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Prices are constant, so a cup of coffee will cost the same in either world. What about you? In which of these worlds would you choose to live? Usually, over 50 per cent of the audience would prefer to live in the first world. This is consistent with academic studies that have been carried out many times since the question was first posed at Harvard University in 1998. The reason why a large proportion of us prefer to live in the first world is that we not only care about our ability to consume, we also care about our position in the social hierarchy. Not respecting your home and expecting everyone else to as well ruins the environment. It ruins the peace you've designed your home to have. It ruins the point of having your own domain with your own rules. It ruins the positive energy. It ruins the safe space provided for yourself, your family, guests, and even, pets. It's not ok to disrespect your home just because it's yours. Follow the same rules as everyone else. Be the example. How you treat yourself is how you treat your home. If you don't care about and respect yourself enough to take good care of yourself physically, mentally, and hygienically, it's easy to assume you don't respect your home either. If you don't care about your personal appearance, it's safe to assume you don't care about your home's appearance. Designating specific areas in your home for specific purposes keeps your home structured, clean, calm, and free of confusion. The more cluttered, chaotic, miscellaneous, and weird your home is, the more cluttered, chaotic, and weird things are in your mind. Logically, eating and drinking anywhere in the home, except for the kitchen, dining room, and dining table, is unacceptable.

Food and liquids don't belong on the couch, in bed, or in the bathroom. It's just sloppy and weird. The living room is to "live". It's for entertainment. It's where you hang out. It's where you spend time. It's not for eating on furniture. Couches, loveseats, recliners, etc. are for your butt, not your feet. They're not dining areas. The dining room and dining room table is not a storage room or storage rack for papers and boxes. For nearly two months, the family, with my involvement, struggled to decide. In their hearts and minds, they knew that they would get nowhere with pleading and hanging their hopes on false promises. I thought they should opt for contingency: offer to pay for all that was in Andrea's interest (such as school, treatment, a home free of criminality), but halt her credit and then rent if she did not get with the program. But that carried the grave risk of its not working, as well as their having to brace themselves for their daughter's possible explosive reaction. I was open with my opinion but explicit that they had to decide and be able to live with the outcome should it be catastrophic. Her parents soon realized that time was not on their side. Addiction carries with it daily threats, and longer-term risks of physical disease, toxicity to the brain and harm to cognitive capabilities, and messy legal problems. I supported the decision to set clear and supportive limits and deeply hoped it would work. Steeling herself, Eleanor visited Andrea to confront her in person.

After some difficulty finding her, Eleanor expressed a love that could not stand by and watch this self-destruction. Eleanor laid out the rules for support and a plan for treatment that we had set up in advance. Andrea's first response was not a surprise; we had rehearsed for that moment. I had asked Eleanor to practice with me what she would say when her daughter accused her of not loving her, as I imagined she would. How could Eleanor not get undone, give in, or get angry? She needed to say many, many times that she loved her daughter, and that love was at the core of what Eleanor was doing. I had asked Eleanor what she would say when her daughter said she hated Eleanor. Nothing may have been the best answer, but it is truly hard to be silent at a moment such as that. I had asked how Eleanor would respond to the pleading, to more of the same promises. It might be hard for her to not be curt and say she was tired of the same story--or that she had been disappointed too many times. What she needed to say was she believed in Andrea and thought the way to rebuild was the one Eleanor was asking her to take. I asked what Eleanor would say, and feel, if her daughter threatened to never see her again or, more frighteningly, threatened suicide or something otherwise dangerous. Each of these likely and heartrending emotional assaults called for not giving in, and not trying to bargain. This was going to be hard. Eleanor's conviction and faith in doing what was right had to steady her. Some people become habitual procrastinators as a means of developing a protective mechanism against emotional overload. One root of their procrastination grows out of the concern that their tasks will be mentally trying or physically exhausting. They fear their tasks will drain whatever precious reserves of emotional energy they may have left, the ones that their overactive minds haven't already depleted from worrying. Procrastination then becomes habitual, and can escalate to the point where practically all tasks seem too difficult. Here are some typical causes of emotional overload that we may procrastinate over: You put up with poor health, and delay visiting the doctor over concerns of being diagnosed with a serious illness.

