The narcissists do not like to take responsibility for their negative emotions, and transfer the blame to others. We all have mental models that serve as our framework for understanding the world around us. Mental models shape our behavior and thought processes equipping us to solve problems, identify opportunities, generate ideas, and make sound decisions. Filtering information through mental models gives us a better comprehension of a system and how it works. Mental models are formed on the basis of our perception, experience, and acquired knowledge. They provide simplified explanations of complex phenomena They are the basic structures of cognition. Our reasoning is based on mental models. These models represent a perception or view of external stimuli. Mental models will typically depict possibilities and can be used to predict outcomes through mental simulation. Mental models have an organized structure in long term memory. Teach him how to greet in a safe and strong way when you two enter a site. With these exercises, you can teach your child to move more openly, sociably and increase the child's confidence. By practicing more and more you will notice changes in the attitude. Now we are going to work on verbal, nonverbal and para language regarding the insecure teenager. This younger sweats his hands and his neck has a closed posture in arms and legs or both, the gestures are not natural. This teenager doesn't look into the eyes in a natural way. He scratches himself impulsively, grabs or rubs the hands, if standing, this teen sways, makes nervous movements with the hands, there are few facial expressions, has many hesitations and gives a lot of justification for his or her actions. Normally, the teenager with this personality is uncomfortable with you or with someone else, tries not to look at you, shows less empathetic behaviors, the questions the teen asks are not personal, maintains an elusive gaze. Even the posture of this child is totally oriented elsewhere.

This teenager doesn't speak of her or himself. Further, they don't like to deal with any of the children's negative feelings. This is a common experience for many victims. Responsive, well-behaved small children bring the best out of the narcissistic parent, or at least the most caring side that looks after their physical needs. It is nature's way of protecting them during their vulnerable years. The neediness and the worshiping are rewarding for the narcissists, and they thrive as parents of small children. Unfortunately, this early attachment continues even after the narcissistic parent drastically changes their behaviour as the child grows up. The narcissistic disorder, on the other hand, demands others participate in the illusion. Their ego comes from the narcissistic shell and not from who they truly are. Getting angry when something about their behaviour is challenged in the nicest way, is a typical reaction of a narcissistic parent. Narcissists don't see their children as separate people that have a right to experience life from their own angle. They also contain declarative information, causal information about how components of a system interact and procedural information about how to operate the system to achieve the desired outcome. Mental model structures are typically organized as a network with information bits that are interlinked representing interconnected concepts of a larger system. The structure of the mental model provides the foundation for behavior to be established. Mental models are predictive in nature and create simulations that arise from the underlying knowledge and information contained in the structure of the model. These simulations give possible outcomes based on possible scenarios. Organized knowledge is easier to recall and put to use hence mental models also facilitate recollection of information. Construction of a mental model normally occurs in stages, Identifying the components of a system. Inter grating the components of the system based on their interactions

Testing and running the model. Doesn't say make confidences or build other relationships, isolation from the family group is frequent, so, it is common this teen increases the interpersonal distance. The smile is a little fake. This teen also changes the subject constantly, his or her posture is more closed, both arms and legs, and has facial and body tension. While a child with a positive attitude shows a smile along with other gestures, looks in the eye, keeps the head straight, without raising and shows gestures of security with the chin. Having symmetry and forcefulness, this child expresses his or herself through the body, the gestures are open, approaches the others confidently, doesn't withdraw backwards, a coherence between the verbal and nonverbal and coherence among the different nonverbal elements are shown. A child with a more confident personality shows interest in being with the person him or she is interacting with at the moment. He has an intermittent gaze, but looking into the eye. He has a smile, even a permanent laugh, he or she has an empathetic listening attitude. Has empathetic synchrony and adopt the same gestures and a posture similar to the persons he or she has interacted with. The pupils are more dilated in relation to the brightness of the environment. There is no option in their heads in which the kids will be in charge of their own lives `unaided' by the narcissist. How do the narcissists get away with the things they do for so long? Another reason that the narcissists enjoy having small children is their energy and zest for life. The narcissists like sucking that energy - they like kids when they are a delight, when they are full of life, when they are interesting and needy, filling their days and feeding their egos. The narcissistic expectation is that the child will serve that very purpose for life. During this time, the narcissists appear to be normal parents taking care of the everyday needs of their children, like food and clothes. Underneath that, however, there are other things happening. The abuse is subtle, starts small, and grows over time, and it is eroding that very same passion and energy for life. When the parent is well and pleased the child is recognized.

