Action Step Before you realize it, you have put on your costume and are engaged in protecting your persona and your place in the play. Once you realize you are engaged, spend some time noticing what was happening just before you engaged. All of these questions are worthy of some time and space in your Travel Log. Remember, you are floating on the Sea of Salt and preserving someone's script as long as you resist owning your part in the money dramas that are central in your life. What we resist persists; Let's look at Les's story. Les made good money working in sales for a high-tech company, and his clients loved him. He was always pleasant with the accounting people, yet he couldn't understand why anyone would spend their time crunching numbers like that. So he didn't. Remember, pain is real, and the information that's coming into your brain is letting you know that you have some sort of crisis to respond to in your nervous system. Medication can calm the nerve cell, or calm your brain to let it know to not be so worried about the incoming information. When you can calm the nervous system, you reset your alarm and decrease the pain message. Nerve pain can be due to problems in the central nervous system, which includes the brain and spinal cord, or in the nerves that connect to the muscles and organs. Although nerve pain is generally caused by injury or disease, in some cases nerve pain develops for no apparent reason. Certain words that I hear from my patients help me understand that they are talking about nerve pain; They may be dropping things or falling because their sensation isn't intact. This tells me that they are dealing with a nerve problem. If you suffer from chronic pain, you may have some of these common nerve pain sensations. These are only a few examples of the many ways that nerve pain can impact your health:

They feel like the need for a very elemental kind of response from people; It is a response which I feel cannot be conveyed with words. It exists almost as a form of pure energy which can be picked up by another person only through his feelings, rather than through his intellect. While this may sound very garbled, I feel that it is as simple a phenomenon as the experiencing of pain. When we actually back into a hot stove, we don't have to think through the laws of thermodynamics, body chemistry, and neurology before we are intensely aware of the pain. In some such way, I believe, this very positive response is perceived, in spite of the absence of anything very tangible as stimulus. Now, we may ask why it is important that the therapist feels this need in his relationship with his client. This need, incidentally, is referred to above as our deepest motivations toward compatible and meaningful relationships with people. The answer which feels operationally correct, and I think logically so, is that I think it is only when the therapist can experience this need, this motivation, within himself as a live part of himself, that he can perceive it or any fragment of it which breaks through, and all the very complex defenses which the organism can develop to suppress this need in his client. To phrase this somewhat more simply, my contention is that it is only when we can express our own deepest needs that we are able to perceive the operation of those needs in another person, and it is only then that we have this basic response, which we need from other people, available to give to them. He always had some sort of receipt somewhere; Classic for I Can't Understand Money personas. Sometimes Les found receipts days or weeks later, stashed in a pocket or folder. This drove his assistant nuts. It's only money, he would say. His assistant occupied the Sharp Pencil and Let Me Help You personas, and together they managed to keep Les's income flowing. His wife played the same role at home with their investments. It turns out that Les's dad had been obsessed with making money and keeping track of details, recording amounts down to the penny, including Les's earnings and spending as a child. Very early on Les had vowed that he wouldn't be like his father. And he was not;

About 30 percent of neuropathic pain comes from diabetes. This can manifest as intense burning and aching pain in your feet. These intense headaches can cause sharp, throbbing, or pulsing pain. Carpal tunnel syndrome. This debilitating nerve condition causes tingling, numbness, and pins-and-needles pain. Cancer or viral infections such as the flu. These can cause deep aching, stabbing, burning, numbness, and hot or cold sensitivity. Autoimmune disorders. Lupus, Lyme disease, rheumatoid arthritis, fibromyalgia, shingles, and spinal stenosis can cause intense burning, stabbing, and aching pain, as well as temperature sensitivity. Tissue Pain In terms of the therapeutic situation, I think this feeling says to the client, I have a real hunger to know you, to experience your warmth, your expressivity -- in whatever form it may take -- to drink as deeply as I can from the experience of you in the closest, most naked relationship which we can achieve. I do not want to change you to suit me: the real you and the real me are perfectly compatible ingredients of a potential relationship which transcends, but in no way violates, our separate identities. This whole idea seems important to me, not so much from the theoretical standpoint, but rather because of its apparent importance in the process which some of my clients have been undergoing. Simple experiencing of this kind of feeling toward my clients has left me with the feeling that I'm giving everything that I can to the therapeutic relationship, and this in turn leaves me with no feeling of withholding or guilt. It also seems responsible for my increased ability to say no to specific demands or requests which the client may make with no feeling of rejecting him or letting him down in any way. Whether I'm kidding myself theoretically or not, this feeling of emotional adequacy in a therapeutic relationship seems very essential in creating a spontaneous and completely free relationship with clients. My third assertion, namely, that therapeutic growth takes place as a result of experiences which have an emotional rather than an intellectual meaning to clients, falls more into the area of those things about which there is considerable common agreement. We speak very often, for example, of the emotional impact of acceptance where rejection is expected. I only wish to add that acceptance is an emotional phenomenon, not an intellectual one. I think it implies that we feel something positive toward the client, rather than that we feel neutrally toward him.

