In addition, I now know that part of the reason behind my not wanting to deal with steps that were complicated or tedious was because my own impatience often got the better of me. In the last few sections of this chapter, we've looked at some of the negative thinking patterns many procrastinators have. When these patterns work in conjunction with each other, procrastination can become a habit that can eventually grow to the point where the procrastinator sees himself as less than an adult, while at the same time, his tasks seem almost to overshadow him, as though they've become larger than life. With all this in our way, it might seem impossible for us to accomplish any of the older tasks that we had long abandoned; however, there are some conditions when we will deal with them, such as when we'll pay our electric bill to avoid having the lights shut off. When a habitual procrastinator puts off a task, it's often because he has told himself, "I can't do it," and the more he thinks that, the more he believes it. Just as the more often you do something, the more likely it is to become a habit, the more often that you put a task aside, the less likely it is that you will want to deal with it. If this continues, it becomes easier and easier to keep on not dealing with it, than to otherwise face it. For this reason, returning to a task can easily escalate into a conflicting ordeal, because the tasks that we allow to linger can often begin to take on a power of their own. In other words, the longer that we put off a task, and the more false starts we attempt, the more internal resistance we'll feel towards that task. Electrical engineers have a special name for internal resistance--they call it "reluctance," which, coincidentally, fits habitual procrastinators to a tee. Though cyberbullying has become especially prominent over the past few years due to our growing dependence on social media, most bullies will use more than one form of intimidation on their victims. While most commonly associated with school-age victims, bullying can occur just about anywhere, including in work settings, prisons, military bases, and so on. Since many victims of bullying often have difficulty proving what is happening, filing a report with school authorities or police often fails to stop the harassment. This can lead to significant emotional problems for most bullying victims due to the sense of helplessness and paranoia that can develop with time. Cases of victims committing suicide or developing serious mental health issues or substance abuse issues are hardly uncommon. The role that bullying can play in the mental health of adolescents is especially serious, as it often occurs at a time when young people are still developing their own sense of self-esteem and social competence. Undermining this self-esteem and isolating victims from the support of friends or family often leads to a sense of helplessness; social anxiety; and, in many cases, a "no way out" mentality. Research studies examining the effects of chronic bullying on adolescents have consistently shown that all forms of bullying can lead to increased risk of depression as well as suicidal thoughts and attempts. Young people bullied in school are also prone to academic problems as well as have a greater likelihood of dropping out of school to escape harassment. Though most research to date has focused on verbal and physical bullying, high-profile news stories of adolescents committing suicide due to cyberbullying have demonstrated the kind of impact it can have.

Creating a business from scratch is hard work. I</a> am poor, but I am happy. <a href=''>And</a> yes, I work far more than I would in a normal job. <a href=''>But</a> I would not trade this for any other job in the world. <a href=''>The</a> biggest change is that you are your job. <a href=''>I</a> am not a mother, then a director, then a girlfriend, then a friend. <a href=''>I</a> am Veronica. <a href=''>All</a> the time. <a href=''>That</a> is what makes me so happy.' And Veronica is not alone. <a href=''>According</a> to the World Happiness Report, the self-employed are worse off in many ways, including income, hours of work and job security, but even so, they often report higher levels of overall job satisfaction than do the employed, at least in OECD countries. <a href=''>Why</a> are entrepreneurs in OECD countries happier than employees, but not in all poorer countries? <a href=''>The</a> answer lies in the reason behind the decision to become an entrepreneur. <a href=''>Did</a> we start our own business because we wanted to - or did we start a business because there were no opportunities in the regular labour market? <a href=''>So,</a> yes, the self-employed often work more hours than the employed. <a href=''>And</a> yes, perhaps we also need to sleep on friends' couches more often because money is tight. <a href=''>But</a> we are also happier. <a href=''>At</a> least, that is what the studies show. <a href=''>The</a> self-employed report not just higher levels of job satisfaction but also higher levels of life satisfaction. <a href=''>Another</a> reason is that the self-employed are a weird bunch. <a href=''>We</a> are more optimistic than others. <br /><br /><a href=''>One</a> of us started a business that sells Serenity Dog Pods. <a href=''>However,</a> it is also clear that when people go from regular employment to self-employment, they report higher levels of life satisfaction. <a href=''>Why?</a> <a href=''>Entrepreneurs</a> have a greater sense of purpose, of direction in life, but studies also confirm the widely held notion that greater freedom and the opportunity to be your own boss are sources of happiness both at work and outside work. <a href=''>"Wise</a> men, when in doubt whether to speak or to keep quiet, give themselves the benefit of the doubt, and remain silent." - Napoleon Hill It's often said, "Those who talk the most know the least and those who talk the least usually know more than they let on." This is hundreds of years of wisdom packed into one sentence. <a href=''>Wisdom</a> that gets you very far in life. <a href=''>Wise</a> men listen and fools never stop talking. <a href=''>Anything</a> of low value is cheaper and more abundant and anything of high value is more expensive and rare. <a href=''>It's</a> limestone compared to diamonds. <a href=''>Talk</a> is cheap and worthless if it's too abundant and extremely valuable when you use it sparingly and don't give too much of it away. <a href=''>Those</a> who use words sparingly are more likely to be listened to and those who can never stop talking are often ignored. <a href=''>It's</a> far better to hang back, be observant, and collect the information you're looking for than to be talking so much you can't hear the answers to your questions over the sound of your own voice. <a href=''>In</a> any social interaction, those who talk the most are losing. <a href=''>They're</a> giving all of their power away. <a href=''>They're</a> not learning. <a href=''>Those</a> who are quiet and listening are the ones winning. <a href=''>They're</a> collecting