I believe that you have a special place in the order of life, a particular role to fill. And yes, it is one filled with vision, passion, and power. So hang on and get ready to get way more consciously into your own life. Don't feel selfish or egotistical because you are saying, "I want more!" If you were fully in touch with your authentic self, you wouldn't be apologetically thinking, Hey, it's just me--no big deal. You would be thinking, Hey, this is my life we're talking about, and I want my shot! I want to star in my own life. If you are not quite ready to say that yet, then trust me enough to let me say it for you. The degree of your yearning is proportional to the size of your intention. The bigger the pictures you make in your head, the clearer the voices and the impact they have on you, the more intense the feelings and, if relevant, tastes and smells too. Let your imagination soar. You were already doing an excellent job in creating your depression or anxiety or both. Use that highly developed tool you trained to practise something anew. Something purposeful and positive for you and those around you. Observing our culture of comparison we realise that constantly measuring ourselves against others is not only futile, it is making us deeply unsettled. We can never walk a day in someone else's shoes, nor are we meant to. What other people do is their creativity, their expression, not ours. We are here to respect, support and learn from one another, not to compete and compare with one another. We are here to live unique, authentic and joyous lives - to enjoy and honour our sparkle and to allow others to do the same. When we truly see ourselves in each other, touch even for a single moment upon our shared humanity, the senselessness of our competition and comparison with one another becomes palpable. By nurturing respect and appreciation for ourselves and each other, we can move forward together in true creativity and peace.

No one's sparkle should dull our own, nor should our radiance dull others' light. When we stop comparing and uplift one another instead, choosing to take joy in each other's joy and actively celebrating each other, we set ourselves and one another free at last. As Rumi reminds us, we are born with wings. Why do we prefer to crawl through life? Indeed, we were not born to struggle and suffer. We are here to be loving, creative human beings. The lifelong pleasure of sparkling is found in setting ourselves free to love, enjoy and affirm our lives and ourselves, moment to moment. There could be no greater gift than this, nor a more wonderfully satisfying way to live. What makes one person happier than another? Believe it or not, it may have as much or more to do with genetics than your current life status. There are three primary factors that determine how happy a person is, according to happiness researcher Sonja lyubomirsky, PhD. Her research indicates that 50 percent of individual differences are genetic. Studies of identical twins suggest the blueprint for happiness is in our genes, so if you come from a family that tends to be more happy and cheerful, you probably will be, too. How we think and what we do--our actions and behaviors as well as our outlook--account for 40 percent of individual differences. And only 10 percent can be attributed to a person's life circumstances, such as where you live or what your job is. A study from the Journal of Happiness Studies supports her research: The study's authors asked people to report various acts of recent positive changes in their activities (such as starting a new fitness program) versus positive changes in their circumstances (such as moving to a nicer house). The researchers discovered that activity-based changes accurately predicted well-being both six and twelve weeks after the start of the study. Circumstance-based change predicted well-being only at six weeks. It appears that by the twelfth week, individuals had already adapted to their circumstantial changes, while the benefits of their activity-based changes continued to contribute to greater contentment. The take-home message: What matters more in terms of happiness are the small decisions you make each day.

The bigger things--your life circumstances, which are often harder to change--have a fleeting and less significant effect. That also means that even if you got shortchanged in the genetic lottery, there's still a lot you can do to live a happier life. In fact, a full 40 percent of your capacity for happiness is completely in your hands. It's those everyday decisions you make that can infuse your life with more happiness and joy. So what kind of choices do you need to make to increase feelings of satisfaction and well-being in your life? Use the plan below to live a happier, more purposeful life. Let me offer myself as an example. I've been very open about having anxiety--to be specific, a panic disorder. I'm a student of mindfulness with much still to learn. But I've been trying to be more mindful--to simply notice my anxiety but stay in the present and allow it to be, rather than hating it or fueling it with fear. My particular panic causes my legs to shake. The other day, in a crowded, hot boutique, the shaking began to happen. I could feel adrenaline start to make my heart beat faster. Instead of freaking out, feeding the panic with the thought, I bet this is going to lead into a big panic attack, I simply noticed my legs. I said to myself, Hmm... it feels like my legs are starting to shake. I didn't heap fear or shame on it. And the panic, as well as its symptoms, slowly faded away. Mindfulness attends to the present. It doesn't focus on what just happened, or what's going to happen, but what is happening.

Right now. Like anything else you practice, the more you practice staying in the moment, the sooner it can become a new pattern, a new behavior, and a ready option for you. Let me offer myself as an example. I've been very open about having anxiety--to be specific, a panic disorder. I'm a student of mindfulness with much still to learn. But I've been trying to be more mindful--to simply notice my anxiety but stay in the present and allow it to be, rather than hating it or fueling it with fear. My particular panic causes my legs to shake. The other day, in a crowded, hot boutique, the shaking began to happen. I could feel adrenaline start to make my heart beat faster. Instead of freaking out, feeding the panic with the thought, I bet this is going to lead into a big panic attack, I simply noticed my legs. I said to myself, Hmm... it feels like my legs are starting to shake. I didn't heap fear or shame on it. And the panic, as well as its symptoms, slowly faded away. Mindfulness attends to the present. It doesn't focus on what just happened, or what's going to happen, but what is happening. Right now. Like anything else you practice, the more you practice staying in the moment, the sooner it can become a new pattern, a new behavior, and a ready option for you. In turn, you've got to acknowledge your responsibility here. Every silver lining has its dark cloud in the middle, and this one is no exception.

It's a great deal to have the opportunity to enhance your life, but I'm not just saying that you have the right to do it; I'm saying that you have a responsibility to do it. You have a responsibility to maximize the opportunity. Choosing to live reactively and passively, instead of taking the initiative to discover and actively live true to your authentic self, cheats you, the world, and everyone in it. It particularly cheats those with whom you directly share your life. Failure to fully connect with and live out your best qualities means that your sons or daughters, your husband or wife, your family and friends, settle for some second-best, counterfeit you: your fictional self. In essence, you have a duty because it is true that to whom much is given, much is expected. Whether or not you feel like it right now, I promise you that you have been given much. So guess what? From you, much is expected. Effectively living your unique and authentic self demands that you maximize all of your distinct attributes. Bottom line: Maximum results demand maximum you! Your job is to find, plug into, and live consistently with your core, authentic self. The first step in that process is to become intimately acquainted with your self-concept. So you have some indicators for where you are. A short insight into Where am I?' These are just indicators. <a href='http://steam.obunko.com/If-you-don-t-know-ask-someone-or-search-online-1517140875.html'>That</a> question ofWhere am I' is in a better position than when you began this journey. At the very least, you have made a start in understanding how you feel about each of these subjects. Take your time to identify your location! Where do you stand and what are you standing for? By now you have prepared yourself to start accepting A Life Without Fear.