You put off balancing your checkbook out of worry that it might not contain as much money as you would like it to have, or because you become easily flustered at the thought of the totals not balancing up. After receiving your annual statement of earnings from the Social Security Administration you find errors in it, but postpone writing to them because you dislike dealing with large governmental agencies. You apartment is a mess. The windows need cleaning, the carpet hasn't been vacuumed in months, and the bookshelves need dusting but you're concerned that you won't have enough energy to do it. In one 2013 study looking at reported loneliness in over sixteen thousand adults ranging in age from eighteen to over one hundred, reported loneliness tended to peak around the age of thirty and decrease slowly until it started rising again when people were in their sixties and seventies. This basically means that loneliness (and depression) can occur at any age, though the reasons are often very different, depending on the particular stage in life. It also means that the methods we use to cope with loneliness and depression as adolescents or young adults aren't necessarily going to work as well when we are middle-aged or older. And the depression we develop can be very different depending on the kind of life problems we are experiencing and where we are at a particular stage in life. For adults over the age of sixty-five, for example, the symptoms of geriatric depression, as it is known, can often be triggered by a growing sense of loneliness and often be confused with other medical problems such as dementia. While major depression appears to be much less common in seniors than it is in younger individuals (affecting as little as 1 percent according to recent studies), including other mood disorders raises the total number even higher (as much as 4 percent in women and 2.7 percent in men). While these figures may not seem that alarming, the fact remains that people over the age of sixty-five represent the fastest growing population in the United States alone. In fact, one study suggests that two-thirds of all humans who have ever reached the age of sixty-five throughout history are still alive today. This means that the medical costs of dealing with new cases of geriatric depression may make it the most expensive medical condition to treat by 2025, if current trends continue. Researchers looking at geriatric depression have also found that symptoms of depression are much more common in people over the age of seventy-five as they become more depressed due to developing other serious health problems. This is also the reason why we try to imitate the consumer pattern of people who are richer than we are. At the same time, the availability of credit has made it easier to imitate a lifestyle we cannot afford, and this, together with our desire to keep up with the Joneses, has been listed as one of the explanations for the financial crisis of 2008. In other words, we are spending money we don't have to buy stuff we don't need to impress people we don't like. However, trying to signal that you have wealth is not a recent phenomenon. Back in 1899, the American sociologist Thorstein Veblen coined the term `conspicuous consumption', which describes the phenomenon of buying luxury goods in order to publicly display your wealth to attain status. Veblen had noticed that a lot of the then nouveau riche Americans spent a great deal of their fortune on signalling how rich they were.

This is the reason why some people today spend $15 million on a gold iPhone with six hundred inlaid white diamonds and fifty-three more diamonds for the Apple logo on the back. Apart from signalling how much money you have, it still does what a normal iPhone does and Siri still doesn't understand what you are saying. However, if you think that is extravagant, let me tell you that Aristotle Onassis had the bar stools on his luxury yacht, Christina O, upholstered with leather made from the foreskins of whales. So, if you ever feel bad about your indulgences, just remember that one of the world's richest men once spent a fortune on whale-foreskin bar stools. The point of it all is that, if we spend our money on stuff we don't need to impress people, we are not getting closer to happiness, we are just getting involved in an arms race. That is why we would all be better off if we all put a lid on the bling. The bedroom is for sleeping and sex. It's not an entertainment room where you sit in bed all day and watch TV and play video games. Hanging out in your room all day is kind of weird. The garage isn't a storage room. It's to park vehicles. If you can't park vehicles because of stuff being in there, find somewhere else to put the stuff or throw it out. Storage rooms / attics are to store things. You shouldn't have boxes and storage containers piled up in closets, bedrooms, bathrooms, the kitchen, in the garage, or underneath beds. If you're not using it right now, get it out of the way. Hoarding is terrible and unhealthy. 100% of the things in your home need a place so you never lose and misplace anything. You know what you have, where it goes, and its location at all times. It's smart and makes everything easier. All items, keys, wallet, money, etc.