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Have more targets than you think you can hit. Be a little more ambitious than you usually are. Seek to accomplish more than you think you can. Les Brown says, Most people fail in life not because they aim too high and miss, but because they aim too low and hit. If you usually have 10 goals, set 20. It's better to aim for 20 and accomplish 14 than to set 10 and reach 10. It's about outdoing what THINK AND BELIEVE you can do. It's proving you are mentally tougher than you think. It's forcing yourself to develop an, even deeper, sense of urgency to push yourself to accomplish. It's about knowing you can go beyond what you think is possible. While many procrastinators mention that housework is a major chore that never seems to get done, what really seems to bother them is that cleaning seemed to be a whole lot easier when they were younger. Take Ted, for instance, who says, "When I was a kid, cleaning up my room was a snap! One, two, three, done! So, why does housecleaning feel like such a horrendous ordeal today?" Ted's committing one of the prime offenses that many other procrastinators make: he's comparing his distant past to his life today. While we all have the tendency to compare our present-day lives to our past, or to other persons' lives, the result of this is often a distorted outlook, and one that can take an emotional toll on us. For example, imagine that you've just noticed people who are dressed to the nines, and they're hopping into a dreamy sports car. If you were having a difficult day, you might say to yourself, "Gee, when did I miss the boat? How come I don't have a car like that?" Does that kind of internal self-talk make you feel better about yourself, or worse? On the other hand, if you saw a homeless person sitting by the side of building holding a worn paper cup, you might give him some spare change, but would you think to yourself, "Well, I might be having a bad day, but compared to him, I'm not doing that badly." Not too many of us would, because when procrastinators compare themselves to others, we only tend to do so when we're putting ourselves down. Even for those people who decide against medication, there are a wide range of alternative treatments, and their doctor is likely the best referral source for mental health services in their area.

This can include individual psychotherapists, mental health clinics, or the local hospital depending on how severe the symptoms are and what treatment options happen to be available nearby. Unfortunately, many of these services tend to be concentrated in the larger cities, and people living in rural areas may have trouble finding the help they need. Many people dealing with depression, especially adolescents and teenagers, might also be reluctant to talk to a counselor face-to-face. One alternative that is becoming increasingly popular for many people with depression is accessing mental health care online or using one of the toll-free hotlines maintained by many national organizations (some examples are provided in the appendix). Most of these hotlines are serviced at all times by trained counselors or volunteers who can offer support as well as provide information about local resources that might be available. For many people with depression, much of the appeal for these services stems from the ability to access them anonymously. For adolescents and teens feeling suicidal or dealing with issues that they may be reluctant to share with their parents, online sites or hotlines can literally be a lifesaver in many cases. Altruism is concern for the welfare of others and it is one of the factors that explains why some countries are happier than others. According to the World Happiness Report 2012, a society cannot be happy unless there is a high degree of altruism among its members. However, it is not just society in general that becomes happier through altruism. We feel personally better. Try to recall a time you did something nice for a stranger, not because you wanted to gain something from it, just for the pure purpose of helping somebody else. How did that action make you feel? For me, it was something as simple as giving someone a banana. Walking home from the supermarket, I was waiting at a red light. Next to me was a mother with her kid, who was crying: I am hungry.' It was a quick fix. <a href='http://osoo.co.uk/Challenges-around-Perspective.html'>I</a> broke one of the bananas I had bought off the bunch and handed it to the mother:Would you like a banana for your kid?' I had seldom seen anyone so grateful. She was happy. The kid was happy. I was happy.

Here we are talking about affective happiness - our mood. My happiness was in part caused by helper's high. It's said you have to be crazy to be crazy successful and those with mediocre minds stop and give up. That's why they place limits on themselves - because they're afraid others will think they're crazy. You have to believe and do things that defy logic. You have aim to accomplish more than what anyone believes is possible. Steve Jobs said, Here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes... the ones who see things differently. They're not fond of rules. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can't do is ignore them because they change things... they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do. Eben Pagan, in one of his dating programs, talks about a friend who had a lot of success with women actually believing that every single woman in the world wanted him. Did every single woman actually want him? Probably not. But believing it gave him the confidence to carry himself in a way that made him more attractive to more women. In addition, when Ted makes comparisons to how things were when he was a boy, he embarks upon a momentary voyage to a time that no longer exists. While memories most certainly have a proper place in our minds, when Ted remembers as a response to a need (in this case, to cleaning his place), his memorializing becomes fantasizing, which is another substitute activity that procrastinators engage in to avoid their tasks. Sure, housecleaning was easier for Ted when he was a kid, but then, shouldn't it have been? After all, how does his present-day life compare to his life back then?

