Continue to follow and observe your breath. Knowing exactly how your gifts and skills work will help you maintain a balanced life as you help others in their moments of need. That being said, there are other factors that are important to consider and focus on when it comes to your emotional intelligence and how to handle your own feelings, not just the emotions of others. Part of the problem with being an empath and being able to download someone else's emotional state, or life drama, is that you end up out of sorts and far away from your own true self as a result. These kinds of issues lead to a whole chain of difficult emotional processing moments that can be confusing when you don't know where your feelings are coming from. In the end, it is up to you to decide how to embrace your gifts and empower yourself by learning how to master your emotions, improve your emotional intelligence, and overcome any fears that you may have about who you are and what you are capable of. The real reason you are here is to learn these skills and tactics while developing your gifts to be more beneficial for you AND other people. While you have been reading this article, you have learned all about how challenging it can be if you are a true empath, someone who can sense, feel and occasionally interpret the emotions and thoughts of another person, or group. You have also learned the impact of this on your own energy, thoughts, and emotions and that if your skills are not met with discipline and development, you will fall into cycles of anxiety, depression, and a lot of unwanted feelings absorbed form other people's energy and experiences. You can practice empathy in a healthy way, and even if you aren't the true empath, and you are just learning about how to lead a more empathic life, emotional mastery is how you can act on that reality and become better equipped to identify your own emotions as well as you can relate to someone else's. There are quite a few helpful things to understand and practice in this article, but first, we need to go over what some of the emotional challenges are so that you can understand, recall and relate to the difference between emotional intelligence and emotional disruption. I worry that something serious may be going on! Margarita was a financial analyst in her late 40s. For the past few years she had been gaining weight, struggling with thinning hair, and watching her skin start to sag. My husband is a wonderful man, she told me, and we used to have a great sex life. Lately, I can't even imagine having sex with him. Libido? What's that? And I've put on so much weight lately--what if I just keep getting heavier and heavier? Worst of all, sometimes I walk into a room to get something and I don't even remember what I came in for!

But when I went to my doctor, she just told me that most of these changes are an inevitable part of getting older. Bring your awareness to your upper abdomen and ribcage, feeling the areas open and soften. Then do this for your chest and then your neck and throat. Bring your awareness to your shoulders. Feel their heaviness melting into the surface. Do this with your upper arms, then the lower arms. Wiggle your fingers, flex and relax them, letting go of any tension there. Now bring awareness to your head and face. Feel the tension and then let it melt into the surface. Feel the calm now in each part of your body. When you scan your body from toe to head and you feel an area of tension, imagine that area relaxing. As you get better equated with the skills of the empath and are familiar with the ways that these gifts can go in the opposite direction of good, you are aware of the ways that it can be a problem to your own emotional well-being. The problem is not that you don't understand emotions, or that you lack the capacity to feel any empathy for someone else; the issue is not knowing when to let someone else's feelings to be theirs, and let your feelings to be yours. The benefits of empathy have already been shown to you, but when you are disengaged with practicing healthy emotional boundaries and awareness, then you fall into unconscious traps that can lead to difficulties down the road. In truth, we rarely recognize that we are absorbing someone else's stuff and it isn't until we get home and settle in for the night that we realize that we haven't felt normal since that conversation with the boss earlier that morning. So why do these things occur in the first place? Many people, not just empaths, are not given the proper emotional tools when we are young and adolescent. There certainly are plenty of adults in the world who were modeled effective tools to understand and process their emotions, but not all of us can say the same. For some people, it even feels impossible to identify what you are feeling in the first place, let alone why you are feeling that emotion.

