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I am positive. We tend to feel overloaded and overwhelmed. We tend to get distracted and not accomplish the things we need to. Simplifying and organizing are ways to deal with these problems, or even better, to avoid them. Focusing on doing one thing and forgetting about the rest simplifies the moment. I try to avoid over-committing or over-volunteering. I learned to say "No". I ask myself, "Is this the best use of my time?" Rules and habits help me to minimize the number of decisions I need to make. We need to make life as easy and simple for ourselves as possible. There are a lot of little things that are minor inconveniences or annoyances, and often these are also time wasters. If we can identify these problems as problems, instead of just accepting them as a normal part of life, something to be put up with, we can devise strategies and make our life better. Often, when I finally recognize a problem and then a solution, it's so obvious that all I can say is "Of course!" (You may picture me slapping my forehead.) Here are some examples of problems that are trivial, but add up and make life more frustrating than it has to be. I am thankful. I am grateful for wisdom. I am healed. I am a whole person. I am worth it. Having things that you want to do and achieve - having goals and aims - can give you a positive path to follow. In fact, working towards goals both requires and develops optimism and positivity. Write down something you'd like to do; something you'd like to achieve.

It could be a short-term goal; something you want to achieve in the next few days or weeks, or a longer-term goal; something you want to achieve in the next few months or years in your life. Maybe it's to do with your health; you might want to lose weight, stop smoking, take up running, be able to walk up a hill without being out of breath. It could be something you'd like to learn or improve; playing a musical instrument or learning a language, for example. I arise before my wife, and try to dress quietly in the dark. I put on yesterday's clothes; I will exercise and shower later. At night I get into bed, then take off my socks and throw them towards the chair where my clothes are. So the next morning, I start my day with the small hassle of trying to find the other sock in the dark. Except I didn't identify it as a hassle; I didn't really think about it. I just kept searching for the sock. Then one morning, I had a brilliant idea. Now I put one sock into the other (Of course! Duh!). I also aim, so now the socks are always to the right side of the chair. Of course there are many alternative solutions to this problem. I could put the socks down by the side of the bed instead of throwing them, or I could put a small flashlight on my bedside table. You can probably think of others, but I'm very happy with this one. Just put one sock inside the other before I throw them! And aim. It works! The point here isn't to tell you what to do with your socks, or to say that this is the right solution to this minor problem; it's about learning to recognize that something is a problem.

Then you can think of a solution. Maybe it's something to do with work - change career, work freelance or run your own business, do some voluntary work, work abroad, return to study. Perhaps you want to travel; visit New York, Cuba, Asia, Australia or New Zealand. It could be that you have a problem to be solved; you want a cleaner, tidier home, to manage a difficult person, leave a job, a university course or a relationship. Or maybe you want to write a book, join a band or a choir, win a talent show, feel more confident, make new friends, do something creative, grow your own vegetables, decorate a room in your home or sort out a box of family photos. Do you tend to rest too much? It may be especially difficult for you to get going. This tends to be harder if your mood is low, or if you are afraid of getting injured again. Try finding a pleasant activity that you still do even if you feel very unwell, such as watching TV, having a snack, or checking social media. You can use this activity as a reward for doing other, more challenging activities. For example, you might "earn" 15 to 30 minutes of TV time by doing a small part of a chore. Do you tend to do too much activity? It may be especially hard for you to stop working before you are done a task. Try using reminders to stop, such as an alarm, or a cue from a support person. We have two stamps for putting the return address on envelopes. One is for us and one is for my office. They are identical in appearance (the outside of the stamper, not the message) and we keep them next to each other in the desk drawer. So every time I wanted to use one, I would have to stop and figure out which one was which by looking at the stamped end, which wasn't so easy to see. Again, there are many obvious solutions to this minor frustration: keep one on the left and one on the right, or on opposite sides of the drawer, or even in different drawers. Again - Duh!

But once I realized it was A Problem, I found the magic marker and wrote my initials on the side of mine and always place it with that side up. Saves ten seconds of minor frustration twice a week. Those seconds add up and we certainly don't need any more frustration in our lives, thank you. If you feel uncomfortable with free time, you might find breaks stressful due to a strong urge to keep busy. Try thinking about rest as an important and productive activity that will help you to pace yourself so you can accomplish more in the long run. If you miss chances for rest because you can't decide what to do, try keeping a list of enjoyable but restful tasks with you. I am rich. I am worthy. I am the purity of love's desire. I am a magnificent beam of light. I am resilient. I am so glad to be me. With persistence, we can come up with a solution. I like berries on my cereal in the morning. Usually we have several plastic containers of different kinds of berries. I would take them out of the refrigerator, set them on the counter, and get ready to rinse the berries and put them on my cereal. I'd open one container and get out some berries, but I'd have trouble opening the next container while holding the berries in one hand. I'd get the next one open and then I'd have more berries in my hand. It's pretty hard to close those plastic containers with one hand. Then I really hate it when I knock over a container and the berries roll off the counter and go all over the floor.

Blueberries - now those suckers can roll! I am unique and special. Barry knows that he's grown a great deal over the last six months. Even now, Barry feels capable of handling a bit more than he could only a few weeks ago. list. Although this is not something that he does each and every day, the more that Barry accomplishes, the stronger he feels--which just happens to be the complete opposite of the very last characteristic of procrastination listed in Chapter Four: As Procrastination Grows Stronger--The Procrastinator Feels Weaker! It's safe to say that Barry has come a long way. list, one that could speed him along his way as far as writing is concerned: by combining similar items. If you have something specific you want to do - a clear goal such as to write and complete a novel in the next two years, or to run a marathon next April, then fine. But if it's more general - to travel, to be happier, healthier, to get on better with your sister, then for the moment, that's OK too. (The next step - identifying your options - will help you identify how, specifically, you could achieve your wider goal.) If your goal is an issue or problem that you want to deal with, think about what the result or outcome will be once the problem has been solved. What do you see yourself doing? For example, if the problem is university and you want to leave, then, for you, the outcome of leaving university might be that you will be working to save up to go travelling. Or, if you want to get on better with your sister, what will you both be able to do that would confirm that things have improved between you? Once we recognize and identify something as a problem, we can make a strategy. Life can get simpler and simpler. Back in the old days two friends enlisted in the cavalry. They each were assigned their own horse and they were trying to figure out how to tell them apart. They decided to put a ribbon in the mane of Joe's horse. That worked for a while but soon the ribbon was pulled off as they rode through the brush.