With regard to meditation and religions or attitudes towards life, which have meditation as their core element, one often hears the saying that the path is the goal. In doing so, you are already fulfilling the purpose of meditation by practicing it. I could feel some breathing room open up as I freed up space in my life, and I turned a burden into a joy through gifting it in friendship. Likewise, I had a set of special cutlery that I used to keep for rare occasions. But, honestly, I never cared for making a fuss over fancy events, so I passed the cutlery to my grandmother, who loves fine metalwork and antiques. The gratitude generated helped me feel at least somewhat good with myself, freeing me up emotionally to deal with other psychological challenges. If it's memories you're after, then unless you absolutely need the constant feeling of touch to trigger them, most objects can simply be photographed, backed up to an electronic cloud, and then physically given away, meanwhile you still have the photo as your memory. In this way, you keep what is important to you without getting distracted by the physicality of the object. Giving away anything that isn't serving your joys or goals will certainly make keeping things clean easier, and you'll free up loads of space too, letting you capitalize on even the humblest of rooms. Speaking of keeping things clean, as the author of your life you have the power to redefine your cleaning. Similarly to learning, you don't want to cram it. Simply do whatever feels natural in the moment, but do it well, so that it feels resolved to you. And details are everything when it comes to effective futurecasting. Pushing yourself to imagine the details will make the future you more real. The specifics also give you more material to work with when you're telling the story of the future you and identifying your future forces. Part 2: Future Forces Identify Five Forces for the Future You Want In this part of the process, I want you to list your people, your tools, and your experts. You don't need to go all in and create a complete game plan around all three forces. But try to identify one or two future forces within each category.

I'll use the meditation example as a jumping-off point for you to come up with your own more-specific questions. Do you know a friend or colleague who started meditating recently or made a similar life change, like learning poetry or the guitar? If you approach the meditation with expectations or goals, you could put yourself under pressure to succeed and thus make the entire exercise obsolete. Meditation should have no goal. Instead, it offers you an inner or sheltered space in which you can develop without any effort. In other words, approach the meditation without any expectations and your expectations will not only be met, but even exceeded. Is It Possible To Go Wrong With Meditation? Meditation is an ancient practice that has been successfully practiced by millions and millions of people for thousands of years. And there is no report whatsoever that it has ever harmed anyone. You don't need a lot of knowledge to practice meditation. Nor is it possible to get anything significantly wrong. Just start out, using the instructions in this article for now. Have you ever walked into your room thinking My goodness, what an itchy nose I have! Then spend 5 or 10 minutes alone with your thoughts, enjoying some me-time humming, dancing, or reflecting as you dust. Maybe follow up with a nice warm shower so that you can feel clean and dust-free too. If the floor feels icky beneath your feet, spend 10 minutes giving it a sweep or mop, and your feet will thank you for it. Clean plates as soon as you're done using them, so that your kitchen remains a place of creativity instead of a place of cleaning dread. It's a subtle thing, but if you keep your space pleasing to your senses, you'll find yourself in a happier frame of mind. Your personal space will feel more like it's working with you, not against you, and this in turn can encourage you to work more with yourself, and less against yourself. The Things We Do for Love

Keeping a tidy room is all well and good; But in the long term, the best thing we can do is cultivate our emotional landscape through the people that surround us. Is there a local meditation group you could attend? Are there any apps that could help? Are you aware of someone who has integrated the practice of meditation into their daily lives? Have they written a article or given talks? As you are identifying your future forces, thinking through the details is just as important as it was in Part 1. Push yourself to get specific, writing down actual names of people or experts. List possible apps, groups, or other resources. This forces you to do a little work, but this work is already propelling your future. This final phase of the process employs the same mini drill. Think now about the incremental steps you will take to achieve your future. Observe yourself, notice the changes that meditation is making in you. Proceed according to your feelings and determine which of the meditative practices described are most suitable for you. You can then experiment step by step and adapt these techniques to your individual needs. Occasionally, beginners will become tense while meditating. This can be based on the unfamiliar activity, unfamiliar feelings or even on the unfamiliar posture. You should therefore make sure that you are in a position and posture that is comfortable for you, especially at the beginning. If you notice persistent tension or even develop pain in your neck or back, you should choose a different position. There are many different postures in which you can meditate.

Experiment until you find the one that's right for you. Can you also meditate in groups? There are a myriad of benefits to having healthy relationships. Moments of happiness and contentment may fade away from our latest purchase as the metaphorical new car smell wears off, but the happiness within a memory will stay with us for life. And while you certainly can have fun alone, being with another human being adds a level of unpredictability that makes for truly memorable experiences. When we're with someone we trust and feel safe around, we have a much easier time coping with stress and recentering ourselves. Do not see this as a weakness; In a survivalist's context, love is simply any supportive, healthy human contact. Good friendships, whether platonic or looking to be something more, are natural ballast that keeps your self-esteem afloat and helps you recenter yourself during and after times of stress and trauma. Excessive stress impairs our cognition and can even harm us physically; That's because your cells, on a microscopic level, have been tearing themselves apart due to the strain of being in fight-or-flight mode. Strong friendships can make it harder for your body to enter this state over small things, and thus conserve your strength and energy. These examples of questions reflect the same meditation group idea, but again fill in your own, elaborating as much as you like on each backcast point in your proposed journey. Is halfway when you have taken a class and feel like you can meditate on your own? Could partway be attending a class for the first time? Is Monday as simple as making a list of your possible future-force people and looking up possible apps and classes? These examples are simple and straightforward, and that's very much the point. The purpose of this exercise is just to get you familiar with every step of the process so you can then apply it to larger, more complex challenges, like changing jobs or moving cities or finding love. Because I promise you, the same process applies regardless of what you're trying to futurecast. I've done it with Fortune 500 companies and I've done it with the guy at the end of the bar who's clearly going through a rough time.

So have fun with these exercises, but take them seriously too. As we move into heavier future topics, I think you'll see just how life changing the futurecasting process can be. It is of course possible to meditate in groups. In fact , it is especially advisable for beginners to take a new path together with others. However, you should make sure that you align the dates for your meditations too much with the other group members. Experience has shown that, as in so many other areas of life, an initial enthusiasm can quickly fade away. If you want to pull it off, then you shouldn't let the lack of motivation of other participants in the group drag you down. How often is it advisable to meditate? It is best if you make meditation a permanent part of your daily life. It is also possible, and is practiced by many, to meditate only once or twice a week, whenever the need arises. Some also seldom meditate, but for considerably longer periods than just half an hour. But if you are really serious about meditation, you should meditate every day and ideally keep a fixed date for it in your daily routine. Should I Surround Myself With More Positive People? Given the many positive effects that a good friendship can have, you may be wondering if you should therefore surround yourself with positive people. The surprising answer is actually no. Being around people who are happy all the time won't necessarily make you any happier yourself; No, the best quality to look for in a potential friend is supportiveness. Even if they're the dullest or quietest person on Earth, if they accept you for who you are, keep your secrets when you ask, listen to what you have to say, and do their best to respond to you or constructively offer their perspective when they can, then you have a good friend. However, at this point it'll pay to extend the virtue of forgiveness to them as well. Sometimes, a friend will slip up and accidentally reveal something personal to you that they shouldn't have.