After a short pause, the monk simply bowed his head and said, Ah, so. Although he had been used to living alone, the monk soon developed a fondness for his new companion and became a good parent to him. One day the boy's mother became gravely ill. As she lay dying, she confessed to the wrong she had done. Once more, the townspeople took the long walk up the mountain and spoke to the monk. A mistake has been made. You are not the real father of the child. Although you have dutifully cared for him all these years, now you must give him up. After a moment of reflection the monk bowed and replied, Ah, so. What do we learn in school? Granted, I think the social component is important, as is the ability to read and write. But the practical lessons seem to be missing, and we lose our creativity and intuition with too much structure. It would be nice if in six years of elementary school, a few hours were put aside for creativity and philosophy, as well as practical lessons in areas such as basic psychology and human behavior--or my personal wheelhouse, money and investing. My company holds workshops and seminars on how to make money and start a business. Once in a while, kids join us. During one weekend in Orlando, Florida, for instance, an eight-year-old participated with her grandmother and brother. Not only did the young girl learn MBA-level business and finance, but she was fully engaged and attentive, for three full days. Instead of spending her weekend watching TV or playing with a mobile device, she was interested, and learning. It was quite satisfying. That is no excuse or reason to yell.

I can see yelling made you feel scared. If this happens again, when I feel frustrated, I'm going to take a break and take care of my feelings so I don't yell. Yelling is scary and doesn't help. The following is a sample apology that you can rephrase in your own words when you want to express remorse in order to repair a relationship and reconnect with someone: I'm sorry I _(label the actions, words, or behavior). I can see my _(specify the actions, words, or behaviors) caused you to feel __(label the feeling the person was experiencing).I'm going to learn from this and be sure to _____(name the goal for a healthier outcome next time). TIP #5: LEARN FROM GUILT AND REGRET AND COMMIT TO MAKING CHANGES. One of my core principles in life is to learn from situations. After going through a tough situation or experience, I often say, What can I learn from this? There are so many ways to receive love that listing them all here would take up the entire article! Instead of simply listing the ways to receive love, this exercise will walk you through determining your personal favorites. When you identify how you want to receive love, it makes you more open to receiving love in these ways. Give it a try by following these steps: Continue breathing deeply and getting centered in your practice. Next, turn your attention to love. Think about the ways you have received love in your life. If it helps, you can write them down. For help getting started, here are a few common ways to receive love: receiving hugs and other physical displays of affection, being the recipient of acts of service, and accepting gifts and/or compliments. Once you have a list of at least five to ten ways you have received love in your life, try to narrow it down to your top two or three. Our species evolved in regions near the equator and spent most of its two-hundred-thousand-year history there.

These distant ancestors experienced about twelve hours of daylight, three hours of twilight, and nine hours of darkness all the year around. a time came when much of humanity migrated toward the poles--or better said, at least halfway toward the poles. Obviously, they were able to survive this move, or we would not be here. But there was a cost, especially for those whose genetic makeup was more strongly locked into the twelve/three/nine equatorial day. In winter, as the nights grow longer--up to eighteen hours or longer in northern regions--our more vulnerable brothers and sisters become listless, feel intense sleep pressure, start gaining weight, and become markedly less productive and engaged, compared to the way they are in summer. This is the very picture of depression, but seasonal depression. If you trace a line on the globe at 38o North, it passes near Ankara, Turkey; Beijing, China; Lisbon, Portugal; Everyone wants to be seen as attractive, but if you make achieving wellness the primary motivator of this process, not a certain number on the scale or reflection in the mirror, you will benefit greatly from the balance that comes with that focus. In time, the work you have done to restore health and the deep appreciation you have for it will shine in unexpected ways. That kind of vitality is something everyone notices! Sometimes, despite your best efforts, there may be something holding you back from experiencing the benefits of the elimination phase. In this section, we have outlined some areas you may want to explore should you find yourself not improving 30 to 90 days post transition. Support from your key player can be useful here, as testing, treatment, and expert guidance can help you navigate these complex situations. Small Intestine Bacterial Overgrowth When the beneficial bacteria that should reside in the large intestine (colon) migrate up into parts of the small intestine, a condition called SMALL INTESTINE BACTERIAL OVERGROWTH (SIBO) occurs. These bacteria wreak havoc on the digestive process by consuming food that should be absorbed into your body and produce hydrogen and methane gas as an end product. You end up with burping, gas, bloating, diarrhea, and constipation. Studies have shown that levels of inflammatory cytokines such as TNF-alpha, neutrophils, and macrophages are most active during the night in healthy people.

