Are they getting any time for adult-free play? Could a supervised activity be exchanged for a less supervised one? Do they get opportunities to resolve their own conflicts before you try to fix things? Could you allow them to do one new thing today which you have not let them do up to now? Perhaps you could begin to identify some small changes in your routine which would allow your child to taste more freedom, excitement and challenge all rolled into one. Play therapy The body heals with play, the mind heals with laughter and the spirit heals with joy. In my experience, play and creative-therapy approaches have been helpful with anxious kids of all ages, including teens. Because anxious children often feel less in control of their lives and may feel pressurised by other people's judgements, using play can bring them back to their healthier, carefree selves. Play therapy provides a safe opportunity for children to make sense of their worries and to act out upsetting experiences at their own pace. Was there a unified goal? Create a behaviour manifesto Create a standard operating document or manifesto of your shared expectations around working together. What are the key expectations and acceptable behaviours? Include 10 key behaviours that everyone involved will commit to, and hold each other accountable. Now that we know what we have to work towards when it comes to Law 3 and connecting with intent, we also need to be aware that there are forces working against us achieving mastery of this law. The three shadows to watch out for are: Dream stealers Loneliness. Let's explore each now.

Arjun was captivated by the man more so than his words. This is how Arjun was able to fathom the wisdom of Krishna. Maybe that is where we go wrong? When Laura and I watch a Bollywood movie and Amitabh Bachchan gives his customary poignant and heart-breaking speech, I am always frustrated with the subtitles. Laura reads the subtitles and I hear Bachchan's voice. Bachchan's words are so powerful that I feel them in my bones. I can feel the pain in his voice and see the agony in his bloodshot eyes. I am mesmerised by his onscreen presence (I am referring to his speech on stage in Mukaddar Ka Sikander). Laura, on the other hand, is emotional in spite of reading only the subtitles that have not captured any of the heartbreak and poetic nature of the dialogue. The subtitles are very direct in English, and so much of the sincerity is lost. It's probably easy to understand how SVT could undo the pairing of something you've learned, like seeing a cat and feeling scared. But mood--that feels more hardwired, right? You're born with a genetically influenced tendency for mood that can't be changed. If you listen to all the commercials for antidepressants on American TV (which, by the way, are illegal to advertise on television in every other country except New Zealand), that's what they'll talk you into believing. Those drug companies know a lot about human behavior--and how to coerce your brain into thinking that you are depressed and need their drug. You have low serotonin, and their latest pill is just what you need. And maybe they're right. Depression does hurt, doesn't it? Maybe you do feel more achy lately. Maybe you do need that pill.

Then in the morning get good exposure to bright light (ideally sunlight) to help your body to embed the new schedule. As with coping with jet lag (see pp. You could also buy a light box - many light boxes are available that have been specifically designed to overcome this type of sleep disorder. The system works the opposite way round for phase advance. Bring forward your bedtime by two to three hours every night until you have worked back to the appropriate time for going to sleep. To avoid slipping out of kilter again, expose yourself to bright light in the evening. This can be as simple as taking an early evening walk (or mid-afternoon in winter) or run (not fewer than four hours before bedtime), or flooding your home with light, even if it's artificial. Again, a specially dedicated light box is ideal. Free-running and irregular sleep-wake types simply have to adapt the principles for phase advance and delay so that they, too, begin to follow a clear bedtime and waking time. Do all you can to avoid napping, so that you're tired at normal bedtime, and use light exposure to help. And do it as often as you think is necessary. You'll find that the moments you're not thinking are just as important as the times you are actively thinking. Be Unconventional I've grown to hate conventional thinking. Not because I want to be different but because conventional thinking gives you conventional results. I don't like that. And if you liked conventional results, you wouldn't be reading this article. Let's examine decision making for a second. The most conventional method for decision making is to create a pros and cons list. Benjamin Franklin is the first who documented this method.

Then pull the handle towards the boat until the paddle is vertical in the water. To move the canoe sideways towards an object, reach the paddle out and away from where you are sitting and into the water. Pull the paddle through the water towards you until it is vertical. The advice provided in this section is intended for guidance only and is no substitute for proper first-aid training. If you would like to take a first-aid course, the Red Cross offers a wide range of training courses across the country. For further information go to www. PREPARE A FIRST-AID KIT Always have first-aid basics at home, plus an extra stock of band-aids and wound wash/antiseptic cream to hand in the kitchen. Check it regularly; Find a suitable box, zipped bag or plastic container to hold all the items. By aiming your attention, intention, and imagination away from an up-down power struggle and toward what you want to create, you have made the cognitive shift toward a possible future. WHY IS COLLABORATION EASIER FOR WOMEN THAN FOR MEN? According to recent advances in brain imaging reported by Barbara Annis, Shelley E. Taylor, and Leonard Schlain, our knowledge of the differences in men's and women's brains, and the role that hormones play, has revolutionized our understanding of human behavior. Advances in brain imaging now allow us to literally see the dramatically different ways that men and women communicate, listen, solve problems, make decisions, handle emotions, deal with conflict, and manage stress. The following discoveries indicate that women, in general, have a collaborative edge. It is also shaped differently and contains more nerve fibers that enable women to travel back and forth between the left and right sides of the brain more easily. This means that women tend to engage logical and creative thinking at the same time. Their logic flow doesn't necessarily stop their creativity. Women often take a more inclusive perspective of situations and typically view the various elements of a problem or task as interconnected.

Too much knowledge and experience would be likely to terrify us to the extent that we would baulk at the very thought of parenthood. Peter was loved by everyone he met. There is something about people with Down's syndrome that makes them so easy to love. I think it is because they themselves love with an innocence and purity untainted by cynical or devious intent. Their love is unconditional and childlike. Of course they can get angry and frustrated but I have never known them to be malicious. Peter's mother, Pam, had devoted her whole life to her son. She had fought for him in the face of discrimination in every aspect of his life, education and health. She had divorced Peter's father decades before. Such dedication to a disabled child can put a terrible strain on any relationship. This doesn't bode well for us as a people. Because a path to conflict is the product of a refusal to compromise. Once you categorize people as good or evil, you create a battle that pits person against person. An opposing view is no longer simply disagreeable; And targeting humor is a sign that this is coming. And it's a real threat to civilization. But the problem in explaining this threat is in the gathering of the examples one needs to make the point. There are just too damn many. So just as I'm getting going, I have to start all over again because a new outrage hops along. Trying to keep tabs on all the examples of joke-policing and joke-punishment is like trying to count screams on a roller coaster.