His financial personas fit nicely with his subtle rebellion against his dad's obsessive focus on money. As an adult, Les learned that his dad had had a partner who had been too easy with money and details. They nearly lost the business and their shirts. His dad had taken charge and turned things around, however, he didn't understand that his unresolved anger and fears were running and ruining his life. Both Les and his dad were focused on creating abundance; Soon Les decided to adjust his manner of keeping receipts. His deeper appreciation for details and the people who handled them well shifted those relationships, and his money flowed with more ease. Les's eventual reconciliation with his father--from whom he had angrily distanced himself many years earlier--was an answer to his mother's prayers. Now Les is included in the flow of love and abundance from his family. So, you may be saying, what do these personas and stories have to do with creating abundance? Nociceptive pain is caused by injury to the tissue, including on and under the skin and in the organs. Sensors called nociceptors provide a lot of information. They respond to physical, temperature, and chemical stressors. An example of a physical stressor would be sitting on a hard chair for hours, which sends information from your glutes to your spinal cord to your brain that you'd better get up and move to get some blood flowing. A temperature sensor would tell you to pull your hand away from a flame, because you've learned it may burn you. Chemical sensors are the chemicals your body produces due to inflammation, stress, and even happiness. Nociception is a good thing because it makes us aware of what's happening to our tissues, joints, and organs. Types of tissue pain include: Bone fractures. Sensors in bones are highly aware of stresses and strains.

I think clients are very much aware of the difference between the counselor who listens and understands, and simply does not react, and the one who understands, and in addition really cares about the meaning to the client of the feelings, reactions, and experiences which he is exploring. Another experience which I have been having, which points out the significance of the emotional level of interaction, is that there have been times when a great deal of interaction has gone on on this level at a time when the verbalization of the client has been far removed from it. Perhaps the best illustration of this kind of interaction is illustrated by the reactions of the client, as given at the end of this paper, to this persistent emotional process. In concluding this long and I'm sure not very clear discussion of the therapist's emotional investment in therapy, I would like to say that I feel that the client establishes the same kind of relationship with his therapist that he forms with other people in his environment. It contains the same inhibitions, ambivalences, conflicts, needs, values, goals, and so on; I should like to depart at this point from the ticklish business of trying to describe the therapeutic relationship as I see it, and mention briefly and haphazardly some theoretical points which have come to have importance to me. The first of these points has to do with the question of why a need or feeling is repressed. It has been fundamental to my thinking in this area that somewhere along the line it has been learned, with appropriate emotional reinforcement, that the need or feeling in question is bad and that its expression will bring rejection from those whom we value most in our life situation. I am quite certain that this is a fairly basic dynamic which does appear in the personality make-up of all of us; I believe that some needs and feelings are repressed, not because it has been learned that they are bad, but rather because it has been learned that, if expressed, they will not be satisfied. Everything! They are at the very core of not getting or creating what you really want. Each of us has a Number-One and a Number-Two Persona who engage when we feel afraid and think that there is not enough of something--not enough money now or for the future, or the fear that we will be left short of money when we need it the most. Many of us also conceal some unresolved anger about someone else having more--more than enough money, food, a bigger nicer home, better jobs and clothes than we do. The classic statement It's not fair! For each of us the Not fair! Again, any energy held in midcycle will keep repeating until the full cycle is experienced and allowed to flow on and dissipate. Your own Number-One and Number-Two Personas come into play as you go about creating abundance. Number One shows up as you seem to be successful, and Number Two emerges when you come up against some obstacle. Your banker, boss, and colleagues also have their own Number-One and Number-Two Personas.