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He didn't need to rely on other parties to provide his survival. That's why most of us find trust to be a challenging aspect of life. It requires other people, and other people have burned us plenty of times. Other people flake out on social events, which makes the evening lame. They broke up with us and left us lonely, without love. They quit their job, which piled on more work for us. They didn't deliver on their end of the assignment and now the whole group fails because of it. And, whenever life seems to be working pretty well, someone comes along to break our trust. They both believe their recovery from their trauma decreased their stress and heightened their physical well-being. As my husband and I began recovery, I was diagnosed with aggressive ovarian cancer. When presented with a scenario like this, the medical community is anxious to label it as genetic. I'm sure genes do play a role in it, but I also strongly believe that my family's inheritance of cancer has been related to the fact that we all operated from the ingrained belief that emotional suppression equaled survival. We bottled and stuffed anything that wasn't happy. You can't keep pushing every negative feeling and event into dark places in your soul and not expect them to have an impact. I never learned to deal with painful situations in a healthy way, so I believe my body was storing There is no question in my mind that much more than genes contributed to my cancer. I had suffered severe emotional abuse from a very young age. Keeping secrets set the framework for emotional suppression and abuse to become the foundation of my psyche. That's when he decided to stop using this measurement, because the numbers didn't correspond to what was actually happening in the boat. Empowering Self-Care

In some sections of the coaching community, there has always been a degree of protectionism: coaches are reluctant to openly share their knowledge with their clients or the wider world for fear that they'll lose business and revenue. But the best coaches I know--including Kelly Starrett, Mike Burgener, and Tom Terhaar, to name just three--willingly answer questions, fully disclose what they've learned in interviews, and create videos, articles, and other media that give the public the same kind of access as the people these experts work with daily. To me, it's the job of every coach to empower their athletes with the know-how to learn and grow on their own. In my case, this means playing the role of teacher so that you have at least a rudimentary understanding of your own physiology and how this impacts your training, mobility, preparation, recovery, nutrition, hydration, and every other aspect of your overall wellness. If coaches want the best for their athletes, they have to encourage their independence, like a parent teaching a child how to drive. Just as Mom and Dad know that their kid is eventually going to be on the road by themselves (breathe, parents of new drivers), so too must coaches recognize that they can't be present for every moment of the day. This means that you, the athlete, are going to have to learn how to do things on your own. With regards to technology, coaches must demonstrate appropriate use, encouraging their athletes to use wearables only when necessary and helping them pay better attention to their instincts at all other times. Isn't that how it usually goes? But, let's remember the words of Kathryn from The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: Trust is the foundation of real teamwork. Considering this, we might argue that public trust should be the biggest problem of them all. We can fantasize about a life like Glenn's; But I doubt you'll be living in the wilderness anytime soon or decide to spend more than a decade preparing to live in the wild. That's how long it took for Glenn! We must understand that Kathryn is right, trust is the foundation. How Kathryn Built Trust in DecisionTech How did Kathryn's adventures with DecisionTech go, anyway? After her rousing speech about the importance of trust, she received initial pushback. I held myself and those around me to perfectionist, unrealistic standards. I led an incredibly stressful lifestyle.

I was a work addict and had very intense, high-pressure jobs and always pushed myself to higher levels of achievement. I was dealing with the ongoing and progressive infidelity of my husband, and my own raging codependent behaviors, and I was doing so much for others that I was putting basic self-care at the bottom of the list. I also believe that much more than chemotherapy contributed to healing from my cancer. When I was diagnosed, the cancer had already moved into my liver. The prognosis was grim. I defied the odds and am now deemed a medical anomaly--or miracle, depending on the circle. I believe this was achieved through approaching my healing on many levels. I worked with every medical modality--traditional oncology, Ayurvedic, Chinese, alternative, holistic, and naturopathic--and I changed my diet and fitness. The coach should act like an Outward Bound guide whose aim is to educate a group of teenagers so that they better understand their environment and how they can interact with it safely, responsibly, and independently. Lifestyle Programming One of the issues with fitness apps, trackers, smartwatches, and the rest is that they attempt to carve up our lives like pieces of your grandma's pumpkin pie at Thanksgiving--activity is here, nutrition's over there, and so on. The same is true in medicine. If your doctor thinks you have a heart issue, they'll refer you to a cardiologist. If your foot hurts, off you go to a podiatrist. This segmentation and the way that our devices collect and present information give the false impression that each area is distinct and contained in its own neat little box: exercise, fitness, recovery, and so on. The phrase Everything is everything might be overused, but when it comes to our health it's also valid. If you recover insufficiently, you're not going to process food or absorb fluids optimally. Push yourself every day in the gym? Her team asked questions like, Do you really know us that well? You've only just arrived at our company two months ago.

There were other responses about how she doesn't have experience working in high tech culture, or that she just didn't understand how everyone typically worked. There were also complaints about meetings being too boring or that there wasn't enough time to focus on their lack of trust. See, this should be evidence enough that there were trust issues. Kathryn covers one recommendation for improving the team and the team reacts by leaping to criticism. They wouldn't even give Kathryn a chance to explain the steps or tell what the team needed to do to solve their trust issues. If I may ask you immediately skeptical with people? Are you jumping to criticize and lament about a difficult topic? You likely have trust issues. I engaged in the deepest therapy available to address the many suppressed areas of my life. I had strong mentorship and support groups. An amazing network of people rallied around me and gave me the strength to do all this incredibly hard work while fighting for my life. Rigorous purging of the old traumas, rethinking accountability, and owning my own issues and negative messages were key elements. This multi-layered work continues to occur, though less intensively, on an ongoing basis. I believe all of it was integral to my healing and ultimately focused me on authenticity and self-love. The combination of all these things saved my life and gave me the strength to make healthier choices. My perspective on most everything has changed, and now I try to live from a place of making the most of every day. I know that my concern, anger, stress, and living with addictive behaviors were the enemies of my immune system. My survival instincts were strong, too. You're going to get sick more often because your nervous system, which is intertwined with immune response, is overtaxed. This is where an experienced coach can come alongside you.

They're not just going to look at the exercise you're doing, the food you're eating, or the sleep you're getting (or not, in many cases); Instead of trying to improve your overall well-being with marginal gains through this app or that pair of shoes, they'll try to identify lifestyle mistakes that are holding you back and that, once remedied, will yield huge benefits. No matter what Silicon Valley tells you, there's no device or software program that can do this as well as a coach. Taking the Long View One of the benefits of fitness-focused technology is that it gives us instant feedback on our cadence, distance, and more. But that immediacy is also one of its limitations, as those numbers are constantly morphing and anytime you look at your wearable you are only getting a snapshot relevant to that exact moment in time. This is why a coach can be helpful in playing the long game. They might want to know how you perform in each session, but only within the context of broader goals and your overall health. Kathryn begins to implement steps to address the lack of trust with her team. She first eliminates distractions. She forces the team to take out any communications or electric devices from the meetings. Absolute focus must be necessary to address this issue. Next, she requests that the team open up the can of worms about their lives. Oddly enough, the team at DecisionTech never got around to actually knowing each other on a personal level. So, Kathryn requested that the team spend just an hour talking about their lives and their backgrounds. What resulted from this simple task left people awestruck. As the article describes, It was really quite amazing. After just forty-five minutes of extremely mild personal disclosure, the team seemed tighter and more at ease with each other than at any time during the past year. I asked for an MRI for some reason, and it found the cancer cells years before they would have been discovered by mammography or other standard diagnostic tests. This instinctive stand for my own life and health was a true paradigm shift for me.