Your communication is stronger when the words you say and the way you say them send the same message. Sometimes assertive words don't come across clearly if the body language tells a different story. When the words you say and your body language disagree, the listener will tend to believe the body language; this can undermine the message or confuse the other person. How would you rate your level of flexibility? What can you do to improve it? How would you rate your balance? What can you do to improve it? Do you have any physical injuries, and or disabilities? If so, do you have a trusted healthcare professional whom you can consult with in moving forward to an exercise plan? So if it's something you do for yourself and if it can help you heal, why is it so hard to forgive? It's hard because you're angry, confused, feel victimized or filled with thoughts of retribution or revenge. It can also be hard to forgive because you simply don't know how to resolve the situation. If you've now reached a point where you want to put your own or someone else's actions behind you and move on with your life, there are a number of steps you can take. Firstly, it really helps to accept what has happened and how it affected you. No doubt the other person is responsible for their actions and you wish that what they did had never happened. But you can't change what has already happened. It is what it is. So some of this hyperactive behavior is the need for stimulation and some of it is learned. Some of it is short attention span and some may be just compulsiveness. I have trouble sitting still.

also need to feel like I'm not wasting time, but that I'm accomplishing something. So while I squeeze the cork, I'm exercising, which is a good thing. Yet, if I can sit with my wife at the table while she finishes her dinner, that clearly is not a waste of time. I'm aware of feeling I have so much to do and so little time to do it in. This is not really healthy, but there it is and I think it's part of ADD. The whole thing is complicated: ADD, hyperactivity, short attention span, need for stimulation, learned behavior, compulsiveness, the pressure of things that need to be done. Anyway, the diet popsicles and the cork strategies are quite helpful. you are wondering how your body language comes across, you could: Ask someone you trust to give you some gentle feedback. Watch yourself in the mirror as you talk on the phone. Observe an audio or video recording of yourself talking. Training Yoga teachers to reach competency is multifaceted, and although founded on personal practice and the ethics of best practices, this is not enough. Hence, we are seeing the establishment of training programs with proscribed learning pathways, methods for assessing competence, and ways to support continuing education. Along with these institutional training programs come organizations and associations attempting to standardize and control who can deliver this work. While we agree that it is important to have standards and a way for the public to recognize who is and who is not qualified to teach, it remains to be seen whether any one governing body beyond those already overseeing each mental health profession is necessary in the field of teaching Yoga. Best practices in teacher training will evolve, as will ways of assessing and maintaining competence. This will need to ensure the primacy of personal mindfulness practice and the teacher's embodiment of this, which is, after all, the heart of teaching Yoga. Part of our hyperactivity may be that we need extra stimulation to help us focus. We may not be able to control our hyperactivity, but we can develop strategies to cope with it. Our personalities are partly shaped by the effects of our ADD or ADHD, and the way we cope with our problems is partly determined by our personalities. Our genes and our early environment interact to produce our personality.

But we do have the capacity to change. I strongly believe taking ownership of the stresses you are dealing with will give you the power to make transformations in every area of your life. But the fact is that we all respond to stress in very different ways. Stress is natural. It is our bodies' defense against danger, and it flushes our bodies with hormones to prepare for or confront danger. You've heard it described as the fight or flight response. The symptoms of stress are both physical and psychological. But here's the catch: While short-term stress is helpful in preparing to face danger, long-term stress is dangerous to our health. That's why learning ways to manage stress are really important.1 I'd like to share my personal story about how I deal with stress as well as train you on a healthier different way to think and respond to stress. Because I encountered so many stress events in my life, I became an accidental expert on how to deal with stress. I have had many hands-on experiences in dealing with unbelievable stress that might have crushed many people. Think positively: instead of thinking about how you can get back at the other person, think about what you learned from the experience. What would you do differently to avoid becoming involved in a similar situation? Ask yourself What strengths can I develop from this?' Identify any positive aspects. <a href=''>Maybe</a> other people were helpful and supportive when this person betrayed you, hurt or offended you. <a href=''>Maybe,</a> if you've now cut this person from your life, you realize how much better off you are without them. <a href=''>Change</a> the story you replay to yourself and to other people. <a href=''>Each</a> time you go back over what happened, you access negative thoughts and images. <a href=''>Change</a> your story to one that tells of your decision to forgive; to accept and learn from what happened, to identify any positive aspects and move on. <a href=''>Look</a> to the future; think of creating new, good memories to replace old, bad ones. <br /><br /><a href=''>One</a> thing I know for sure: It took me a while to learn how not to focus on the problems that were causing me to feel stressed or anxious. <a href=''>Over</a> time, I've learned to shift my thinking and search for solutions. <a href=''>Once</a> I started focusing on resolving my problems, then my stressful situations appeared to become more manageable for me to resolve. <a href='[]=<a+href=></a>'>Case</a> in point: Have you ever had a personal invitation to have a meeting with an IRS agent? <a href='[]=<a+href=></a>'>Isn't</a> that what you would consider one of the scariest things on earth? <a href='[]=<a+href=></a>'>Because</a> I had never had this type of experience before, my first reaction was one of panic. <a href=''>However,</a> at the same time I wondered, why am I panicking? <a href='[]=<a+href=></a>'>I've</a> done nothing wrong; this must be a mistake. <a href=''>Right</a> now I'm discouraged. <a href=''>I</a> did not organize the writing of this book very well. <a href=''>I</a> had bits and pieces of it scattered around in two computers. <a href=''>Then</a> I pasted all the pieces into one master document. <a href=''>Now</a> I'm editing it and there are multiple repetitions. <a href=''>Some</a> paragraphs are in here four times, the same paragraph. <a href=''>I</a> was feeling great that I had over two hundred pages. <a href=''>I</a> thought I was about ready to go, write the publisher, etc. <a href=''>Then</a> I saw all of these duplications. <a href=''>Lots</a> of them. <a href=''>I'm</a> finally almost finished taking them out. <a href=''>Clearing</a> this up has been a lot of work. <br /><br /><a href=''>It's</a> taken me two days of free time. <a href=''>Now</a> I hear myself saying "That was stupid." and "What a bunch of wasted effort!" Problem: "What do I do if they sayno'?"When the other person is not willing to agree to your fair request, you can negotiate and try to reach a compromise. While it may not feel good to hear the other person say "no" to your request, at least they have answered honestly. You have a right to ask, and they have a right to say "no." Negotiating can be a good way to respect your own needs and wishes while also respecting the other person's needs and wishes. If the person says "no," ask for reasons. You may learn something that will help you to think of ideas that the other person would accept. Try repeating what they said in your own words to check that you understood. If the other person keeps saying "no" to your ideas, try asking them to make a proposal. People are more likely to agree to their own ideas. The time came to meet the IRS agent, and I must say, it turned out to be a great learning experience for me. Why do I say that? It's because I learned directly a few significant tax tips as well as the careless mistakes that my tax person of ten years had made. Also, I learned that my tax person of ten years had been sourcing out my taxes. What was my lesson learned? I discontinued services with my tax person, and now I have only trusted tax consultants with appropriate credentials and a proven track record. Getting an invitation for an audit is an experience you never want to have. Luckily for me, I had all of my financial records for the requested three-year review. Thank God. Forgiveness doesn't mean you shouldn't have any more feelings about the situation. It doesn't mean you are excusing the other person's actions; it doesn't mean there is nothing further to work out in the relationship or that everything is OK now.