This is an easy and effective method of control, and all parents probably use it at one time or another, but most parents recognize their child's behaviour is not only about their own needs. Mental model structure development has been found to differ based on the level of experience. In highly experienced individuals, there is a high level of linkages within the networks that make up the mental model. Subnetworks are also common in highly experienced individuals' mental models. The level of abstraction in these mental models is also higher with associations and a concept is based on abstract information rather than surface features as is the case in amateurs or individuals with little experience. In individuals with more experience, sub-groupings and interactions are based on frequently used procedures. When it comes to language, the associations are based on the meaning of words in the context of the domain of the system. The structure in amateur individuals' mental models differs from the structure in the models of experts or highly experienced individuals. The models in this group have a lower level of abstraction with concepts being based on surface characteristics rather than abstract concepts. The mental models in amateurs have fewer interlinkages between concepts and the networks within the model are not as dense as those in the mental models of experts. The language used is also a key difference between the structures of the two types of mental models. There is more closeness, less personal distance and even physical contact. The posture is one hundred percent oriented towards the other person, is symmetrical and relaxed. This teen asks more personal questions and offers self-revelations, expresses positive things and shows it on the face. There is coherence between the verbal and the nonverbal, and there is no facial or body tension. Also, there are children who bully. These children's chin is normally raised. They show a direct and continuous look without almost blinking, they do it in an intimidating way. They exhibit themselves in a place of power position and great control. They remove the possibility of movement or maneuver, invading personal space, increasing the volume of the voice with respect to the other, continuously interrupting, relativizing or ignoring the other's comments, showing sarcastic or ironic gestures.

These children have a false smile or no smile. Controlling kids by making them responsible for the emotions, the well-being, and the decisions of the parents, is a sure way to create a high level of anxiety in them. Being responsible for something you have no control over is confusing and stressful. Over long periods, it affects the adrenal system and can have a long-term effect on the health of the children. it is based on emotions and not on logic. The line of communication is cut off, and it means the existence of the child can be reduced to nothing. Silent treatment is a power play, the parent is in the position to abandon the child, no explanations required. It does not offer solutions, and does not require effort on the part of the parent. Such early childhood conditioning is what creates toxic shame and people pleasers. The silent treatment is a tool of parents who are immature and angry and do not have the understanding that they are the adults and that they have to help the children deal with negative things. Instead they pile their own issues and negativity on top, under the assumption they will shame and scare their children into behaving the way they want them to. In amateurs, the meaning of words is based on natural language rather than the language of the system in question. In these mental models, the concepts are not arranged in a procedural format unlike in the mental models of people with more experience. The principle of accumulating mental models is instrumental in improving our thinking capacity and our ability to see situations from multiple perspectives. When we rely on a fixed number or set of mental models, we in effect limit our range of thought, our capacity to generate new ideas and the aptitude for finding solutions to problems. To improve ourselves we must first change the way we think and how our thoughts influence our actions. This is only possible if we are willing to expand our set of mental models. By considering mental models as tools that we can use to facilitate effective thinking we can comprehend that the more mental models we have at our disposal, the better the decisions we are able to make and to best utilize our knowledge when interacting with different systems. Our attitudes, values, beliefs, actions, and behavior are shaped by our thoughts. To achieve something, we must first conceive it in our minds before we can bring it into reality.