You will appear more confident, reducing your chance of becoming a victim. HOW TO BECOME MORE AWARE What do you do if you have a hard time staying plugged in? Is there a way to exercise your mind and train it to be more aware? Luckily, there is. PLAY MEMORY GAMES Kim's Game is a fun memory game your whole family can play and it's great for improving awareness. The game is derived from a 1901 adventure novel by Rudyard Kipling called Kim. Personally, I wouldn't recommend any of these strategies. Again, I'm willing to bet you've already tried doing these things - they are commonsense approaches that almost everyone tries at some point. And if you have, you probably found that even if they gave you some short-term benefits, they didn't, in the long run, give you an empowering and life-enhancing way of dealing effectively with negative thoughts. Therefore, you're going to learn a radically different way of responding to negative thoughts; But first let's consider a very important question. ARE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS REALLY A PROBLEM? How many times have you heard or read (or perhaps even told someone else) that negative thoughts are bad, problematic, harmful or self-defeating? That you shouldn't be thinking that way'? <a href=''>That</a>winners' think positively, and losers' think negatively? <a href=''>That</a> negative thinking will hold you back? <a href=''>Some</a> problems can't be solved and may never be solved, and clients may need help in accepting that outcome. <a href=''>They</a> are likely to feel miserable if they have unrealistic expectations that an unresolvable problem will somehow, almost magically, improve. <br /><br /><a href=''>Meanwhile,</a> they usually need assistance in learning to focus on their core values, pursue valued action, emphasize the more rewarding parts of their lives, and enrich their experience in new ways. <a href=''>Multiple</a> strategies designed to enhance acceptance can be found in Hayes and colleagues (2004). <a href=''>It's</a> important to address key automatic thoughts that lead to significant negative emotion or dysfunctional behavior. <a href=''>These</a> thoughts are either inaccurate or unhelpful or both. <a href=''>Evaluating</a> automatic thoughts is a specific skill, one at which both therapists and clients improve with repeated practice. <a href=''>Refrain</a> from challenging clients' automatic thoughts and become adept at using several techniques to help clients assess the accuracy and utility of their thoughts. <a href=''>When</a> automatic thoughts are true, you can evaluate clients' conclusions about a problem, do problem solving, or employ acceptance strategies with a focus on valued action to reduce clients' distress. <a href=''>REFLECTION</a> QUESTIONS <a href=''>It</a> can be modified into any kind of movement sensation-awareness experience you like. <a href=''>Many</a> methods involve touching particular items and surfaces, and others incorporate tranquil music and rhythmic dance as a means of practicing mindfulness. <a href=''>Where</a> the aim of meditation is to focus on the present and be aware of your feelings, the purpose of self-hypnosis is to focus deeper into your inner-self to discover calm and relief while in a transcendental state (HTA, 2015). <a href=''>Many</a> people prefer to de-stress through facilitated hypnotherapy, which is when a trained professional guides them through the process of breathing, relaxing, and becoming aware of their inner-selves. <a href=''>Hypnosis</a> can basically be described as a mindfulness interaction between a receptive participant and a suggestive therapist (Bowden, 2018). <a href=''>Many</a> people have misguided ideas about what hypnosis is, how it works, and what it can be used for. <a href=''>Stress-relieving</a> hypnosis has nothing to do with the kind of hypnotic stunts that often appear on TV for entertainment. <a href=''>For</a> example, where people are hypnotized into believing that they're superheroes or clucking chickens. <a href=''>Hypnosis</a> can broadly be divided into three phases: <a href=''>Induction</a> Phase - This phase is aimed at relaxing your body and is similar to the first steps of meditation. <a href=''>In</a> the article, an orphan named Kim is being trained to become a spy by a British spymaster in 19th Century India. <a href=''>The</a> spymaster introduces Kim to the Play of the Jewels, a memory game we now call Kim's Game. <br /><br /><a href=''>Here's</a> how it works. <a href=''>Collect</a> a variety of objects--coins, colored pencils, Legos, whatever. <a href=''>Fifteen</a> or so, should do it. <a href=''>Spread</a> them out on a tray or table and cover them with a towel. <a href=''>Gather</a> your family around the table and remove the cloth for one minute. <a href=''>Cover</a> the items again and ask everyone to make a list the items they saw. <a href=''>The</a> person who is able to list the