Instinctively, you sense which drivers will let you pass, and which are going to go absolutely mental if you attempt it. When you go to the shops, you use your nunchi to work out which line for the cashier will go the fastest. You might initially take a spot behind someone whose shopping cart seems to be the least full, then switch to another line when you notice that they've got 100 Kinder Surprise chocolate eggs, each of which has to be individually scanned. Instinctively, you steer away from the line where the checkout person looks ready for a break, or where a customer is smoothing out fistfuls of coupons. Wouldn't it be great if nunchi worked for you this easily and naturally in all areas of life? Happily, this is very achievable; And if you don't? To negotiate lovemaking with a living being may be more challenging than cavorting in mortuaries, but it is our only hope to truly live. Since I saw Cora master that mountain, I realized anything is possible. We need to keep open to reap the rewards of possibility, not past, thinking. ACTIVATION: RADICAL PASTECTOMY Get rid of anything in your life that ties you to the past. Go through your closets and dressers and remove any items that you have not worn in one year. Give them away, sell them, or throw them away. Go through your papers, cards, letters, articles, photos, and gifts, and discard everything that does not empower you in the present moment. Hold the object in your hand and feel the energy it evokes within you. Also, while ADHD research still reaches symptom-based conclusions about diagnosis and treatment, autism research examines genetics and biomedical options for treatment. I'll explain this important distinction in article 4. Armed with this knowledge, physicians could glean greater treatment plans for their patients.

I recently encountered a quote that clarified my mission: If you're only looking for ADHD you will never find autism. Yet I am certain that in the highest levels of research and the deepest degrees of parental struggles, ADHD and autism overlap. For one mom trying to alter the paradigm of the number-one developmental disorder of our time, my battle has been of David-and-Goliath proportions. But I realize there is no greater calling in life than raising the children whom God has entrusted in our care. It is my prayer that this article provides support, help, and understanding to those also challenged by the blessings of God's most precious gifts, our children. Beginning with the Definitions The Fine Lines Between Autistic Spectrum Disorders and Attention Deficit Disorders Well, the consequences can be dire, as evidenced by the abundant Korean children's articles with titles like The Child with No Nunchi or The Elephant with No Nunchi. I'll save you the trouble of reading them and give you the upshot: the child and elephant have no friends. You needn't have been raised on moralistic Korean children's articles or in a brutal Korean school to learn nunchi. I've done all that for you and have distilled it into these eight rules. The Eight Rules of Nunchi First, empty your mind. Lose your preconceptions in order to observe with discernment. Be aware of the Nunchi Observer Effect. When you enter a room, you change the room. Understand your influence. If it brings you happiness, keep it; Let everything in your personal environment strengthen you to be the highest self you can envision. Make a written list of your relationships, noting any relationships that are built on who you were rather than who you are.

Do certain friendships draw you into an old way of life that you are no longer living? After you have noted them, lovingly release them. Indulging in the past robs us of the delight of the moment Regret depletes our precious life force when we look back on mistakes we made and berate ourselves for not doing it right or better. We may even wax melancholy or become depressed as we wonder how much happier our life might be if we had made better choices. We can, however, replug the holes in our bucket of aliveness out of which regret drains our sense of fulfillment. We must realize that if we could have done it better, we would have. In any given situation each of us does the best we can with what we know at the time. Knowledge is the food of the soul. Obtaining accurate diagnoses for my sons was an important first step, but these diagnoses offered little clarity regarding the disorders themselves. As my time-consuming research into Asperger's and ADHD progressed, I ultimately discovered myself at a singular destination: the autistic spectrum. But in the beginning, the road there seemed impassable. Interestingly, the information available to me from the autism camp offered a much more solid explanation of Sam's Asperger's syndrome and how to help him. Definitions and options for treatment of Ben's ADHD, however, made me feel trapped in a maze that offered no exit. The research and treatment options were full of dead ends and redundancies. Because of my confusion, I decided to start where the physicians begin, with the DSM-IV-TR, the most current edition of the manual developed by the American Psychiatric Association to describe and classify mental disorders. Physicians use the DSM-IV-TR to diagnose their patients. It was here I discovered a classification of disorders known as pervasive development disorders (PDD). If you just arrived in the room, remember that everyone else has been there longer than you. Watch them to gain information. Never pass up a good opportunity to shut up.

If you wait long enough, most of your questions will be answered without you having to say a word. Manners exist for a reason. Read between the lines. People don't always say what they are thinking and that's their prerogative. If you cause harm unintentionally, it's sometimes as bad as if you'd caused it intentionally. Be nimble, be quick. Rule #1: First, empty your mind If we knew better, we would have done it Perhaps the whole situation arose to open us to a more rewarding way of doing it. Sometimes we learn by doing something right, and sometimes we learn by doing it wrong; When learning to ride a bicycle, sometimes you learn by falling, and sometimes you learn by balancing. Every experience during the learning process ultimately leads to mastery. It is only the little mind that does not see that errors, as well as successes, contribute to learning. If you knew how to do it all perfectly you wouldn't be here in the first place. The earth assists us to learn by graphically manifesting the results of our beliefs, sometimes quite rapidly. The human experience allows us to develop and refine our divine qualities. If only perfect people were allowed to be born, none of us would be here. Fortunately, mastery is not a prerequisite for arriving on earth; The syndromes listed under this catchall label are varied yet strikingly similar. In fact, they are so similar that the symptomatology of disorders such as Asperger's syndrome, PDD-NOS (pervasive developmental disorder-not otherwise specified), and even ADHD (which is not classified under the PDD heading) closely resemble one another--so much so that researchers and doctors have held to rigid criteria for diagnosing each disorder. The diagnostic criteria focus on three areas: behavior, communication, and socialization.

To obtain a diagnosis, patients must exhibit deficits in all three areas. However, the severity of the deficit and the age of onset often determine the diagnosis. Consequently, instead of creating a method for a clear diagnosis, the criteria and labels used by professionals are confusing for patients and their caretakers. When examining the criteria and ways in which autistic spectrum disorders are labeled in the medical community, the sources of the confusion become obvious. Autism is classified under PDD in the DSM-IV-TR. Along with autism are other disorders, such as Rett's Disorder, Childhood Disintegrative Disorder, Asperger's syndrome, and pervasive developmental disorder-not otherwise specified (PDD-NOS). Yet these disorders are so similar that Bernard Rimland, Ph. There is a Bruce Lee quote that frequently does the rounds on social media as an inspirational meme, and with good reason. Lee said, Empty your cup, so that it may be filled. When it comes to reading the room, think of the room as a pool of water, and yourself as the cup. How will you be able to discern the temperature and the taste of the water if your own cup is already full to the brim? When your mind is full of assumptions about people and situations, it is hard to see what is right in front of you, and to behave in the most appropriate manner. Amanda worked for a multinational company in London, and was invited to a drinks reception for Dan, the visiting head of the New York office. Amanda had never visited America, but felt she knew a lot about Americans from watching movies and television. In her opinion, Americans were loud, brash, and very informal in their interactions with others. When she found herself in a group conversation with Dan, Amanda was overly concerned with making a good impression on the American, and didn't pay attention to the cues in the room itself. Dan's manner was not informal at all; Learning by doing is the way evolution progresses. If parents had to be perfect before they had children, no more children would be born. The way to become a good parent is to be a parent.