People don't evaluate how they got there; they're just there. That passive approach is what I call the Popeye theory of life management: "I am what I am." It's an approach that asks no questions, seeks no answers, and leaves you stuck right where you are. It's an attitude that I flatly reject, and so should you. That is why I want to demystify every bit of your self-concept. My goal is to help you look inside the vessel. I want you to examine its contents, item by item. Together, let's find out what your self-concept is, and how it came to be what it is. If you care about your life, and if you'll commit to do the work required, this journey into you will be a fascinating revelation of being. That's a fancy way of saying, "You're not going to believe how little you know about who you are, and how much you're getting ready to learn about who you are!" A service is a chance to take a closer look at how things are performing. In Japanese Management System checks, cleaning is an example where we get to check machinery deep down. The human body can be the same. If you noticed lumps and marks on or in your body, something that appears to be a little different, it would be natural for you to do something about it. Take action, visit a dentist, if it is teeth. A doctor for lumps under the skin. What do you do when you find your brain, your mind, is a bit muddled? When motivation for life has gone out of the window? What would be the approach you take? If you are not happy with the machinery or your body, you have a solution you can choose to take. What is the solution for your mind? Imagine being able to change broken parts, update others, and fine tune the performance.

All that we require when actively seeking our purpose is an openness to experiencing joy and bliss. Rumi wrote that Everyone has been made for some particular work, and the desire for that work has been put in every heart.' By following our bliss and activating our passion, we allow the energy of our sparkle to carry us, in flow, through life. <a href=''>We</a> are encouraged to see that life can and must indeed be fun, and that we can and must enjoy ourselves unapologetically, freely and fully. <a href=''>Even</a> in the face of our greatest challenges, the chance always exists for us to find and grow our bliss. <a href=''>This</a> lighter, freer and more spacious take on life breaks free from old models in which our gains were seen as the result of our pains and struggles. <a href=''>Let's</a> embrace the notion that gains can be made through choosing joy. <a href=''>Through</a> less pushing and more softening. <a href=''>Less</a> striving, more ease and grace. <a href=''>That</a> we can arrive at the finishing lines of our greatest dreams not breathless and overwrought but sparkling with our fresh inspiration to go forward. <a href=''>Happiness</a> is not some elusive feeling or unattainable goal. <a href=''>Thanks</a> to real, scientific data, we now know what makes people happy in general, and how you can use your talents and strengths to achieve happiness in your own life. <a href=''>The</a> field of positive psychology was born in the late 1990s, when psychologist Martin Seligman encouraged his colleagues to begin researching mental wellness with the same scientific vigor they'd long used to study mental illness. <a href=''>The</a> focus was to learn how to make life more fulfilling and increase well-being. <a href=''>At</a> the same time, the field of neurobiology emerged and provided more clues as to what makes people happy. <a href=''>Research</a> using MRI and PET (positron-emission topography) scans has taught us a great deal about the brain states that underlie positive moods and how we can influence the brain through mental interventions. <a href=''>It</a> didn't take long for the interest in happiness to make the jump from the lab to the general public. <a href=''>In</a> 2000 only fifty books on the topic of happiness were published; in 2008 the number jumped to four thousand. <a href=''>Positive</a> psychology workshops began popping up across the country. <a href=''>Currently,</a> one of the most popular classes at many universities focuses on findings from positive psychologists about how to live a happy life. <a href=''>Even</a> the Dalai Lama has written about the importance of happiness; two of his books on the subject were released in the 1990s; the third one came out in 2009. <br /><br /><a href=''>The</a> main argument of these books is that the purpose of life is to be happy. <a href=''>He</a> asserts that happiness is not a hobby or trivial pursuit, it is a basic, fundamental human drive. <a href=''>Why</a> are these levels important? <a href=''>Answer:</a> Because I don't want you to make the mistake that being aware of how you coped makes you less worthy of compassion. <a href=''>Even</a> if you "knew what you were doing," you need to develop empathy for the pain you were trying to handle. <a href=''>And</a> if you didn't "know what you were doing," there's no reason to shame yourself. <a href=''>You're</a> going to understand more and more the "why" of this particular coping strategy as the healing process continues. <a href=''>Whether</a> you were aware all along, or you're just beginning to become aware, you can accept where you are now and go forward. <a href=''>No</a> matter what type you identify with, you likely deny the extent of the damage that your perfectionism has created--unless you've become terribly despairing or even suicidal. <a href=''>Denial</a> is the opposite of awareness. <a href=''>And</a> you've been in a heap of denial. <a href=''>As</a> you begin to confront your own denial, you may have different emotional responses to reading that your arsenal of choices may not act in your best interest. <a href=''>Ultimately,</a> I want to empower you to walk out of your history. <a href=''>You</a> hear people say things like, "You've got torise above your raising,' " or "You can't be a prisoner of the past," or whatever. But those sayings are too general and abstract to be of much use. They demonstrate why I say the self is often discussed and seldom understood. It may be more helpful to think of the mechanics this way: The past reaches into the present, and programs the future, by your recollections and your internal rhetoric about what you perceived to have happened in your life. I recognize that that's a mouthful. But I don't want you just to "blow by" a truth that is so fundamental to your understanding of your own self-concept. In order to get the most from the chapters that lie ahead, you'll need to be familiar with the formula.

