You are on the starting blocks. The gun has just gone off. What can you see, smell, hear and touch? Perhaps there is a taste in your mouth. If the offended party doesn't speak up regarding this issue, the manipulative habit will not only continue but will have been strengthened. Not all situations like these are salvageable. This is particularly with the last manipulative tactic of temper tantrums and violence. In such circumstances, it may be advisable to break up with the propagator as there is no telling what he might do next. As stated in the first article, there is a lot of manipulation that goes on in the familial setting. Parents manipulate their children all the time and vice versa although the reasons for doing so for both groups are often varied. often than not, manipulation by parents on their children can be regarded as positive. This is because they are almost always done for the benefit of the target. However, in rare situations, malicious manipulations can occur in this dynamic. For example, there was a mother who was arrested for trafficking cocaine by using her son as an unsuspecting mule. You ain't on it. Afterward, I quickly tore up my list of reasons for not doing well. Then I got a fresh piece of paper and put one word across the top: Me. There's a Negro spiritual that says it all: It's not my mother nor my father nor my brother nor my sister, but it's me, Oh Lord, standin' in the need of prayer. I used to blame everything outside me for my lack of progress until I found that my problem was inside. It's not what happens that determines the outcome.

What happens, happens. And it happens to everybody. Two brothers have an abusive, alcoholic father. One becomes a criminal, the other a judge. gets valuable information needed to manage and guide the child to success and comfort. When injured, children are asked, Where does it hurt? so that proper treatment can be planned and executed. To increase the likelihood of accurate labels, the verbal community rewards labeling that is accurate and discourages non-responsive, vague, or inaccurate labels. Labeling can be very precise, as in the color of a clear sky (blue) or the name of the orb in the night sky (the moon). Labeling can also be less available to the listener, and therefore more vague, as in the feeling of anger inside a person when unfair events happen. Think of how helpful this verbal learning is to social interaction: you ask a friend how a chemistry professor's class is, are told it was unfairly hard, and that your friend received an F. You thank your friend for this important information because you can now avoid the hardship of organic chemistry and take that more desirable computer graphics course you've had your eye on. This is why parents teach children accurate labeling from a young age by asking questions such as, What is this? while touching the child's nose and displaying much happiness when the child who is becoming increasingly verbal says, Nose! It appears likely that testosterone replacement also improves focus and cognitive performance in some men. There is also some research that suggests that testosterone replacement reduces the risk of Alzheimer's disease. Your goal total testosterone level should be 500-1000 ng/dL (probably closer to 1000) and a free testosterone level of 6. 5-15 ng/dL. Homocysteine - Homocysteine is a byproduct of amino acid (protein) metabolism. When you eat large amounts of foods high in the amino acid methionine, like beef, turkey, fish, pork, eggs, and nuts, you may increase your homocysteine levels.

You then convert the homocysteine into harmless substances using vitamin B12 and other B vitamins. Some people are also genetically prone to elevated homocysteine levels. High levels of homocysteine can increase your risk of heart disease and Alzheimer's disease. Your goal homocysteine level is 6 umol/L or less. Facial Expression Does Not Reveal the Cause Remember that we can see the feeling, but we cannot see the reason for it. Othello forgot about this when he interpreted Desdemona's fear as an admission of guilt. Looking into the face of another person and noticing an unkind expression, you should not immediately think that he is angry at you. Maybe he is angry at himself. Or recalls the situation that once angered him. In order not to make wrong conclusions, you just need to make sure that you are the cause of the interlocutor's feelings. Do not tell him that you noticed his condition (evil). It is better to immediately think about the response to this behavior. Later, I will elaborate on how to respond to a particular feeling. Be specific: if the track is brown, what shade? For how long can you hear the echo of the gun? Who are the other runners? You are halfway through the race and have just taken the lead. How exactly is each part of your body feeling? Are the crowd cheering?

Is the stadium full? You win the race. By how much and from which other strong competitors? Does the crowd erupt? She was successful all the time because the young boy never raised alarm with the airport security as a potential offender and was therefore never subjected to extra scrutiny. She was discovered only by chance when a neighbor raised suspicions of the activities of the lady as a potential drug dealer. The police raided her apartment and confirmed the neighbor's suspicion. Her involvement of her son in her illegal affairs only came up for the first time during her trial and sentencing. The boy admitted that he sometimes carried things for her mother only when her purse was full or for safekeeping. Put this in your pocket baby and don't you let anyone see it or know you have it. She would say, Some very bad people want to steal it from mommy. At least that was what the lady told her son whenever she wanted to use him like a mule. Like was the case in this example, it is very difficult to pinpoint when our loved ones are manipulating us for their own good. This is because we are blinded by the love and trust that we have for them so that even when it is clear for all others to see the guile, we still live in denial of the evident truth. The same event -- different results. How can that be? It's because it's not what happens but rather what you and I do about it that matters. Anything can happen, right? I've heard all the stories; I've been one of these stories.

We could all tell war stories for days on end . Have you heard of Murphy's Law? Murphy has this law that says, If anything can go wrong, it will. And it does! Accurate labeling allows the members of the verbal community to have information they would not have unless you gave it to them with your labels. It makes their influence on you stronger and more consistent. How Do Requesting and Labeling Relate to Lying by Victims of PTSD? After long histories of being rewarded for requesting and labeling, people often learn that a disguised request gets more rewarded and less punished than a direct one. A man looks at his expanding belly in the mirror and says something that appears to be a label: I'm getting old and fat. His wife responds in a concerned manner by saying, No, honey, you still look great! While the form of the man's verbal behavior is a label (describing himself as fat), the response it has gotten in the past has been the wife's reassurance that his body remains attractive. These, you will recall, are the three parts of the requesting process. What looks like a label--the man describing his body--functions as a request to reduce his insecure feelings. Something of the same process occurs when a PTSD victim is asked to label his/her trauma. ApoE4 - This test is optional and has some ethical implications, but you should consider it if you're concerned about your risk for Alzheimer's disease. The ApoE4 gene is considered the strongest genetic risk factor for the development of Alzheimer's disease. Here's the deal. You inherit one copy of the APOE gene from your mother and one from your father. Thus, each of us has two copies of the gene. APOE gene has three flavors, ApoE2, ApoE3, and ApoE4.