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Heather: I've been feeling a bit lonelier lately. Therapist: Tell me about that. Heather: Well, I've stopped going to church, and I'm missing my connection with other people. But I'm really loving my garden. Therapist: I'm so glad that you've found gardening. It sounds really fulfilling. Tell me about this lost connection you feel. Heather: Well, I had so many friends at church and opportunities for service, and now I'm feeling a bit lonely and out of touch. Therapist: What does it feel like for you to be lonely and out of touch? Could it be that we are solving some still unknown evolutionary conundrum? All our flailing and worrying must be for some purpose. What purpose was my life, my illness, my death? I'm still working that one out. It certainly can't be--grace under fire or coming to some big understanding. It must be something more intimate. Death perhaps is the meaning of life. Only when we think of it in the real terms of our death do we realize this is the ultimate relevance. You see, Hadley, death is making me into a philosopher. Maybe it's because you are such a good listener and I get such a good feeling after talking to you. Doing so will allow you to understand how the archetype became corrupted and a source of restriction and unhealed energies for you.

By healing, you can release any pain or trauma associated with the archetype, let go of restrictive beliefs, and choose to embody the strengths of the archetype. You may also find that you need to work with the archetype itself. This would best be done after healing some of the varying traumas and layers surrounding the archetype. You would again ask the body deva where this archetype is held. The concept of the corrupted archetype means that the archetype is informing your existence in a way that is creating restrictions in belief or pain. If an archetype is a pure archetype, that means that we are relating to it in a way that informs our existence and provides strength and a positive sense of navigation in our lives. Archetypes most often get corrupted through our own experiences of them. If what we know of being a male is of an absent, neglectful, or possibly violent father figure, we likely have corrupted male, father, teacher, or authority archetypes. Archetypes get corrupted and utilized all of the time in pop culture, advertising, and other sources as a way of manipulating us. Therapists who oppose DID groups generally do so based on the belief that these groups keep people stuck in the disorder. In other words, if dissociators surround themselves with other people who are DID, they might become so accepting of each other and the use of dissociation and switching behaviors that they will not feel a need to move beyond those defenses. Those arguments, however, are not usually heard in regard to other types of therapy groups, such as those for anxiety management or chemical dependency, and some therapists disagree with that view, provided the group facilitator is experienced in treating DID and understands the importance of teaching dissociators to live in the present. Another concern among therapists is the fear of contamination among group members. Dissociators are often from family systems with poor boundaries and also tend to operate, at times, in trance states that can leave them highly impressionable. The concern is that hearing stories of group members' past abuse might overly influence some individuals. They might begin to adopt some of those memories as their own or, at the very least, become triggered by what others share. A third concern is that clients with borderline traits might get into competition with other group members about who has the most sensational abuse stories or who can get the most attention from the therapist, which can keep them stuck in the past or stuck in behaviors that are unhealthy. These behaviors are not limited to DID groups, by the way, but the very nature of the psychological injury experienced by those with DID certainly sets the stage for these dynamics to be more prominent in a DID group. To be able to address these issues in a group setting could be a valuable experience, though. You will find that grief has a wondrous power to heal and give comfort to all your losses.

Just as there are many different types of connections and attachments, there are many different types of losses. As you begin to recognize the loss as real, then and only then can you begin the healing process. In this article, we've covered a variety of seen and unseen losses, yet you may be able to think of others we haven't mentioned. Regardless of the type of loss, it always deserves its due. All of my losses deserve healing. Grief will heal all my losses. Whether your loss was something that happened in the external world or was an expectation of a life that didn't turn out in the way that you expected, healing is always possible. The unseen gift is that when you fully feel and heal your grief and let go of your expectations, you'll find yourself, for the first time, truly living in the present moment. YOU CAN HEAL YOUR HEART They chime and they chime and your inner self swells! If you don't believe me here is what Buddha says: Meditation brings wisdom; Know well what leads you forward and what holds you back, and choose the path that leads to wisdom. Meditation Is Like C Meditation is like C because meditation can be quite a challenge and it can be hard to find the time. When you succeed, however, with meditation you always, always will wind up feeling fine! If you don't believe me, here is what Confucius says: The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large. Meditation Is Like D The switch gets turned off, and creativity and innovation come to a screeching halt.

Has that ever happened to you? Do you have a memory of being so excited to share an idea with someone, whether someone on your team or a family member, and instead of hearing, Wow, that sounds amazing! A lot of great ideas never see the light of day because they are how'd to death--wow never has a chance to breathe. They have so much potential, but their development depends on their being met with Wow! Magicians have a unique creative process. One of the pillars of that process is that we don't think outside the box because to us, there is no box to begin with. We create without constraints, not because some constraints will not eventually be introduced but because the art of illusion makes just about anything possible. We begin with what we want to create, then find a way later. In other words, we start with a wow, then figure out how. An author writes articles. A father protects, provides, and presides (thank Ryan Michler for that one). A pilot flies. An entrepreneur creates. An adventurer ceaselessly seeks the unmundane. Define what and who you are are be that thing in a singular fashion. Stay in your lane. We can get a glimpse into what others are doing today without knowing anything of the backstory. We just see what they want us to see. We can visibly look at what hundreds of people want us to see in the run of a day. This was an answer to Jamilla's desire.

It was a matching of frequencies from both her and her ex-husband. When their energy waves synced together in the same harmonic frequency, it created a boost of energy, giving an idea to each of them to be in the same place at the same time. You likely have had similar feelings of inspiration, ideas, or nudges. Perhaps you felt a burst of knowing, a quickening, inspiration, excitement, or peaceful certainty. Here is a list of ways people have described to me their inner GPS guidance: I feel peaceful. Calmness and warmth are in my heart. There's an excited knowing. I am grounded. Heather: I feel like no one notices me. It feels boring and sad. Therapist: What does this sadness bring up for you? Heather: I feel scared that no one knows me, and that I'm in this world alone. Therapist: I imagine that thought and your experience is really scary. Tell me a bit more about your gardening. Heather: When I'm gardening, I feel like I'm nurturing other living things. Therapist: I'm wondering if your newfound place of connection--your garden--might be a place to transform your isolation and feelings of loneliness and sadness. Heather: What do you mean? Therapist: Through your whole process, you've become so familiar with feelings of isolation. I think I'm ready, Hadley.