social power. <a href=''>They're</a> collecting information. <a href=''>They're</a> revealing less about themselves and keeping power. <a href=''>Not</a> only does listening display self-control, but it makes you more likable. <br /><br /><a href=''>People</a> enjoy being around you more because sometimes they just want to hear themselves talk and enjoy you listening without judgment. <a href=''>It</a> communicates you value their words and perspective more than your desire to hear yourself talk. <a href=''>When</a> you make anyone feel this special and important, they like you, want to be around you, and are more willing to help you in any way you want. <a href=''>When</a> on leave from my psychiatric residency for alternative military service, I spent two years in rural, impoverished northern Maine--in Aroostook County, about eight hours by car north of Boston and near the Canadian border. <a href=''>For</a> a good part of my stay, with only eighteen months of psychiatric training, I was the only psychiatrist in this vast and hurting county. <a href=''>I</a> had three populations of patients: Anglicans, farmers mostly, some of whom were of Mayflower stock; French Canadians who lived on the US side of the border with Canada and did a fair amount of the forest logging; and a number of Native Americans from tribes living on reservations across the county. <a href=''>(I</a> also treated members of the US Air Force and their families at Loring Air Force Base, now defunct, but that's another story.) One day, when rounding at the community hospital where I ran ten inpatient psychiatric beds (sharing the same floor as pediatrics!), a Native family of adults arrived and wanted to see me, likely from either the Mi'kmaqs or the Maliseets, who predominated in the region. <a href=''>The</a> Native Americans kept their distance from the white people, even in medical matters, so it was a surprise for a Native family to show up and ask to see the psychiatrist. <a href=''>The</a> aide brought four people into an examining room located off the shiny hospital corridor. <a href=''>One</a> man looked in his fifties, while the rest--one woman and two more men--appeared to be in their twenties. <a href=''>One</a> of the younger men was highly agitated, with his eyes darting around the room and full of fear. <a href=''>The</a> others tried to calm him, but it didn't help much. <a href=''>Only</a> by surrounding him did they keep him from bolting. <a href=''>If</a> any single characteristic or trait of habitual procrastination has led to feelings of frustration and bewilderment, impatience is it, because it causes its sufferers to feel as if "there's never enough time to get things done." While one might believe that this phenomenon is caused by today's faster pace of life, over two hundred years ago the British poet Edward Young wrote, "Procrastination is the thief of time." Impatience led me to believe that no result would be good enough, and that the results of anything I did would always be second-rate. <a href=''>At</a> the same time, I also believed that by doing nothing I was protesting my situation, like a lone wolf of sorts, fighting authority and responsibility. <a href=''>However,</a> the truth is that I was only prolonging my own agony. <a href=''>As</a> previously mentioned, even the worst procrastinator occasionally completes a task, if only because he's been forced into action by the potential consequences of the situation. <a href=''>With</a> little serving as motivation except the threat of penalty following completion of a task, how does the procrastinator feel, and what does he tell himself? <a href=''>Does</a> he grasp the bathroom sink with both hands and say to his own reflection in the mirror, "You did it! <a href=''>I</a> always knew you could!" Or does he try to avoid his reflection, and if so, what do you think he tells himself then? <br /><br /><a href=''>One</a> of the peculiarities of habitual procrastination is the "I just can't win" factor. <a href=''>After</a> all, if you believe that most every task will be fraught with agony and will produce dismal results, then why even try? <a href=''>Why</a> is it that habitual procrastinators often feel this way? <a href=''>One</a> possible reason is that we have developed an unreasonable expectation that we should feel satisfied and content for most, if not all, of the time. <a href=''>Boredom</a> and struggle do not fit in with an otherwise idyllic and carefree life. <a href=''>However,</a> while we would all like to bask in the warm glow of feeling satisfied for most of the time, if we make this a pre-condition or expectation, we run the risk of occasionally being let down by a certain force, most commonly known as: reality. <a href=';'>But</a> bullying doesn't just lead to psychological problems for victims. <a href=';'>Recent</a> studies looking at the role of bullying on physical health have shown that victimized young people are at risk for problems such as insomnia, headaches, gastrointestinal problems (including ulcers), and respiratory problems. <a href=';'>This</a> is largely due to the impact of stress, which can lead to a compromised immune system, hypertension, greater production of stomach acid, and other health issues. <a href=';'>A</a> 2017 study looking at over eleven thousand European adolescents reported an overall prevalence rate of 9.2 percent for physical bullying, 36.1 percent for verbal bullying, and 33.0 percent for relational bullying. <a href=';'>While</a> victims of physical bullying are at the highest risk for suicide, any bullying victim should be considered at risk for suicide. <a href=';'>This</a> is especially true if they are dealing with other problems such as depression or a perceived lack of support from parents. <a href=';'>There</a> were also gender differences in the kind of bullying experienced (boys were more likely to be physically bullied while girls were more prone to relational bullying). <a href=';'>As</a> for the long-term effects of chronic bullying, many adults who reported being bullied when younger reported symptoms that persisted well into adulthood. <a href=';'>Not</a> only are victims of chronic bullying more prone to mental health problems such as depression and social anxiety, but they can require treatment to deal with posttraumatic stress as well. <a href=';'>Not</a> only is bullying a pervasive problem among young people in particular, but the rise of the Internet and popularity of digital communication tools has provided bullies with even more tools to use in targeting victims. <a href=';'>Since</a> cyberbullying is usually anonymous, seeking legal protections against this kind of harassment is often difficult. <a href=''>Entrepreneurs</a> hardly ever have enough free time, but they do experience plenty of freedom: the freedom to pursue a passion; the freedom to say no to a client; the freedom to schedule work around the needs of the family. <a href=''>I decide where I am when. Having small kids makes it difficult to focus on your career - but being an entrepreneur allows you to design your daily life differently.