We don't believe in these diets and counting carbs. Without carbs, we lose so many essential nutrients and fiber. Carbs also allow us to feel full. The nutrients in carbohydrates are essential because they provide us with the energy for day-to-day living. They give us our energy to get up and go. People gain weight when they eat carbs, for the most part, because the carbs they are eating are refined and highly processed, not the whole-grain carbohydrates they should be eating. When you eat whole-grain carbs, your body will tell you when to stop eating. You will feel full, content, and energetic. If we don't know where to start being fruitful, let's look at some suggestions that Dr Peterson gives us: Consider your circumstances. Start small. Have you taken full advantage of the opportunities offered to you? Are you working hard on your career, or even your job, or are you letting bitterness and resentment hold you back and drag you down? Have you made peace with your brother? Are you treating your spouse and your children with dignity and respect? Do you have habits that are destroying your health and well-being? Are you truly shouldering your responsibilities? Have you said what you need to say to your friends and family members? Whatever you feel, it doesn't mean you are a bad person or wrong. What's important is that you are able to talk about those feelings.

You don't have to know the sources of your feelings. But you can open your mouth and say, I'm sad. I don't know what's going on, but I feel sad or I'm so angry, I'm angry at everything. The more you verbalize what you do know and what you do feel, the sooner you'll be able to connect your feelings to their origins. It is usually early in the recovery process that the pain seems overwhelming, but it will pass if you are willing to identify and own it. Feelings are transitory; As intense as your pain can be, trying to control and defend against your feelings prolongs the pain. Allow yourself to own them and be with them. Let's talk about chemistry a bit. Carbohydrates can be broken into complex carbohydrates and simple carbohydrates. The simple carbs are mostly sugars. They are good for short bursts of energy but have no lasting effect. The more complex the structure of a carbohydrate, the longer it takes to break it down, which causes less rise in blood glucose (blood sugar) levels. This is the concept of the glycemic index. Foods that have a low glycemic index are more complex in structure--more whole-grain--and take longer to break down and, thus, raise your blood glucose to only a low level. Those foods high on the glycemic index, such as candy, chips, cookies, and other processed foods, are simple sugars and break down easily. Because low-glycemic index foods take longer to break down, they bring about a feeling of satiety faster than high-glycemic foods and with less drastic boosts in blood sugar levels. It is not only a food's ranking on the glycemic index that's important, though. Are there things that you could do, that you know you could do, that would make things around you better? Have you cleaned up your life?

In just one paragraph, you have a whole year's worth of action. And, while there is a lot to tackle in this paragraph of deep questions, he asks you to first consider your circumstances and start small. You may simply need to enhance what you already have. Start small by doing what you realistically can do. If you know you can't consistently do something on a daily basis, then why not weekly? Instead of starting something new, maybe you become more consistent with something current. Finding this out will only come through trial and error. In the first round of F6 goals, I found out which things I didn't care about, the things I did care about and the slight pivots to more successfully execute my plans. The following are some suggestions to begin this process of owning your feelings. Throughout the day or at a specific time every day, write about what you've been feeling. Make a list of feelings and carry it with you. Bring it out three times daily and ask yourself what you have been feeling. Share what you are feeling with someone you trust. Identify two affirmations that will support you in acknowledging your feelings. For example: I have the right to my feelings and My feelings help me identify my needs. People close off their feelings when they take shallow breaths. Check your breathing throughout the day and particularly at times of vulnerability. Take a deep breath in for three seconds, exhale slowly for three seconds; Food in its natural form provides a lot of fiber. Beans are carbohydrates but are full of fiber and water, so they take longer to break down.

Because they take time to break down, they don't cause the quick highs and lows that foods high in simple sugars, such as refined breads and sodas, can cause; These complex carbohydrates give us a measured amount of energy at all times. It gets a little confusing when we look at pasta. Pasta is a low-glycemic food, which is good, but it has minimal fiber. On the other hand, it is better than eating candy and cookies, which have a high glycemic index without any fiber and, therefore, are processed moderately quickly. Pasta is good and filling but doesn't have the fiber we need. While fruits are considered simple carbohydrates because they are primarily sugar, but they are good for us because they also provide us with fiber and nutrients. As you can see, not all simple carbohydrates are a problem. This is not a one-time activity. This is your life. In fact, after creating your first F6 goals here in the article, go through your F6 goals again two months from now. There's a Bible verse that backs up Dr Peterson's 6th rule in Matthew 7:5 that states, You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye. Multiplying fruitfulness implies that what's already there is fruitful. In what you're currently doing, are you really the best that you can be? For example, in the current job you work at, are you the best person there, or are you dispensable? But wait, what if you don't care about being the best at your job? What if this job is temporary because it makes you money? Sounds like your goal should be finding a new job! In time expand this to five seconds, five times. Recognizing Yourself in the Grief Process

A lot of what you are experiencing is the accumulation of many years of unacknowledged feelings related to loss and grief. Think about the losses you suffered because of your partner's sexual acting out. Some losses may include: The classic grief model encompasses a series of universal emotional reactions. The model always starts with loss, but from there it is not necessarily linear. It encompasses shock. You are numb to what occurred; Denial is only human. It is what we do to the foods, the processing, that is problematic. When we process them, they become simple, their glycemic index increases, and they lose their fiber: two negatives. Studies show that increased fiber is associated with decreased heart disease. The foundational complex carbohydrates are legumes, which come from plants. They have a low glycemic index and are high in fiber. Beans of any kind are excellent food choices. Consider kidney beans, black beans, navy beans, and pinto beans; There are so many vital ingredients in these legumes. They are rich in protein and high in potassium. Many contain a significant amount of magnesium and iron. That sounds like an amazing goal! Be like the minority of workers out there who ACTUALLY LIKE where they work.