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With training and attention, it is possible to become more objectively aware of your thoughts. Learning about your own thought patterns can help you feel more in control of your life. It gives you the ability to lean towards thoughts that are helpful, and move away from thoughts that are not serving you well. A central theme for the process is to assist and develop the ability to be both participant and observer of one's internal and external environment rather than getting overwhelmed or overly identified with it. By attending to the movement of experience as "sensation" (including thoughts and emotions), the attachment to and importance of the narrative of our lives is lessened. This, of course, is directly tied to the intentions of Yoga, which are to support participants in reducing the suffering so often a part of depression and anxiety and to guide them in developing relapse prevention skills. The participants in the Yoga program learn that their experiences and problems are not personal but rather universal. A potential pitfall for the teacher articulating the contemplative nature of inquiry is an inclination to conflate the structure or method of the inquiry process (by asking specific and layered questions) with its contemplative character, an embodied mindfulness practice. That is, they engage in question-and-answer about specific and isolated experiences, rather than using the inquiry to convey subtle instruction for the participant about how to move through noticing, tracking, and integrating or understanding experience. It is the difference between the doing mode of inquiry and being in a contemplative conversation with participant. It is, in part, this tendency, in our opinion, that leads to some of the difficulty and confusion around its practice. We use the three layers identified by Crane (2008) as an entry point to our discussion on inquiry. Commit to eating only certified, organic whole and non-genetically modified foods. Journal all meals daily, including snacks and cheat days. Record exercise, if exercising on a daily basis. Make a three-month commitment. Check in twice a week. Here are a few stories from their experiences. Nguyen is a twenty-four-year-old woman who felt worn out; she wanted more energy and vitality. She has type O blood.

Working full time and attending night school, she has found the diet challenging because it requires time and focus. Additionally, she is young, so eating a midnight snack of brownies and drinking red wine was important to her. She feels that she has achieved great results and has more energy. And she is very aware that on the days she cheats, she does not feel great the next day. The bottom line: Today Nguyen works hard to adhere to a Mediterranean lifestyle diet as much as she can, because she likes feeling energized. Thell also had type O blood. At seventy-five, she was overweight with severe back and knee pain from arthritis. She could hardly walk. Like Nguyen, she did not find the diet easy to do but was amazed by the results. She lost thirty-five pounds and is considerably more mobile. The bottom line: even though it was difficult, Thell now has regained mobility and is aging gracefully. Compliments, like kindness and compassion, crystallize positive thinking; you have to actively look for and comment on other people's efforts, choices and good intentions. Be more conscious - and conscientious - about the words you use; frame your thoughts in positive words and language. Simple tweaks to specific words you use can make a big difference to your mindset; to how you think, what you say and do. When you're aiming to motivate yourself, if you address yourself by your own name, your chances of doing well can increase significantly. The more you train your brain to think positively, the more likely you'll have helpful, positive thoughts and beliefs. Using an appointment book has been natural and essential in my professional life, long before I knew I had ADD, so when I recognized my ADD I already had a book. But some people don't have an appointment book. You'll meet my friend Richard in a bit. Richard keeps his appointments recorded on a big calendar and transfers them to a folded sheet of paper daily.

I need to be able to see the whole week, and the whole month, over and over. There's more going on than just being able to keep today's appointments. In order for the appointment book to be most useful to me, I need to review it many times a day. This is one of my most helpful habits. This is essential to me, too. If I try to keep all the things I need to do in my head, it will make me feel overwhelmed and give me a headache. I will miss some. Because I'm not good at setting priorities, I'll spend time on some of the less important things while the important ones slip by. But for me, just one big to-do list is not enough. It's very important to make my list of five. That helps get the priorities straight, but even more important, helps me not feel overwhelmed. Then it's easier to actually get started and do something. I need to break things into small steps so that I won't feel overwhelmed and so that I can actually get started. I need to do this over and over. I will start out with my list of five. Then I may break the first task into small steps. This means that I need to make a new list of five. Usually I will only put some of these small steps on the new list of five. There will still be other tasks that need doing. If I put all of the small steps of the first task on the list, it could make the task seem overwhelming again.