"Stacking" the individual elements may help you to see them better, and to bring each one into proper focus: Looking at this formula, you'll have some idea of the roadmap we'll be following. You'll see that if you're serious about rising above your raising--if that is going to be an action-filled step in your life, rather than just a trite expression--you'll need to get really honest with yourself about what that raising was. You will need to be candid and thorough about what your past contains. You'll want to account for the significant events, and your memories of them, that have entered your self-concept. You do happiness; it is an action word. You cannot be handed happiness as if it were a solid object. It is not something you can go and purchase at a supermarket. It originates from the Norwegian word hap, meaning luck. You could do years of research on what you should be doing to stay in good health, and much of it will conflict; even information labelled as scientific research. It really was not long ago that mercury tooth fillings were standard, fluoride in water was good for you, asbestos was in every building, smoking was regarded as harmless, cocaine was sold in a popular drink, and sugar is still in most manufactured food! The basic principles I am sure we can agree on are: exercise is healthy and your nutrition is important, water even more so. I wish to include breathing in and out as really important. Not just doing it, more how you do it. Today I aim higher. Like a beautiful flower in bloom, my petals reaching up into the sky, I see myself blossoming too. I allow myself to merge into higher energy now: to feel the feelings I wish to feel, to see myself the way I wish to see myself. To know myself in the way I wish to know myself, and to gift myself my own approval, for which I so deeply yearn. No matter where I am right now in this very moment, I know that my spirit is free. My spirit is sparkling. Breathing on I sense myself blossoming effortlessly.

I grant myself permission to rise now like a flower towards the sky, knowing that I am ready to grow. As I blossom I see myself happy, healthy and fulfilled. I see myself radiant, confident and at peace. In elevating my vision, I elevate my spirit now. The beauty I can see within and around me, I create. I capture a clear vision of my most radiant self, and I keep this picture firmly and safely within. In this picture I am flourishing, joyous and alive. I know I may merge into this graceful vision of myself at any moment, gathering magical courage and energy with which to rise up, sparkle and shine. It might seem odd to lump happiness in there with other basic needs, such as food and water. After all, happiness is somewhat vague and subjective; what makes one person happy might not necessarily work for another. But there are some criteria when it comes to determining what makes people happy and why. In my work, I've come to understand happiness as the point at which you can handle the ups and downs of life without becoming too attached to the good or victimized by the bad--when you can keep an open heart, be compassionate toward others, live in the moment, and be fully present as you carry out your day-to-day activities. You are happiest when you feel that your life is purposeful and that it makes a difference--be it in the life of your child or in the world at large. Finally, creating a life that is full of activities that are surprising, dynamic, and fun contributes significantly to happiness. Whether you win the lottery or become paralyzed by a spinal cord injury, you will tend to be, on average, no more or less happy a year later. Despite the occurrence of positive or negative life events, people generally return to their baseline levels of happiness relatively quickly. Can money buy happiness? Research shows that having enough money is crucial to happiness. Financial stress can stand in the way of enjoying life; having enough money to alleviate this stress can go a long way toward increasing your happiness. However, more isn't necessarily better.