Did he have his own place? No, he just had a bedroom in his parents' home. Did he have to vacuum or mop all the floors, including the bathroom, as he does now? No, again. Ted needs to remind himself that back when he was a boy, all he really needed to do was make his bed, neatly put away his clothes and toys, and perhaps arrange his schoolbooks for the next day. There really isn't much of an actual connection between the situations, yet Ted persists in creating one, and to his own detriment. As a grown man, Ted's life is complicated, just as much as almost any adult's life is. His chronic comparisons don't help his habitual procrastinating at all. Another problem with Ted's habit of comparing himself to his younger-self, and to others, is it often leaves him feeling resentful. Ted's angry resentments lead him to think up self-statements within his mind like: "Life isn't fair!" While such thoughts may seem like a natural reaction, they can actually help perpetuate procrastination because it's much easier to complain about our tasks than it is to act on them. Along with sites for national organizations, there are also chat room sites where people can discuss specific issues and interact with others who might be going through the same issues themselves. Some of these chat sites are part of a large community with users from across the country who have a variety of interests and personal issues that they might want to talk about. Make sure that the chat site you are using is being moderated to avoid dealing with "trolls" who may sabotage the conversation with malicious posts. No matter the advice that you may receive, whether online or in person, it is always up to you to make the final decision about the kind of treatment you want. It's also important to recognize that there is no miracle cure or "quick fix" when dealing with depression. This is why it is important never to give up hope and, if the first attempt at seeking help doesn't work out, to not be afraid to try again. The term is based on the theory that doing something good makes us feel good, because the action produces a mild version of a morphine high. Our brain has something called the nucleus accumbens - also known as the reward centre - which is activated in response to food or sex. Neurological research from the National Institutes of Health under the US Department of Health and Human Services finds that the area of our brain that is activated in response to food or pleasure also lights up when participants in the study think about giving money to charity. In other words, we are wired to feel good when we do something that makes our species survive.

Cooperating is good for the survival of our species, so we are wired to feel good when we engage in it. It's easier to accomplish goals when you're extremely specific about any and everything relating to each individual goal. Not only do you want to be specific, you want to be overly-specific, clear, and obsessed - like cutting a lawn with a pair of scissors and making sure not to miss a single blade of grass. Cover, analyze, and familiarize yourself with every single little detail involved in the goal-reaching process and every single detail about the actual goal itself - the two can involve very different details. Each detail you overlook and fail to catch increases the difficulty and decreases the likelihood of reaching that goal. Again, when Conor McGregor beat Eddie Alvarez and became the first and only UFC fighter to hold 2 championship best simultaneously, he repeated over and over that he wasn't surprised he was the champion because he was so certain about what he wanted. That it's all he concerned himself with. That he saw it clearly in his mind over and over. That he obsessed over every single detail. That he was extremely specific and backed it up with extremely specific hard work and training. Likewise, when we feel angry and resentful, we act a bit like the elder lion that roars at the younger lions just to show who's boss. Once the elder lion finds no one else to prove that he's "King of the Beasts," he quickly finds a shady spot and takes a nap. Similarly, after Ted has run, "It isn't fair--and it shouldn't be this way!" a few times through his conscious mind, he then does the same as the lion king; he takes a nap! Lastly, Ted sometimes compares himself to people that, in his opinion, perform better than he does. Usually, they are co-workers of his, and while Ted may be aware of his resentments of them, he may not be as aware that those resentments sometimes register on his face or in his body language. Once again, as much as we might like to, we cannot automatically change overnight from being habitual procrastinators into "do"-ers. However, please remember that you aren't under any pressure to change. Instead, just try to be on the lookout for those times when you "compare and despair." And, should you catch yourself "comparing and despairing," be gentle with yourself by complimenting yourself for finding this mental trip hazard. Then, try thinking of another way of looking at the same situation. In that way, the next time you find yourself in a similar situation, you might avoid the pitfalls that can occur when we make comparisons.