We should not allow our fear to let us lose sight of our big-picture desires. We desperately want less risk and more safety. Countries like Norway and Sweden offer us another choice. To avail ourselves of that choice, we must first be honest. Here's why: conversations, scents, coughing, movement, and the energy field of another overlapping mine can feel intrusive. Though my partner's vibes may be sublime, sometimes I'd rather not sense them even if they're only hovering near me. I'm not just being finicky; Along similar lines, the New York Times recently reported a burgeoning trend in long-term two-home couples--a completely new demographic researchers call living apart together (LAT) relationships. Married or not, these couples reside in separate homes. Tip 4: Travel wisely. Traveling with someone, you may want to have separate space too. Whether my companion is romantic or not, I'll always have adjoining rooms with my own bathroom. If sharing a room is the only option, hanging a sheet as a room divider will help. Out of sight may make the heart grow fonder. I discussed this with my coach, and she asked me a question that changed my life. Which do you prefer--travelling light or having choices? By working with my coach, I was able to understand that I could find the freedom I needed to make the right choices--not by relying on having something with me to deal with every possible scenario, but by being able to make the right choice based on the options around me at the time and leaving lots of room for thoughts of abundance, not restrictions. These days, I board planes carrying only a purse. No emotional baggage. Answer: Travelling light.

It's freedom. What are you dressed for today? My husband and I were driving home from an appointment and I was wondering aloud whether I'd be able to fit in my workout today, even though it was a day I don't work in my business. I listed everything I needed to accomplish in the hour and a half before I took my daughter to her appointment. Strong emotions at times are normal; There is no right or wrong way of doing this as long as you do it. HAVE A CEREMONY Spend some time alone in a place where you feel connected to your source. Create a ceremony of forgiveness and forgive yourself and anyone else you feel needs forgiving. Recapitulation in the Moment Recapitulation can take on many forms. You can practice it daily, releasing the stored energy from the past and taking back energy that you've spent. You may like to devote each session to a particular person or feeling. With practice you can do it in the moment when you are feeling yourself hooking emotionally and recapitulate an event as it occurs. Not everything that is faced can be changed, wrote James Baldwin, but nothing can be changed until it is faced. We must face the fact that our current practices of incarceration in America are ineffectual and inhumane. We must face the truth that we have endorsed policies that mean our fellow human beings live their lives in cages. We must face that there are children, even as I write these words, who stand on toilets, calling out to other voices in the darkness and waiting for an answer.I wanted both of us, but she couldn't see it. So I had to choose me. It is to be hoped that one day Mom will reconnect.

But Megan can't make it happen. In the meantime, she has a life to live. Brendan had a different situation. With his American Express Mom, he was the grown-up, and she was the child. Knowing you won't be stuck in tight quarters, traveling becomes a joy. Tip 5: Take regular mini-breaks. Energy-sensitive people require private downtime to regroup. Even a brief escape prevents emotional overload. Retreat for five minutes into the bathroom with the door shut so the kids can't intrude. Take a stroll around the block. Read in a separate room if your beloved's frustrations are weighing on you. One patient told her boyfriend, I need to disappear into a quiet room for ten minutes at a party, even if I'm having fun, a form of self-care that he supports. Inform your intimates how crucial mini-breaks are. Taking them allows you to be more present with others. After that, teaching, coaching, more pickups, more drop-offs, prepare dinner for the kids, and gussy up for a fancy event downtown with said hubby. He looked at me sympathetically (and admiringly, I like to think, for how much I do in a day): Maybe the workout won't happen today, huh? But then I looked out the car. It was a perfect spring day with a clear blue sky, slight breeze, sun shining, birds singing. I don't want to miss this beautiful day, I said

We were just passing near our house. Why don't I drop you here and you can jog home through the ravine? I love you, I said. You're a genius! For example, imagine that you had an argument with a coworker. You sit down and start breathing. If you really allow yourself to complete the process, you will not only feel better but you will see your filter system as the cause of the reaction you had and be able to act differently the next time. Once you become really proficient with the process you can do it in the moment. While you are talking to someone you can breathe the situation in and out so you don't feel compelled to react. If a person is yelling at you, rather than take on his anger you can breathe that energy out. If you find yourself emotionally hooked you can take back that part of yourself by breathing in. It just takes practice and a bit of discipline and dedication to remain emotionally neutral. The Power of Recapitulation By recapitulating my life I literally created a different childhood. He was faced with the problem when he married Gina and they had kids. Mom would call several times a week to ask why they weren't visiting more. With the support of his wife and friends, Brendan sat down with Mom and explained how he wanted a friendship with her, yet some things would have to change. Mom needed to find other friends, and Brendan and Gina would help in any way they could. It was hard to say, as Brendan thought Mom's feelings would be hurt. Mom was saddened by the news.

However, she was basically an honest person, and she understood the issue. She took Brendan up on his offer, and they began to investigate her neighborhood and city for social and supportive services. Mom was surprised and happy to find a good church and volunteer group at the hospital. She began to volunteer twice a week. In my practice, I've seen this creative approach to relationships save marriages and make ongoing intimacies feel safe, even for energy-sensitive people (of all ages) who've been lonely and haven't had a long-term partner before. Once you're free to articulate your needs, horizons open. One such patient, single for decades, had a prescient dream: I'm on a sailboat alone on a sunny, windswept ocean. It's exhilarating but lonely. No one as far as the eye can see! Then, from far away, I spot another lone sailboat peeking through the white crests of waves as they swell and subside. It's heading toward me. Soon after, she met her mate of five years, someone who has no problem with her need for alone time--the spacious feeling she experienced on the water--but who can come together too. I find their mutual respect and communication beautiful. As I hopped out of the car and started my jog through the gorgeous ravine, I thought, I'm a genius! Even though I didn't have a workout scheduled for that day, my higher self had intended, all along, that I was going to enjoy the gorgeous day and get some exercise. Because the intention was set, the HOW made itself apparent to me. All I had to do was grab the moment. It means everything else will be a bit rushed. It means I'll do my makeup on the subway tonight (remember that childhood trick--if you look down and don't see them, they won't see you?