You will probably adjust the lighting first as this makes the most profound difference to a space. The dimmer and darker the better. You might be arranging battery-operated tea lights around the room or lighting candles at home. You might have a string of fairy lights to put up. Then there's sound and smell. Perhaps you have a playlist to play or positive affirmations, or a familiar guided relaxation. Then maybe you're spritzing the room with a scented room spray. You're also making sure that Mum feels comfortable, that she is wearing comfy clothes with which she has positive associations, that she feels relaxed and at ease, and, finally, that you're offering her drinks and snacks so that she remains hydrated and energised. This might seem like a lot but if you work through the five senses as a checklist it can be done in a few moments after arrival at a birth centre or hospital. And if you're at home there's no need to wait until things are established to create a happy, tranquil space conducive for relaxation. But did you know that Mother's Day was invented by Anna Jarvis in 1907 as a tribute to her mother, Anna Reeves Jarvis? Yes, Mother's Day was truly founded by a woman! In the 1850s, Anna Reeves Jarvis organized groups of women in West Virginia called Mothers' Work Day Clubs. These women provided medical and nursing care to the poor, inspected milk, and created shelters for children with tuberculosis. When the Civil War broke out, Mrs. Jarvis called together women's clubs from both sides of the war, asking them to work together to save the lives of all soldiers--their sons. Following the war, Mrs. Jarvis created Mothers' Friendship Days to bring families together who had been torn apart. In 1915, President Wilson honored her work by declaring the second Sunday in May as Mother's Day. Julia Ward Howe, an abolitionist and author of The Battle Hymn of the Republic, embraced the day and called on all women to make a statement following the outbreak of war in France and Germany.

It's a way of sort of closing the door and saying, Yeah, she's going to make it. <a href=''>Still,</a> Erik continued searching for the meaning in everything that had happened: I'm grateful she's alive, he thought on the eve of her third brain surgery. <a href=''>I</a> don't know how much more of her I am going to get back. <a href=''>Where</a> is the good? <a href=''>He</a> found it when Kate came out of the surgery. <a href=''>The</a> two of them were in the recovery room. <a href=''>Kate</a> was still woozy from the anesthesia when a series of visitors began arriving at her bedside. <a href=''>The</a> first person to come was a doctor. <a href=''>Kate,</a> you wouldn't remember me, he said. <a href=''>I'm</a> the admitting physician who was in the emergency room the day you came in. <a href=''>Finally,</a> we come to the fourth cycle, known as Kala Yuga, in which only a handful of people are experiencing higher states of consciousness. <a href=''>According</a> to Ayurveda, this is our current age. <a href=''>But</a> even in Kala Yuga, the average life span is supposed to be a hundred years, so most human beings are not even reaching their full potential in Kala Yuga. <a href=''>This</a> stage is sometimes referred to as the age of darkness because people are experiencing such a small fraction of their vast mental and physical potential. <a href=''>Critics</a> may dismiss these theories as part of mythology, but as Joseph Campbell, the distinguished explorer of mythology, once said, Mythology contains more truth than history. <a href=''>Mythology</a> expresses the greatest aspirations, desires, and ambitions of the collective imagination. <a href=''>The</a> time may be coming when we can fulfill these aspirations. <a href=''>The</a> theory of collective consciousness states that if just 1 percent of people were experiencing higher states of consciousness, there would be a completely different expression of society. <a href=''>Everything</a> would change: the crime rate would plummet, hospital admissions would fall, and people would live healthier and longer lives. <a href=''>After</a> billions of years of evolution, life is beginning to divulge its innermost secrets. <br /><br /><a href=''>Ideally</a> this is the first job the birth partner does, because, as I've said before, the surroundings have such a huge impact on the mum when in labour. <a href=''>By</a> packing a few choice items in advance you have the power to change a setting in a matter of minutes. <a href=''>For</a> example, a brightly lit, sterile, hospital room can be quickly transformed into a romantic and intimate candle-lit space that smells of essential oils and sounds like a spa, where Mum rests on a cosy blanket, eating her favourite treats. <a href=''>Very</a> swiftly it becomes a blissful place where you want to be, a place where you enjoy being and a space in which you can relax, let go and birth a baby. <a href=''>Next</a> up, after setting the scene, your job (birth partners! <a href=''>This</a> means being physically by her side, but also letting her know you are on her side and will advocate for her if necessary and protect the space. <a href=''>If</a> Mum knows this, and has a birth partner she can trust, she can allow herself to be vulnerable and relax further. <a href=''>A</a> mum who is anxious about who will advocate for