Make a list of ten items you are currently grateful for. Then a list of five items you wish you could have in your life right now. When people have had bad things done to them over the course of their lives, they tend to respond by doing bad things to other people. They become the pain that someone else inflicted upon them, the pain that they hated. That's one of the key reasons why forgiveness is so important--it's essential to break out of this cycle. the hurt go allows you to move beyond the hurt, and we're going to talk more about that momentarily. now, though, I want you to spend some more time thinking about the people who have hurt you. an excellent chance that every one of these people has suffered some serious damage of their own. Maybe they were abused or bullied. they let the wrongs in their lives fester inside of them. Maybe they were neglected or filled up with hate by people who were supposed to nurture them. Because they have these things in their past and they probably haven't done their own forgiving, they impose the damage they've suffered on others. The key is to refuel, recharge . Remember what Isaac Newton said: A productive body in motion tends to stay in productive motion. That's why you should . Step 7: Take productive breaks, not relaxation breaks. Momentum is everything on an EPD (and on every other day). Don't take a walk or watch a little TV or check out your friends' latest humblebrags on Facearticle. You will definitely need to take breaks, but those breaks should reinforce your sense of activity and accomplishment. Pick a few productive tasks you like to perform--and gain a sense of accomplishment from--and use those for your breaks.

Spending even a few minutes in the land of inactivity weakens your resolve. Step 8: Take your breaks at a counterintuitive moment. Fake it at your peril. You can show it 'til you grow it at work, at home, with clients, and with friends. Take that spark inside of you, that only you know exists, and start to show it. That spark will get the oxygen of attention, love, and respect, and it will grow. You'll win, but more important, you'll win without losing yourself. Amy Cuddy is well known for her research on body language and faking it 'til you make it. She encourages readers to do a power pose before a big interview, and allow that pose to give us confidence. I agree with the posing, but not with the faking. Amy's research supports the idea that when you show the confidence you have inside, that confidence can't help but expand. You simply can't fake it 'til you make it. Go ahead and write that right now, I will wait. Okay, are you ready for the next step? Choose ten of the fifteen items that stand out to you the most. Write them out like this: I am grateful for the abundance of fill in the blank. When you have completed that, read on to the next step. Here we go, now that it is all written out, read each one out loud like this: I am grateful for the abundance of love, thank you, thank you, thank you abundantly! Feel the words in your heart as you say them and take time to see what each one might look like.

Feeling it in your being does make a difference, and missing this step takes away an opportunity for you. In all honestly, fifteen minutes should be the time you allow--at least five minutes to recall and truly feel what you are grateful for. And you happened to wind up in their sights. That doesn't in any way make what they've done to you right. But it does make it a little bit easier for you to understand and maybe even relate to. In fact, there's a pretty good chance that you've even been on the other side of this yourself. Go back to the times you've hurt someone else, even if it's painful to think about. Can you trace the pain you inflicted back to a hurt you'd previously received? If so, it might help you to understand how you got hurt in the first place. Again, I'm not making excuses for what was done to you. I'm just giving you some important context. Empathy is a precious tool, and it's one that you want to use as often as you can, not just here but everywhere in your life. When you take a break, don't stop when you complete a particular task. Stop in the middle. That approach works in the middle of an EPD or at the end of a workday. The key is to take a break--or end the day--by leaving yourself a fun place to start back up. Stopping in the middle of doing something awesome--or stopping right before you'll start doing something awesome--ensures you'll avoid the temptation of procrastination. Stopping short ensures you'll ignore all the enticing distractions that inevitably pop up when your motivation has flagged. Stopping short allows you to instantly focus and concentrate when you resume whatever you were doing. won't be able to help diving right in because you'll be too excited, and that initial enthusiasm will positively affect the rest of your day.

Here's an example. Say you're Kevin Jarre and you're writing the screenplay for the movie Tombstone. Real results take real input. Find what you have that's real, and start there. When you show something that's real, you will get what you need to make it grow. When you show the real you, even if it's hard to do, the real you can't help but eventually prosper. Show it 'til you grow it. The resulting wins will amaze you. No one can hurt me without my permission. You have to learn to object. Sooner or later, you're going to have to stand up, use your voice, and set your boundaries. Even for a trial lawyer, it's not always easy. I add in the word abundance every time to help my subconscious learn and understand that I am seeing the abundance in the world and want that for my life. Thank you abundantly for taking the time to read each of these articles. As an empowerment coach for the sexually abused and traumatized, I lovingly support anyone who wishes to create a life they love. I am abundantly grateful for you, and all that you do, have done, and will do for yourself and others in your life. You are amazing and deserving! You are worthy! JamieLynn is attuned to Reiki, an artist, illustrator, graphic artist, wife to an amazing man, and mother of two wonderful children. Yet this simple act of being happy for what we have in our lives gets pushed aside daily, hourly, and many times by the minute by fear, sadness, or whatever emotion might overtake us.

Our feelings take over, and once again, we ride the rollercoaster that we allow to become our routine. But oftentimes, the most unexpected moment can help us find gratitude and realize the gift we have with each breath and beat of our hearts. Put yourself in the other person's shoes and understand that he was probably carrying a legacy of hurt forward, and if he had only understood how important it was to forgive, maybe the chain would have ended before it ever got to you. Once you see it that way, you can begin the process of moving on from the hurt you received because you can begin to see it as something other than pure malice. And while we're looking at this hurt from the other person's perspective, here's something else to keep in mind: there's a really good chance that the other person knows exactly what she did to you. Sure, there are some people who are so used to treating people badly that they might not even remember doing something bad to you specifically. For the most part, though, when something bad goes down between two people, both of you know what happened. And there's a good chance that both of you were affected by it in some way. That's another reality about the way people touch each other's lives for good and bad. When you've hurt somebody, you know, right? Yeah, it's possible that somebody out there is feeling a lot of pain over something that you don't even realize you did to that person, but for the most part you know. There's even a good chance that you feel bad about doing it. It's late in the day and you just finished writing the scene where Wyatt Earp tells the bedridden Doc Holliday (played by a movie-stealing Val Kilmer) that he needs to leave for a showdown with Johnny Ringo. Wyatt knows he's no match for Ringo. Doc does too. Doc desperately wants to help but is obviously too sick. As Wyatt leaves, it's clear they know they will never see each other again. If you're Kevin, should you then jump right into writing the next scene? You should save it for tomorrow--because that scene opens with Ringo noticing a shadowy figure walking out of the trees . To our (and Ringo's) surprise, it's not Wyatt.