From narcolepsy to sleep apnea to shiftwork, disturbing your sleep takes a toll on your waistline. As with the liver and gut, more than 21% of the genes expressed in fat tissue exhibit circadian rhythm. Studies confirm that overweight people have imbalanced circadian rhythms in their fat tissue. Sleep lab studies have quantified how sleep curtailment bulges your belly. Additionally, marked changes in sex hormones, including reductions in testosterone and sex hormone binding globulin, were observed. This is a hormone pattern that's linked to increased belly fat and poor glucose control. Another research study reported that 40 percent of type 2 diabetic subjects slept less than six hours per night, had increased levels of ghrelin, and experienced hunger cravings. While chronic sleep deprivation will surely have a negative effect on metabolism, just two consecutive nights of only four hours of sleep are enough to throw a monkey wrench into the system. Researchers from the University of Chicago and Belgium demonstrated how quickly a few days of sleep restriction can increase the hunger hormone ghrelin by 28 percent, leading to a 24 percent increase in hunger ratings, particularly for high-calorie and carbohydrate-rich foods. Find spots on your partner's shoulder that cause pain (or that send pain to another area of the body) when you press it. Use the trigger point therapy technique on the following areas in your partner's neck that cause or refer pain: Advanced Massage: Trigger Point Therapy: Ribs Under the Shoulder Blade (medium to firm pressure, 2 to 4) To massage the muscles on the ribs underneath the shoulder blade (the serratus posterior superior ), bring your partner's arm up and around so it hangs off the table or lies in front of them. This move brings their shoulder blade off the ribs and exposes the muscle, which I like to call the secret knot. This muscle works to keep the shoulder blade over the ribs, but in our culture of constantly having our arms forward for typing and handheld devices, it is frequently overworked and overstretched. Find the edge of your partner's shoulder blade (much farther out to their side now) and sink your supported fingers or thumbs into their muscle underneath. Glide toward the spine and repeat many times until the area is pink and warm, working up and down the edge of their shoulder blade and across to their spine. Use the trigger point therapy technique on this area for any spot that causes or refers pain for your partner. Advanced Massage: Trigger Point Therapy: Underside of the Shoulder Blade (medium to firm pressure, 2 to 4) DEHYDRATED SKIN

A skin condition such as dehydration can affect any skin type, including dry and oily skin. It is caused by lack of water in the skin (not lack of water taken orally! Characteristics of dehydrated skin include: In normal circumstances, your hydrolipidic film (on the surface of the skin) acts as a regulator and barrier - retaining moisture and protecting your skin against germs. If, for whatever reason, that film's effectiveness is affected, the moisture in the epidermis evaporates too quickly and the normal, healthy state of the skin is compromised. The reality is that most of us at one time or another have dehydrated skin. Any and all of the following can cause dehydration: ENVIRONMENT: Wind, cold air, dry air, too much sun, air conditioning, central heating DIET: Eating the wrong foods, consuming alcohol and caffeine, not eating enough water-heavy foods or not drinking enough water (see here for more on diet and the skin) Our lives are constantly changing. People and things come and go. All situations that we create are only temporary. By viewing life from this larger perspective, our monastic friend was able to face both loss and gain with peace and tranquility. It is not always easy to be detached, especially when we must release a situation or a person we love. But the new always rises to replace the old. And sooner or later you will arrive at that point where you, too, can smile and serenely say, Ah, so. Affirmations I am serene, calm, and peaceful in the midst of change. I accept the up times and the down times as having equal value in my life. And it makes sense.