The basics of emotional mastery are detailed in the next sub-article, and they will show you how to handle these situations in a more effective way. Is this really what I have to look forward to? For all three of these women--Sasha, Celeste, and Margarita--imbalanced hormones were a very real problem. PMS, menstrual cramps, and perimenopause were playing havoc with their energy, their mood, their psyche, their appearance, their weight, their professions, and their sex lives. These women had gone to their health-care practitioners for help but they hadn't really gotten any. Instead, they'd been given the message that nothing was really wrong, that the problems they faced were just a normal part of a woman's life. Thank goodness this isn't true. PMS, painful periods, and a difficult transition into perimenopause are often the result of a hormonal imbalance. When your hormones are balanced again, these problems can disappear. And balancing your hormones is surprisingly simple. You'll be amazed to discover you can do this through a combination of diet, herbs and supplements, lifestyle, and psychological support, in some cases complemented with some gentle bioidentical hormones. When you have scanned your entire body, go back to the breath for 10 more minutes. Now slowly wiggle your fingers and toes. Begin to stretch your arms and legs. Open your eyes slowly. Gradually come to a sitting position. Try to carry the momentum of your mindfulness into whatever your next activity may be. Be awake to the blessing of the air flowing in and the air flowing out. Accept each in-breath as the beginning. Accept each out-breath as letting go.

Walking meditation is a simple practice. Bringing your emotions into the spotlight hasn't always been approved of, historically. In fact, there is a bit of a stigma, in a variety of cultures, that if you show or express your emotions, then you are weak. So many people, men, and women alike have taught themselves or learned how to be stoic, lacking an ability to resolve any of their emotional baggage. This emotional baggage is inheritable. This means that if you are born into a family that hasn't learned emotional intelligence and mastery, then you will learn from them not to understand or process your emotional self. This can obviously lead to a large list of mental and emotional problems later in life, which causes people to distrust their own emotions or their lack good judgment when serious feelings present themselves for understanding and healing because it is what they learned from their emotionally unintelligent caregivers. We are not always unhappy, even when we are not as adept at processing our emotions. In fact, it is part of the human experience to learn through your journey, relationships, and a variety of situations. We cannot know everything all at once, and that is why being able to learn emotional mastery and intelligence right now is such a powerful and positive part of your growth path. Everyone is looking for an answer of some kind, and for you reading this article, the answer is all about learning why we have emotional challenges when we are empaths and how to relearn ways to understand our peers, as well as ourselves. Now at this point, you may be wondering why, if these problems are so real and the solutions are so simple, your own health-care practitioner hasn't already given you this information. The answers to that question are not so simple. So let's take a closer look. You're gaining weight, feeling off, and are frequently tired, irritable, and moody. During the week before your period, you may be subject to cravings, bloating, mood swings, weepiness, or anger. The week of your period, you get cramps and perhaps heavy bleeding. If you're in your 40s, you may be noticing more frequent problems with memory, focus, and mood, not to mention weight gain, sex drive, and what feels like the loss of your sensuality. Your health-care practitioner may tell you that hormones fluctuate so frequently that it isn't worth testing them. If you are tested, you might be told that your estrogen and progesterone levels are in the normal range so there's nothing to worry about.

Or your practitioner offers to prescribe the birth-control pill or some antidepressants. It is learning to be aware as you walk, using the natural movement of walking to cultivate mindfulness and be in the present moment. Choose a place where you can walk comfortably back and forth, indoors or outdoors--at least 10 to 30 paces in length. You may experiment with the speed on your own, walking at whatever pace keeps you most present. This practice is done for any length of time that you wish. Begin with your feet firmly planted on the ground. Let your arms and hands rest easily. Close your eyes for a moment, centering yourself, taking a few deep breaths. Feel yourself standing on the earth. Feel the pressure of the bottoms of your feet on the ground. Feel the sensations of standing. With it stemming from a long history of emotional issues, the whole world has seen the rise of psychoanalysis and various forms of talk therapy that have produced a wide range of theories and concepts about the human experience and why we have the emotions that we do. Some people will try to avoid having any negative feelings at all, stating to themselves that it is better to work toward having a life that only involves happy feelings and joy. These two emotions are wonderful and feel good, but negative emotions can actually be very important teachers. If you banish your own challenging feelings that come up, then you never give yourself a chance to honor them and why you have them, making it impossible for you to resolve them. How can you have emotional intelligence if you don't allow yourself to experience and understand ALL of the feelings you have? Emotional avoidance is common among all people, and we certainly go through varying degrees of it in our lives. Why? Why do we choose to avoid our more uncomfortable and challenging emotions? Fear is a very powerful emotion, and it has the capacity to take over the reins of your life while you sit in the passenger seat biting your nails.