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Lots of people work hard. Lots of people slave day-in and day-out at their jobs and never seem to advance to better opportunities. Andrew Carnegie treasured his education and continued to build up the bottomless chest of wisdom. This is also important when trying to save the world. He started with free education in his hometown in Scotland, but he didn't settle for that. He read whatever he could, and continued to advance with his personal education. Because of this, his intellect expanded and gave him the insights and aptitude to make wise decisions about his future. He knew that moving to the railroad industry would lead him to more prospects for a wealthier career than working as a telegrapher would. Another prevalent combination of addictive behaviors is violence, drugs/alcohol, and sex. The violence component nearly always has its roots in a childhood that included parents or caregivers who were alcoholic, physically violent, and/or sexually abusive. In some cases, the child received affection only after being abused or after a family fight. Thus, for that person, violence and affection (sex) are paired. It may be that as a young boy the addict listened to his parents arguing and heard the physical abuse as his father literally threw his mother around the bedroom. In his powerlessness as a young child, he found comfort in masturbation. Today he cannot get an erection unless he fantasizes about something of a violent nature while listening to music with violent lyrics. When addiction is ritualized, each manifestation feeds the other and intensifies the addictive cycle. To keep from merely switching addictions and to support a healthy recovery, the addict must identify and address all his forms of addictions as well as the internal source of his pain. Today, addiction specialists recognize that having multiple forms of addiction is interactive; When you are doing that well, there's nothing else you can think of and you're interacting with and responding to someone else. It's the same in jiujitsu, where there's an immediate penalty for any type of distraction or daydreaming.

You'll get arm-barred or choked. There's incentive, punishment, and reward. You don't want to get choked again, so you change your behavior and learn to focus. Start thinking about technology as a tool that you use for solving a problem. It's very easy for us to consider technology to be only something with a digital readout or something that is cutting-edge. But in nature, it's as simple as a stick that a chimpanzee pokes into an anthill. The most effective piece of fitness technology I've ever used is a notearticle and pen to record my workouts. I'll then take photographs of each article using Evernote, so that I can search them for terms or dates or workouts. He didn't just work harder and expect to be rewarded for showing up. He actively sought opportunity. If we want to solve problems in our world, we must actively seek opportunities to do so, instead of purely staying in our comfortable lane. That's a third aspect of Carnegie's ability to grow wealth. As a telegrapher, he kept up with who the influential people were in his town in Pennsylvania. He fastidiously continued to maintain connections with these wealthy individuals. It was because of this that he found the opportunity to receive 400 volumes of education for free from Colonel James Anderson. Later in his career, because of his employment and consistent success at the Pennsylvania Railroad Company, Carnegie would stay connected to his wealthy bosses (Thomas A. Scott and John Edgar Thomson) for them to invest in multiple companies that Carnegie would establish. The only reason those two men would be willing to associate with Carnegie is due to his discipline, hard work, intellect and continued success as their employee at the Pennsylvania Railroad Company. If you cut off or treat just one branch of a diseased tree, it does not necessarily heal or get to the root of the problem. Whether there are dual or multiple forms of addiction, each manifestation is a primary issue, and each needs to be addressed simultaneously.

Even though not all sex addicts are addicted to alcohol and other drugs, all reputable sexual addiction treatment programs strongly advise abstinence from alcohol and any so-called recreational drug use since any use is a disinhibiter. These substances weaken a person's judgment to the point that one cannot remain committed to healthy boundaries, which are a part of recovery from sex addiction. They can strongly influence a relapse into addictive thinking, which sets up the addictive behavior. Any process or behavior that interferes with the ability to be honest deserves attention--whether it is addiction or an otherwise, self-defeating behavior that doesn't support healing and recovery. Depression and Anxiety It is common for addicts to experience underlying depression and anxiety as a consequence of both biology and traumatic family histories. In addition to a generalized anxiety disorder, post-traumatic stress often underlies addiction. These co-occurring mental health disorders may be substance-related but very often are their own primary issue. After an ACL sprain, I wanted to get back into shape and focus on some combination of maximal and relative strength. I looked back at my notes and found an eight-week period from 1996 when I was focused very heavily on squats, dead lifts, and close-grip bench presses. If I knew I was applying a proper stimulus but wasn't improving in performance, then I'd just add more rest days. For each new workout, I'd put the number of days since I'd done the same workout. In doing so, I was able to identify the proper stimulus for my recovery abilities. Now, after the ACL sprain, it's just plug and play. I'm taking that exact same recipe from 1996 and applying it, and I've made a huge amount of progress. I've lost around ten pounds of body fat and increased my strength dramatically--and that's just in the first, say, three to four weeks of training. I had that plan available because I'd taken the time to record my workouts properly. Take time for daily present-state awareness training. At 24 years old, Carnegie was given responsibility for an entire division of the Pennsylvania Railroad Company, which at the time was one of the first big businesses in the United States. Think about yourself at 24 years old.

