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Volunteering was an obvious option, but the effective altruists said the benefits were negligible, especially if I was planning to do it during a limited time period, in which case I would do more harm than good since I would be taking up the valuable time of professional charity workers. As I was running out of options, I could only think of one thing: writing. To get some guidance, I met an old friend who worked in public relations. I explained that I wanted to do something good, perhaps investigative journalism. I could write about unscrupulous private companies looting the welfare system. You're born here as part of that journey. You live a certain number of years with the unique chance of developing your soul as a human being (emotions are catalysts for this). Your body dies. Your soul's growth continues to the next phase. The great news about this trek is that you have a lot more longevity than you probably thought. In the grander plan, we all belong to no-time and all time. During your short stay here (I know it can feel like forever sometimes), don't lose sight of how fortunate you are to have a body, with all its tribulations and reasons to cheer, because it helps the spirit grow in many ways. Perhaps emotions are tailored for mammalian physiology, are exclusive to this realm. I'd like you to appreciate the specialness of their role as springboards to freedom. Spirituality is a strength that can work for you. I ran away to Chicago. I moved back in with my mom. I started running the streets and listening to rap and gangbanging. I got kicked out of high school. My son was born.

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