"Do it now, Do it right, Do the hard part first." I made this slogan a habit, so it pops into my head anytime I'm trying to decide what to do right now, or how to begin to tackle a task. It gives me a boost, a guideline, and it helps me get started. And it's great to have the hard part out of the way. Thoughts about pain can be very powerful because the message of pain is meant to protect you. These types of thoughts may be helpful during times of acute (short-term) pain. However, when pain becomes persistent (long-term), these thoughts can add to your suffering. It is more helpful to work towards thinking about pain in as accurate and neutral a way as possible. When difficult thoughts arise, the experience can be so unpleasant that it is natural to want to make it stop. Sometimes, distracting yourself or pushing the unpleasant thought away can give you a helpful break, so it is useful to have some strategies for avoiding unpleasant thoughts to lower your stress in the short term. However, just avoiding difficult thoughts is usually not enough to live a satisfying life. If you spend a lot of energy trying to get away from unpleasant thoughts, there may not be much energy left for you to move towards the things and people that matter the most. Sometimes, the things people do to escape from unpleasant thoughts in the short term may cause more unpleasant thoughts and stress in the long term. When this happens, it's easy to feel stuck. We think that the three layers of inquiry--recognition or noticing experience, the ability to track the components of experience as it unfolds, and the integration of this experience into one's understanding of mindfulness and how it prevents depression and anxiety and promotes staying well--are useful anchors for initially learning how to best facilitate it via questions and reflections. If you've ever failed or struggled to cope with a particular situation in the past, you may believe it will be difficult or that you'll fail if you try to do it again. And if you've got something coming up that's new to you and that you're unsure about, you may talk yourself out of it with negative self-talk, believing that you can't' orwon't' be able to do something. Negative thinking and cognitive distortions such as jumping to conclusions, catastrophizing and tunnel thinking can undermine your confidence and can make you believe that you can't do certain things. The framework of the layers helps organize the teacher's thinking and understanding of the process. It is informed by key attitudes and principles of mindfulness and has at its core an experiential understanding of what is being expressed in the group. It does, however, put the teacher's inquiry at risk of becoming mechanistic or rote.

For the novice teacher, facilitating inquiry by moving through these layers and their associated questions and reflections is akin to using a script when first learning to guide a meditation versus guiding from one's own practice. Over time, as a teacher, you will internalize the process of inquiry as a mindfulness practice in its own right. Lisa was half of Thell's age and also overweight. Often fatigued, she simply wanted to feel better. A type A, she now eats plenty of fish, including salmon, sea or rainbow trout, red snapper, cod, and mackerel. She's down twenty pounds and feeling great. The bottom line: Lisa never thought about eating food for her blood type but is now convinced that it works. At sixty-two, William became a vegan because of his AB blood type. He lost twenty-five pounds, no longer has fat around his belly, and is full of energy. The bottom line: He says he hasn't felt this good since he was in his twenties. These sample stories and my own have me thoroughly convinced that eating for your blood type leads to greater health, vitality, and overall wellness. Our blood tells us what we need and what foods to eat. The only thing we must learn to do is listen to our body. By the way, in addition to nutritional reasons, it is valuable to know your blood type in case of emergencies or if you are doing international travel. So how can you find out what yours is? When faced with a new challenge or opportunity, do you lack confidence and think to yourself I can't do that' orI'll fail' or I won't be any good at this' orI'm stupid and hopeless'? Or do you think I'm going to give this a good try' orI could do well at this' or `I'll try my best'. Your confidence and self-esteem have quite an impact on your ability to get what you want and achieve your goals. Confidence, though, is not about what you can or can't do, it's what you think and believe you can or can't do. Identify a problem, devise a strategy, make it a rule, stick with it and it becomes a habit.