Is this behavior going to feel good then, or is it going to turn you into someone you don't really want to be and surround you with people you don't really want to be with? If that's the case, your friend planted a bad seed. Maybe she didn't realize she was doing this--lots of times people who plant bad seeds don't intend to hurt you--but if she's trying to turn you into someone you're not or someone you don't want to be, she's not helping you grow and could in fact be killing your garden. So, when you're trying to distinguish between the good seeds and the bad seeds in your life, you need to think about all of this. Ask yourself what this seed's growth is doing to your garden--not just today, but most important, in the future. If it's helping your garden grow, then keep it. Neighbors can be an invaluable resource for getting to know your neighborhood, whether they're recommending a delicious restaurant, a trustworthy mechanic, a block that's best to avoid after dark, or guidance about a local custom. Asking for tips about the area is an easy way to start up a conversation--people are usually flattered to have their opinions solicited. Join a local group. Become a member of a food co-op, join a community garden, volunteer at a local shelter or food pantry, or find out where your neighborhood association meets and attend the next meeting. Getting involved with your community is a great way to meet new people while supporting the place where you live. Years ago, I lived in an apartment in Somerville, Massachusetts, with my roommate, Karen. We wanted to get to know our neighbors and other new people, so we decided to host a potluck every Thursday. We kept it up every week for over a year, sometimes with as many as twenty-five people, sometimes as few as five. We had regulars, new people, and one guy whose contribution to the potluck was a microwave he'd found on the street. You'll probably need to coordinate with neighbors to make sure the date doesn't interfere with another event. Just make sure it's at least three feet from your head and preferably across the room. If you live in a neighborhood with no cars driving by all night, the best choice is to open the window and enjoy the breeze. The quality of sleep has everything to do with what's in your mind and in your heart when you go to bed. If you had a bad day, you may be hashing out all the ways you could have done things differently.

Or if you left too many things undone, how you plan to get them done tomorrow. Or maybe you feel emotionally wounded by a verbal or physical exchange you're mulling over. As this is a article about how to lead a more personally environmentally friendly life, I will offer a few psychological tips that I use that may be helpful in your own journey. Sleep is one of the traditional pillars of good health, so it is critical that you honor your and others' need to sleep, as it recharges your physical and mental batteries. If in doubt about how important sleep is to your well-being, read Arianna Huffington's article, Thrive, where she discusses the health benefits and says Everything you do, you'll do better with a good night's sleep. One thing I recommend is following a bedtime ritual. What has changed in the listener's auditory perception, in their attitude, in their sense of volume, and so on? Note the spatial localizations of the person if you have not already done so during the process. Be sure to read the Conclusion to the Basic Method at the end of this article. Let's now review some of the key aspects of the basic method. It's important for me to explain again why we do things the way we do--because the better we understand something, the more effectively we can apply it and use it. Listening and moving while blindfolded, the sound of the running water receives a specific location wihtin the listening field, when it is perceived by the listener. It's not important at first when the listener first hears it. It does not matter in the beginning whether her internal perceptions match the external reality; The only important point is that the listener, without the help of her eyes, can determine the location of the sound of the running water. By identifying where the water noise is, a reference point is established. I know of colleagues working as I write this both to characterize and to troubleshoot the undue influence funders can introduce into nutrition research. The products of such efforts will obviously be of interest to us all. My advice for now is consider both the potential bias and influence of a funder, the track record of the research team and any biases they may display, the apparent robustness of methods, and the overall context in which an given study should be interpreted. Sometimes the funding source will matter a lot, sometimes little if at all.

