person's initial response to a task is to shy away from it because he feels overcome or flooded by anxiety. This automatic response may provide temporary relief from anxiety; however, the more he avoids uncomfortable situations, the more uncomfortable he then becomes with anxiety. As a result, not "do"-ing becomes an automatic response to anything that causes distress.