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They took my pain and made it their pain! They asked, Why are you doing this to yourself? and Being self-employed isn't worth going through this much trouble and completely ruining your life and credit. We could say that when I went against my own advice, by not taking care of the tasks I had promised myself to pay attention to, I often suffered negative consequences as a result. This is something of a unique phenomenon in human nature, because while non-procrastinators occasionally suffer the consequences that result from the actions they've taken and then regretted, habitual procrastinators seem mostly to suffer consequences as the result of the things they haven't dealt with. Put another way, it's our lack of willingness to deal with our tasks, which in turn, can cause the feelings of havoc and loss of control that often leave us feeling bewildered. I recall the day I spoke with one particular procrastinator who suffered from depression. After discovering that I was working on a self-help book, he exclaimed, "I have a bookcase that's completely filled with self-help books. I own a copy of every self-help book that's out there. I haven't really read them, but I've got all of them!" Remember: No self-help book alone can change someone's ways unless the reader is willing to be transformed. As you might expect, people reporting mean or bullying Facebook posts were 3.5 times more likely to develop depression while people receiving unwanted contacts (such as cyberstalking) were 2.5 times more likely to do so. How frequently these experiences occurred also made a difference. People reporting receiving four or more of these posts had a substantially higher risk of depression than people who didn't. While more research is needed, these results highlight the emotional impact these negative posts can have. All online users, but especially adolescents and young adults, need to be aware of the emotional risks associated with social media platforms, particularly Facebook. Though many people may rely on the Internet as a personal lifeline for staying in touch with others, learning to balance that with in-person social contacts can help prevent the "Facebook blues" that seem to have become so common in recent years. Read literary fiction and move beyond your normal social circles to get a better understanding of other people's behaviour. Put yourself in the shoes of others and pick up some literary fiction. Go for books like To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee, The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald or The Grapes of Wrath by John Steinbeck.

Find social blenders that allow you to move beyond your normal social circles. Visit places that voted in the opposite end of the political spectrum from you. If you listen to people's stories, you may find that you might have made some of the same choices if you had lived their life rather than yours. We are not so very different; we just had different starting points. And while it is easy to stop listening and dismiss people we disagree with as ignorant, as evil and as the enemy, that will only lead us to misery. But perhaps if we listen we might learn that it is inequality, unfairness and injustice that are the enemy and that empathy, trust and cooperation are the way forward. The Parents' Circle Families Forum is a grassroots organization of Palestinian and Israeli families who have lost immediate family members in the conflict. A process called the Parallel Narrative Experience aims to help each side of the conflict understand the personal and national narratives of the other. The members meet with one another on a regular basis in order to forge mutual understanding and respect between the communities. Osterskov efterskole use Live Action Roleplaying to teach the kids; perhaps pupils spend a week in ancient Rome or on Wall Street. The teachers find that, for instance, children with Asperger's learn social skills and how to handle social situations by playing different characters in the games. When you make your goals and getting your act and life together inevitable, don't listen to anyone not doing the same. They don't understand. To them, you've lost your mind. To you, you're making it 100% likely to happen because you're eliminating all other possibilities. Anne Frank said, Laziness may appear attractive, but work gives satisfaction. Sitting around doing nothing IS attractive. It feels fantastic to not have to move, exert ourselves, and answer to anyone or anything. We can just have a smooth, easy, and lazy day. While that sounds incredibly attractive and I could do that all day, every day, for the rest of my life, there's major problems with it - nothing happens.

Nothing gets done. Nothing gets produced. Nothing gets created. Progress isn't made. You should place as much importance on things getting done as you do your time. You should be terrified of not getting things done and making progress. You should be terrified of waking up tomorrow and you're exactly where you were this morning. Denzel Washington says, I'd be more frightened by not using whatever abilities I'd been given. I'd be more frightened by procrastination and laziness. Your history as a procrastinator isn't as important as the direction you decide to follow. If you've fallen into the trap of habitual procrastination, there's a good likelihood that you've learned to rely on cues from your nervous system to alert you on when to take action. If that sounds like your system, then right now might be a good time to a discover new way of going about your tasks. After mentioning my concerns about those Monday morning panic attacks to a friend, he told me about a saying that his mother would recite to him when he was a young child: "Move a muscle, change a thought." I gave his suggestion a try, and I found that if I forced myself to get out of bed, my panic attacks had much less of a grip on me. I'm not saying that the decision to leave bed was easy. It wasn't, especially at first. There was a big part of me that wanted to stay wrapped in those warm bed sheets. And there were a few times when I had to practically throw myself out of bed and stop myself from hopping back in it. Sometimes, I would do a little housecleaning, just to give myself something to do, just to keep myself moving. It didn't matter what I did. Whether I dampened a sponge and dusted, or aligned the spines of some books sitting on a shelf, that saying of my friend's mother was true--the act of physically moving about helped my mind awaken out of dreamland and to greet the light of day.