Could you manage an entire division of one of the largest companies in the United States at the time? I couldn't even manage my own dishes! It was because of these intense years of developed intellect and pursuit that he was able to become a huge philanthropist, himself! Historical records show that during his last 18 years of life, he donated over $350 million (in 2019, this would conservatively be $65 billion), to organizations that would revolutionize how Americans develop and expand their knowledge. With reading alone, he built 3,000 different libraries, and is the very reason why libraries are so prominent in our country. Up until just the past several years, people were using these libraries as their main source of accumulating knowledge. Can you imagine how many lives Carnegie has been able to help just by granting people free access to all of these libraries? That's what you call saving the world. Like multiple manifestations of addiction, depression and anxiety often go unrecognized for many years. It is not uncommon for a sex addict to seek treatment for substance abuse, then ultimately for his sex addiction, and then without a substance or behavior to give him false esteem or to medicate, his underlying depression and anxiety become much more apparent. While we all know the typical symptoms of depression are apathy, lethargy, and feeling blue, it is not uncommon, particularly for men, for depression to be expressed as blatant hostility and unmanageable anger and rage. The symptoms of undiagnosed disorders such as depression and anxiety can be masked and managed through patterns of addictive and compulsive behavior. I am not the kind of guy who thinks of himself as depressed, but in my recovery from sex addiction I was still acting out with explosive anger and really rageful behavior. My size, words, and loudness are intimidating, and I used them. A therapist suggested antidepressants, and I had learned to be open to suggestions from those I respected. To be honest, I was shocked by the recommendation, but now it is apparent that alcohol and sex just covered up this depression. My anger was always close by, always ready to protect me. So depression was just more and more apparent without my other fixes. You have to operate in the past, present, and future to be a fully functional human, but I've recognized that driven, type A personalities like me are very future-focused. We're very good at setting and achieving objectives, but if you never enjoy the process, if you can never celebrate the small wins, you're never going to be able to appreciate and celebrate the big wins, either.

If that's the case, what's the point of setting all these goals in the first place? As Lao Tzu said, If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. I've found meditation helpful in making me more aware of my present thoughts and state. Simultaneously you're training yourself to sit and do nothing, which allows you to appreciate when you have to do anything. The best example of this comes from the article The Miracle of Mindfulness, in which Thich Nhat Hanh writes about the mind-set most of us would be in if we decided to reward ourselves with a cup of tea after we finished doing the dishes: If, while washing the dishes, we think only of the cup of tea that awaits us, thus hurrying to get the dishes out of the way as if they were a nuisance, then we are not washing the dishes to wash the dishes. Did Andrew Carnegie have troubles in his business? Did Carnegie have employees who hated him or thought he worked them too hard? In fact, on more than a couple occasions, there were worker strikes that took place within his companies. With any business leader or anyone who aggressively pursues a goal, there will be enemies and adversaries. But, Carnegie explains in his article, Gospel of Wealth, why the accumulation of wealth is helpful and important for contributing to society, and saving the world. This, then, is held to be the duty of the man of wealth: To set an example of modest, unostentatious living, shunning display or extravagance; There's a Reason Why Heroes Are Heroes Carnegie was a young kid who worked harder than anyone else, studied harder than anyone else and worked valuable connections better than anyone else, in an obsessive pursuit of excellence. There's a burning fire passion, or a dragon energy, as one of my bosses calls it, to not settle for poverty any longer. He saw any opportunity that was worthwhile and attacked it at full force. Today I still have some inappropriate anger, but that is not so related to depression as just a lifetime of being quick to use anger, and it's my first defense. But treating my depression has made a world of difference that I never would have identified as an issue for me.