her, who is worrying about the environment and the job list and who will do what, will struggle to fully let go and relax. <a href=''>So</a> be the kind of birth partner that makes Mum feel safe; <a href=''>From</a> this point on, you're focusing on supporting and coaching Mum through the surges. <a href=''>Why</a> don't mothers of mankind interfere in these matters, to prevent the waste of human life of which they alone know and bear the cost? <a href=''>As</a> men have often forsaken the plough and the anvil at the summons of war, let women on this day leave the duties of hearth and home to set out in the work of peace. <a href=''>Howe</a> believed that although the world may be divided because of war and conflict, the experience of childbirth could bind together the mothers of the world. <a href=''>She</a> hoped that the world could be united as one family. <a href=''>Celebrate</a> your own mother. <a href=''>Host</a> a dinner or a brunch, and invite your brothers and sisters and their kids, too. <a href=''>Shower</a> your mom with compliments and gifts fit for the queen that she is. <a href=''>A</a> basket of bubble bath, soaps, and a gift certificate to a day spa will let her know you think she rules and deserves to be pampered. <a href=''>Write</a> a poem that shares how much you care. <a href=''>Make</a> a article and include a list of all the things you love about her and memories that you cherish. <br /><br /><a href=''>Moments</a> later, a nurse came by: Kate, you would not remember me, but I was the nurse who was there when the original operating team came and started working on you. <a href=''>Kate,</a> you wouldn't remember me, another guest said, but I was the chaplain on duty when you came in and I spent time with your parents. <a href=''>Kate,</a> said the next person, you wouldn't remember me, but I was the social worker who oversaw your case. <a href=''>Kate,</a> yet another said, you wouldn't remember me, but I was the nurse on duty the second or third day. <a href=''>It</a> was, Erik recalled, a parade of smiling faces. <a href=''>The</a> last visitor was a nurse named Nancy Strong, who had overseen Kate's stay in the intensive care unit over the summer. <a href=''>I</a> pulled her aside and said,You know, I think it's great that you are all coming by to wish Kate luck. But there's something else going on here, isn't there? Yeah, Nancy said, there is. What's going on? Biological intelligence carried in the genetic code has created a human being that is now capable of exploring its own origins. Modern scientists, unraveling the human genome, are deciphering the alphabet of life. We all hope that with this new technology we will better understand and intervene in illness and aging. Technology itself is neutral--it is neither inherently good nor bad. How we use technology is a reflection of our collective consciousness. As the science of genetics evolves, we may be able to substantially extend life and ensure that more and more people are able to live out their full potential. It is critical that we raise our awareness so we can collectively make choices that are most evolutionary for individuals, the human species, and the global ecology. Jonas Salk, the great biologist and developer of the first polio vaccine, expressed the brilliant insight that if we are to survive as a species, we must move beyond the Darwinian concept of survival of the fittest to a new paradigm: survival of the wisest. The principles and practices offered in this article are dedicated to such a high purpose. The cycle of life is one of continuous transformation.

You may count for Mum slowly and methodically to pace her breathing, or she may prefer for there to be silence and to rely on her own visualisations. Even in silence, by physically being there and present with her, she will feel safer and be able to relax further. In between surges your job is to help Mum to return to that `green' state where she is completely relaxed. You have lots of tools you can use to achieve this. For example, light-touch massage or arm stroking. Reassuring words can work wonders here, as well as simple actions such as resting your hands on Mum's shoulders and encouraging her to let them drop and relax. You also have the arm-dropping technique to encourage Mum to let go of any tension she might be holding onto in her body. Between surges is also the time to offer drinks and perhaps even snacks. It's very important for Mum to stay hydrated during labour and she may well forget to ask for a drink because she is so focused and preoccupied. So be sure to have one to hand and be offering it regularly. When my friend Linda learned the heartbreaking news that her mother had terminal cancer, she quickly realized that Mother's Day would now be every day that her mother was alive. The following is an excerpt of a letter she wrote to her mom. Dearest Mom, I thought you might want to know a few of the reasons I love you--past and present. I love hearing your voice (nobody has it but you). I love the way you always answered all of my questions as a kid. And the way you cooked for us, always yummy, walking Leo before we woke up, and having breakfast and lunch ready before we went to school. And the way you drove me everywhere. And read to me. And waited for me to come home from school, and listened to my day with interest.