It is a factor in the interpretation of nutrition research, or any research for that matter, but by no means the consistently decisive factor. I think the most important and fundamental reality check we seem to need regarding nutrition research is what science is for in the first place. We rely on our perceptions and our recognition of stable patterns to know what is true in the world. We did not suspect; Had Newton's calculations said otherwise, Newton's formulas and not the apples would have been wrong. Science, in general, extends our native perceptions, revealing what is hidden to our unaided senses. But if it's choking off your garden--dig it up. Digging up bad seeds involves three key steps. The first step is to use the tool we developed in the last article and get some of the bad influences out of your life. The thing about bad seeds is that you can't just chop them off when they start to sprout. The sprout is just the top of the seed. What really matters is the root, and if a bad seed has taken root, it's going to keep growing no matter what you do at the surface level. For example, if someone is regularly making you feel awful about yourself, it isn't enough to take a break from being with that individual. If he or she is truly planting bad seeds in your life, you need to separate from that person completely. Otherwise, you might feel a little better for a short while by cutting off the sprout and taking a break from that relationship, but the root is still there, and the next time you see that person, it's going to sprout up again and keep sprouting until you do something more permanent. We've already talked about the pain and difficulty associated with cutting someone out of your life, but I think it bears repeating: while the temporary pain might be bad, it is much, much better than the ongoing pain you're going to keep feeling if you don't make a clean break from that individual. Visit your local police precinct for advice about closing your street off to traffic during the party. WHEN I MOVED to the neighborhood where I live now, I was delighted to discover that my new apartment was just a few blocks away from a branch of the Brooklyn Public Library. Whenever I walk in, I'm reminded of my hometown library, where I spent time as a kid flipping through articles, playing with toys and games in the children's section, and hiding from my dad in the stacks. Even though my new library in Brooklyn is different, so much is immediately familiar: the sound of papers rustling and people whispering;

It's easy to feel at home in a library, which is the point. At a public library, everyone's welcome, and anyone can belong. At the risk of sounding curmudgeonly, things have changed since I was young! The library used to be the first and most obvious place to go for information on practically any subject--now we have the Internet for that. My friends and I used to borrow CDs from the library when we didn't want to buy them--now we can stream albums on Spotify. In the digital age, with unlimited information and entertainment available on our smartphones and laptops, some critics have questioned whether we even need public libraries anymore. As silly as it sounds, I follow the same routine that I have followed since I was a child. First, I make a cup of tea adding in a few drops of Bach Flower Remedies. Then I tidy up my room or the house, organizing it for maximum efficiency when I get up the next morning. When my kids were little, this meant getting their lunch boxes ready, laying out their clothes, setting the breakfast table, and making lists. Now, this mostly means finding things I need that have been misplaced (like my reading glasses), plugging in my computer, getting the coffee maker ready and taking the dog out. Moving into personal care, I brush and floss my teeth, wash my face, and perform other nightly beauty rituals (which are getting more extensive with age). Once I am in bed, I read until drowsy (sometimes this is less than five minutes). After I close my eyes, I say prayers, count my blessings and then it's lights out. It is important to note here that I have a very strict policy of only glancing at my phone after dinner to answer time sensitive texts from friends or family, and rarely, if ever, sitting at my computer at night. I like having device-free evenings so that I can savor that quality time with myself or loved ones. With this, a kind of relationship is established as well, whereby the listener has to decide: Where am I? Where are the other sources of noise? This choice can no longer be arbitrary; With this decision, order is established.

By deciding on a location, a process is set in motion. Listening becomes more conscious than previously, when the listening process was habitual and therefore weakened. So, I am made aware of my previous state of being, and by bringing conscious awareness to it, bit by bit I am able to process what has weakend my sense of hearing. This is accomplished at the listener's own speed, because only she can know for herself which speed is right for her. This is the beginning of learning how to hear better, because better balance and processing of sound within the total body system will lead to better hearing. This whole process of reorganizing how we hear can be taxing on the body and also on the brain. But there is nothing an electron microscope or the Hubble telescope could show us that would remedy lack of trust in our native capacity to see. Science expands the realm of what we can know, only because knowing is possible in the first place, based on patterns we perceive in the world around us. The more constant the patterns, the more reliable - or even certain - our knowledge. Those of us who know how to use water to put out a fire know it because we've seen it work before, not because of any randomized trial. How we know things is of practical importance to us every day. The science of climate change is abused by deniers of the long established and increasingly obvious, the very indictment made by Neil deGrasse Tyson . In this post-truth era, we seem to have forgotten, or at least allowed ourselves to be misled routinely about, what science is for. Science is where knowledge extends, not where it begins. Every wild species on the planet knows what to feed itself while owning no science at all. Our species presumably knew how to feed itself, too, until it started misapplying science to propagate doubt and perpetuate confusion. As important as this step is, there's another that's even more important: prioritizing facts over feelings. This is not the simplest of processes, but it's critical. Look, I get it. I know how easy it is to let my feelings influence me, so I'm definitely not blaming you if you do the same thing.