In short, willingness was what it took for me to fight back against the panic attacks that had previously disabled me. For centuries, people suffering from different kinds of mental illness have often been treated as outcasts. Not only were they often regarded as being possessed by demons (and still are in some parts of the world), people regarded as "odd" or "sick" were often either forced into hospitals where they would live the rest of their lives or else kept hidden by family members who feared for their reputation. As recently as a generation ago, mental illness was something that people refused to talk about, even when it applied to a close family member. Even today, people still use words like crazy, wacko, nuts, psycho, loco, and mental case to describe people or ideas that are out of the ordinary. Certainly, there are no end of television shows and horror movies depicting people with mental illness as unpredictable or dangerous. Not only are these attitudes found in just about every society but are often seen in young children who have no difficulty in using labels like weird or coo-coo with other children they see as different from themselves. Despite attempts at changing these attitudes about mental illness, the stigma that often surrounds people dealing with psychiatric issues remains strong. Even in Western countries where psychiatric treatment is widely available, many people suffering from serious mental disorders such as schizophrenia may end up becoming homeless since they have nowhere else to live. For that matter, jails and prisons have become the largest mental health facilities in the United States and in many other countries. The Singapore Prison Service has changed its prisons into schools for life by focusing on cooperation and rehabilitation. Prison officers have been assigned to manage all matters relating to the inmates in a particular housing unit, and they take on the role of mentor and counsellor. The inmates are given the power to make decisions, as long as these serve to help them make a change for the better. By any measure, the results have been impressive, ranging from improved staff morale and safety, better social connections between prisons and the rest of society and a drop in recidivism from 44 to 27 per cent over a ten-year period. In the favelas of Rio de Janeiro, artists have created a small, but significant, revolution. And their main weapons are a brush and some colourful paint. In an open, collaborative and inclusive process, they paint the favela houses in the colours of the rainbow - and a lot of local young people help with the project, making it theirs. They choose the colours together, paint together and play together. Today, it is a new world that greets the locals and the tourists. It is bright, colourful and proud.

These are not just houses, these are homes. And the people who live here are now proud to call it their home, and they are proud to show that they have more to offer the world than the world might have expected. One of the most inspiring people I have met on my journeys is a man I'm going to call Clark. That is not his real name (his identity is a secret) and he is the closest thing to a superhero you can get. Clark has sat next to Tim on planes purely to help him get over his fear of flying. He has helped Anthony raise awareness of the lack of disabled access in the London Underground. He has reunited a lost memory card with its owner and tried to do the same to a son and his long-lost father. All were complete strangers. Personally, I am so terrified of laziness that I can finish a major project that will dramatically improve my life and while I'm out having dinner, a beer, and watching the game to celebrate my little victory, I'm thinking, This is great but I'm being lazy. I'm not making progress or getting things done. I can be making progress on my next goal RIGHT NOW. I could be eating this in my office. I picture myself being the shirtless and overweight guy laying down on the couch with greasy potato chips all over his chest while he's watching TV and his mom is picking up his mess and I say, Not in a million f*ckin' years will that ever be me. Battling laziness is more than just telling yourself to get up and do it because there are too many problems and mindsets piled on top of each other and contributing to the laziness. Battling laziness requires digging into your mind, untangling everything, finding each contributor, and fixing one a time until they're all taken care of. Former Navy Seal David Goggins had a rough childhood and in one of his interviews, he says he uses his pain and suffering to push him forward. He uses his pain and suffering to accomplish his goals. That he doesn't want to let his suffering be for nothing. He doesn't want it to be a waste. It's the fuel that drives him.