You think you're bad because you ----. In each of these responses the attitude as well as the phrasing is such as to indicate that it is the client's evaluation of the situation which is being accepted. Little by little the client finds that it is not only possible but satisfying and sound to accept the locus of evaluation as residing within himself. When this experience becomes internalized, values are no longer seen as fixed or threatening things. They are judgments made by the individual, based upon his own experience, and they are also alterable if and when new experience gives new and altered evidence. Thus some of the accepted values which were schematically summarized earlier may become markedly changed when evaluated in the light of the client's own experience. I should be angry at a person when I deeply feel angry because this leaves less residual effect than bottling up the feeling, and actually makes for a better and more realistic relationship. I should be a loving mother when I feel that way but I need not be fearful of other attitudes when they exist. I should be successful in my courses only if they have long-range meaning to me. I have homosexual impulses, and these are capable of expressions which enhance self and others, and expressions which achieve the reverse. Many people detour into distractions just as they close in on their heart's desire. Detours show up in many forms, such as going on a spending spree, suddenly having to clean and straighten rather than working on a moneymaking project, creating an argument and then buying a gift to redeem yourself, focusing on a hobby, playing a game that lasts for hours or days, or eating and drinking to excess. With each of these actions we are unaware of what is going on around and in ourselves. Instead we arm ourselves against any wisdom our currents may share, and we create a detour to utilize this excess energy. We simply do not know how to enjoy, use, and focus this much energy. Instead of seeing an invitation to dance and resonate with the energy of more, we perceive enormous danger in the unknown. We engage our familiar patterns to keep us safe and protect us--rarely admitting we don't know how to enjoy and move with the excess energy that is so close to us. Each of our currents engages in our detour. The huge uprising energy overwhelmed each current in some way as we moved close to our dream of more. When we experience too much uprising energy, we stop in the middle of projects and activities that we love and take a detour.

Back in 1978, when I was accepted into a very competitive physical therapy program, integrating body and mind practices in therapies wasn't the standard--but I did it anyway. Even now, I'm still a bit of an outlier in the medical field--but things are changing rapidly. I specialize in complex conditions, working with people who haven't had success in traditional methods of care. I've always tried to think of myself as a steward of hope as I walk with my patients through their pain journey, in search of relief. I believe that we're often given situations that make us stronger. My own continued pain saga drives me to maintain the mindset that I have control over my pain, and that I have tools to help me stay in control. I'm excited to share some of these techniques with you. The exercises and tips in this article are derived from my own work and that of the many mentors in my journey to wellness. For each and every one of them, I've drawn on the ancient wisdom of healing through the mind-body connection. My favorite third-grade teacher, Sister Genevieve, told me that there was nothing new under the sun. I accept my sexuality, and value highly those expressions of it which result in long-range enhancement of self and others; I value less highly those expressions which give only transient satisfactions, or do not enhance self. Perhaps something of the movement which takes place in this shift in locus of evaluation may be illustrated from the case of a young woman client. A portion of the second interview may indicate how certain standards and values came to be introjected and the effect these had upon her behavior. It seems fairly clear that during her earlier life these values were satisfying guides to action, but that now there is sensed some sort of discrepancy which is profoundly dissatisfying. She feels that she no longer wishes to abide by these values but has nothing to substitute in their place. S102: It seems -- I don't know -- It probably goes all the way back into my childhood. I've -- for some reason I've -- my mother told me that I was the pet of my father. Although I never realized it -- I mean, they never treated me as a pet at all. And other people always seemed to think I was sort of a privileged one in the family.

Right now notice whether you are still breathing--or did you take a detour? Fung shui hints of too much uprising energy in your past that led to a detour show up with unfinished projects lying around or hidden away and as a blocked area where you have trouble moving forward. Detours result from imagining something uncomfortable and unknown--something that is not in a familiar area of your map. Ancient maps showed dragons in the areas beyond what was already known. Dragons are used here in the Eastern sense; In Chinese mythology, dragons are capable of growing to miles in length and shrinking to the size of a dragonfly. Dragons simply represent more energy than we have danced with comfortably--until now. Out beyond our limits of what we already know and experience, dragons are also there to guard dreams, heart longings, and levels of abundance. Anything beyond these limits is more energy than we commonly resonate with and allow to flow through us. Accepting and flowing with new energy is a challenge. That comment resonated with me as I was writing this article. You may notice that some of the exercises seem familiar, but they are now presented with pain relief in mind. While they may not be new, you are free to change up the exercises to make them fun and make them yours. The exercise articles are divided into five different types of mind-body exercises: reframing, mindfulness, meditation, breathwork, and restorative yoga. You'll learn about each one and then you'll be asked to do some exercises. Don't worry if you don't like all of the exercises, because there are plenty to try. And who knows, maybe you'll end up revising some to fit your sensibilities. This article is here to help you find the right exercises and gain control of your pain by integrating your mind and body. Each article has a variety of exercises that range from simple to slightly complex. Each exercise uses mind-body connections to help you feel, breathe, and move in new ways that will change up your routines.

But I never had any reason to think so. And as far as I can see looking back on it now, it's just that the family let the other kids get away with more than they usually did me. And it seems for some reason to have held me to a more rigid standard than they did the other children. C103: You're not so sure you were a pet in any sense, but more that the family situation seemed to hold you to pretty high standards. S103: M-hm. That's just what has occurred to me; C104: M-hm. With somebody else it would just be just -- oh, be a little naughtiness; S104: That's really the idea I've had. I think the whole business of my standards, or my values, is one that I need to think about rather carefully, since I've been doubting for a long time whether I even have any sincere ones. We begin moving all of that intangible energy by honoring our detour pattern, imaginings, and emotions. All you did with your detour was imagine and shift away from your destination. Now you can imagine shifting back and dancing with your dragon. Action Step Your dragon dance toward abundance begins with enjoying several deep abundant breaths as you embrace yourself and your experience. Get up and gently begin to move creatively. Play music that you love and step outside your holding pattern. Remember to breathe into any places in your body that seem tight or frozen. Allow the fiery energy of your dragon to gently thaw you. Then admit to yourself that you don't know how to move forward with that much energy.

The more you understand how pain and stress impact your body, the easier it is for you to be creative and expand on the exercises. There are no rules about how to read the article or follow the exercises. The most important thing is to be consistent--give them a try and see how they feel. This article isn't meant to be a replacement for seeing a physician or any other health care provider. It's intended to empower you to know that we all have to advocate for our own health. Remember, self-care is health care. Using the Mind-Body Connection to Manage Pain In this article, you're going to learn about the mind-body connection (MBC) and how it can benefit you. You'll also discover the science behind it and how to identify different types of pain. Then I'll walk you through the various techniques you'll be using in this article to integrate the MBC into your life. C105: M-hm. Not sure whether you really have any deep values which you are sure of. S105: M-hm. C106: You've been doubting that for some time. S106: Well, I've experienced that before. Though one thing, when I make decisions I don't have -- I don't think ---- It seems that some people have -- have quite steady values that they can weigh things against when they want to make a decision. Well, I don't, and I haven't had, and I guess I'm an opportunist (laughing). I do what seems to be the best thing to do at the moment, and let it go at that. C107: You have no certain measuring rods that you can use. That's what I feel.