For example, we don't have to respond to every e-mail and text the second we get it. To do so is disruptive and interferes with our ability to create flow and momentum. We get going, find a steady pace, and are on a roll, so to speak; Quercetin is a flavonoid, which is a type of natural pigment found in many plants and foods, including berries, apples, grapes, cherries, red wine, onions, and green tea. It is a powerful antioxidant, and studies in humans suggest that it may be protective against neurodegenerative disorders. In addition, in some animal models of MS, quercetin prevented demyelination and sped up remyelination of damaged neurons. Quercetin has also been studied for its effects on perinatal cerebral hypoxia/ischemia (PHI)--a condition seen in newborns who suffer from a lack of oxygen to the brain. One of the dangers of PHI is that brain cells do not undergo myelination. In an animal model of cerebral hypoxia/ischemia, quercetin was shown to increase the number of cells that produce oligodendrocytes, which are required for myelination to occur. Quercetin was also shown to protect oligodendrocytes once they formed. Not only did quercetin improve myelination in this animal model, but the cognitive performance of the animals was also shown to improve as a consequence. Quercetin may also have neuroprotective effects by supporting the acetylcholine neurotransmitter system. Pyrroloquinoline quinone (PQQ) is a neuroprotective nutrient found in a variety of vegetables, such as spinach and green peppers, and in kiwifruit, tofu, green tea, and human milk. Is there a public figure, movie star, television personality, article character, or someone you know that reminds you of how you feel in this reactive state? Give the Body Felt Sense a name and get ready to relate to it! Relating to Archetypes Benjamin and I got a powerful lesson in the importance of listening carefully to archetypes that show up in relationship when, after sixteen years of knowing each other, we finally made the decision to legally marry. We had carefully weighed the outer social, political, and economic ramifications of our decision. We waited until it looked likely that gay marriage would be legalized in Maine (the people of Maine voted in the bill two months after our ceremony) so that the LGBTQ+ members of our community shared the same rights to legalize and publicly celebrate the commitment. We spoke to our lawyer and sorted out the complexities of shared resources and inheritance in our blended family.

We had a budget and a date. We were ready to go. But we hadn't reckoned with the inner situation and the power of the coniunctio--the archetype of the divine marriage. He gave them to us with the desire that we look after them responsibly and lovingly. Remember how 1 Corinthians 3:16 and 6:19 tell us that our bodies are a temple or a holy place, set apart as the residence for God's Spirit? Think about how temples, churches, or holy places are treated in our world. Perhaps you have visited some holy sites around the world or in your own area and can picture how people look after them. In general, people revere and care for these places. They spend lots of money, time, and effort to maintain them so they might endure across the ages. What does that mean for us, if we are God's temple? When I first read over this idea, I was stunned. Could this really be how I was to consider my body? If my body really is God's temple, how am I to care for it as a sacred place? This inevitably creates an imbalance in your relationships and can lead to your being undervalued and exploited. You need to know your worth and that you have a right to expect others to appreciate what you are offering. Appreciating your value doesn't mean you're suddenly going to become boastful or demand that others thank you for everything you do. It means that you'll choose carefully who you give to. If your gifts are unappreciated, you simply stop giving to that person and give to others who will be grateful. Notice how your gifts are treated by others, and use that as information to move toward or away from relationships appropriately. In your journal, list the traits, qualities, skills, and ways of showing love that you bring to relationships.

Turn each one into a positive statement about yourself, starting with the words I am. For example, I am You deserve to be appreciated for everything that is on your list, and you also deserve to receive these same things from others. The more we know about our kids' lives, the more valuable we become when they have worries or crises. We know their friends' names and which kids are the school bullies; Soon enough, friends their own age will become your kids' confidants and consultants--but when that transition occurs, the close relationships you have built with your kids will bring them back to you for the big issues and even for some of the smaller ones. When your kids feel you are actively engaged in their lives, because you have had ample time with them to truly listen and absorb, they will feel comfortable entering into each new discussion with you--they won't feel that you just don't get it, Mom, because you do get it. You know the players and the play, so each new scene starts in a familiar setting. That's what being a best friend is all about. Designer Children -- Nature vs. You want your kids to be smart, talented, kind, responsible, well mannered, loving, athletic, humble, generous, funny, and good-looking, right? Not a problem. There are hundreds of articles and Web sites out there to help with each of those child designs and more. We need to put down the phone and curb distractions in order to think more clearly, because it has become increasingly difficult to go where people cannot gain access. We see what constant noise does to our attention span and how it gets shorter every year. For example, if TV commercials fail to grab our attention within the first five seconds, we quickly find another channel to watch. Try this self-test. See if you can sit in total silence for seven minutes, making no physical movements and focusing only on your breathing. Once you accomplish this, see if you can then start to slow down your thoughts. Try it and you will be amazed at how relaxed you can become.

The next time you walk into your local grocery or convenience store and you're in line at the checkout, look around to see what's there. You'll likely find energy drinks like 5-Hour Energy, Monster, and Red Bull. It seems that some sort of brand-new energy drink is out there giving us all the lifelong vitality we need, whether it's a triple shot of this or a double espresso of that. Affirmations and positive psychology don't work when shit hits the fan. Honesty is the only long-term strategy. The truth is that life changes all the time. Good times follow bad times, and vice versa. Go with it. Don't resist. And be honest about how you feel. Being honest also means you should let others know who you are. Too often, we hide our personality from others. We think they will judge us and stop liking us. It could be urgent. It could be important. And maybe it is, and maybe it's not. Maybe it's someone else's urgency, and they want to put it onto us. But whatever it is, we have allowed it to disrupt us. Our flow is gone, as is our momentum. Making constant allowances for these digital disruptions, it becomes frustrating at best to accomplish and enjoy anything of substance or duration.

In light of this fact, one of our decisions to change our daily habits might involve setting aside specific time in our schedules for checking e-mails and responding to texts, and stop allowing them to be an on demand activity. We can choose to make ourselves a little less accessible to the outside world, and the demands of whoever may call, text, or e-mail us at any time of the day or night. We can still be accessible, but more on our terms and at our convenience. It can also be taken as a supplement. PQQ helps heal the brain and encourages the growth of new nerve cells. It supports the production of new mitochondria, enhances ATP production, and counteracts oxidative damage. In a healthy diet that includes lots of vegetables, you can consume up to 1 mg a day. In another study, people took 20 mg of PQQ daily, resulting in a decrease of the inflammatory marker C-reactive protein. PQQ also stimulates NGF in brain cells, as demonstrated in lab studies. In theory, increasing NGF helps with nerve growth and repair and improves neuroplasticity to improve memory and learning. PQQ also helps reduce neuroinflammation by limiting pro-inflammatory cytokines, as shown in animal research on traumatic brain injury. One animal study showed that PQQ helped counteract the neurotoxic effects of glutamate on brain cells and significantly reduced the degree of damage from oxidation. PQQ also helps the body use coenzyme Q10 (CoQ10) and vitamin D3 more efficiently. Weddings have a potent force field, and soon all our friends had something to say about it. Some expressed shock and dismay that after so many years of standing for some alternative expression of relationship, we'd made what they viewed as a conventional decision. Others were excited and wanted to help. Our friends were more than generous with everything from their time to their organizational skills to the tablecloths, napkins, and china we'd use for the reception. A farmer friend offered a lamb and two others said they'd take care of the outdoor grill. Soon, everyone had gotten involved. The DJ, the cake, chairs, and tables.