most items wins. <a href=''>For</a> a more difficult version of the game, ask everyone to list the items along with identifying details. <a href=''>That</a> happy people don't have those kinds of thoughts? <a href=''>That</a> thinking that way will give you poor self-esteem, or low self-confidence? <a href=''>Chances</a> are, people have been engraving these ideas into your brain ever since you were a toddler. <a href=''>You've</a> heard them over and over from parents, teachers, self-help articles, friends, health professionals, TV programs, newspapers and magazines. <a href=''>The</a> most extreme version takes the line that your negative thoughts are so harmful that they will actually manifest in reality; <a href=''>Interesting</a> proposition; <a href=''>You</a> may be familiar with a common anxiety disorder called OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder). <a href=''>Sufferers</a> have recurrent negative thoughts, many times a day. <a href=''>They</a> imagine or worry that all sorts of really bad things will happen:I'll get AIDS', My house will burn down', orMy children will die. But people start to recover from OCD when they realise that these thoughts will not actually come true. What would you like to tell yourself if you become frustrated when learning the skill of evaluating automatic thoughts? What would you want a client to believe?

PRACTICE EXERCISE Write down the answers to the list of questions in Figure 14. Then record your answers to the questions in Figure 14. RESPONDING TO AUTOMATIC THOUGHTS The previous article demonstrated how to help clients evaluate important negative automatic thoughts and determine the effectiveness of their evaluation in session. But when these same thoughts arise in their minds during the week, clients may not remember their responses. They will also experience additional important automatic thoughts between sessions that you didn't identify. You will find the answers to these questions in this article: Change Phase - This is when the problem you need to deal with is addressed. Exit Phase - At this point, you wake up to your regular state of consciousness. The therapist will guide you through the phases, suggesting a thought process to initiate your mental path in that particular session. These suggestive guidelines can be likened to a roadmap; There are numerous types of hypnosis, each suited for specific kinds of situations and personalities. Below are the three types of hypnosis that are commonly used by people who need stress relief (Richard, 2015): Self-Hypnosis - This involves the person putting themself in a state of calm and mentally guiding themselves to a safe place within themselves. Clinical Hypnosis - Also known as hypnotherapy, this type involves a therapist that guides a patient through the hypnosis process to establish the sources and severity of their stressors. Conversational Hypnosi s - This is when a therapist communicates with a person's unconscious mind while they are unaware that they have been hypnotized. This method is also known as covert hypnosis. For example, there are three pencils--red, green, and orange. The orange pencil has a broken tip.

The person with the most correct observations wins the game. YELLOW JACKET: A SMARTPHONE CASE THAT STINGS In 2011, Seth Froom was robbed at gunpoint in his home. For weeks after his harrowing ordeal, Froom thought about all the things he could have done to stop the attack. Then he had a light-bulb moment. Since most of us have our smartphones close at hand, Froom thought why not turn an iPhone into a self-defense tool? Acting on his idea, Froom created the Yellow Jacket, a rugged iPhone case that doubles as a stun gun. Delivering a 650,000-volt shock, the case won't cause permanent harm but it packs enough of a punch to surprise an attacker, giving you an opportunity to escape. OCD sufferers have typically had these negative thoughts many thousands, if not millions of times - totally and utterly believing them - and yet they have never manifested in reality. Another common idea is that negative thoughts are problematic because our thoughts control our actions'. <a href=''>If</a> this were true, the human race would be in big trouble. <a href=''>After</a> all, how often have you gotten so mad at somebody you care about that you thought about hurting in them some way - yelling at them, shaking them, leaving them orgetting your own back'? What would have happened to your closest relationships? Would you still have any friends left? And have you ever thought about quitting, yet persisted? Have you ever thought of running away, but stayed and stuck it out? Clearly our thoughts don't control our actions. They certainly influence what we do, but they do not control what we do. How do you help clients compose therapy notes to read between sessions? How do you teach clients to use a worksheet to address other automatic thoughts between sessions?