Whenever you have a feeling, chemical messengers go to work to give instructions to the cells of your body. If you feel compassion for your co-worker and want to help, your body creates the oxytocin molecules of care and attachment. Those molecules have a specific shape, vibration, and spin that gives instructions to your cells that everything is safe and they can function at their highest. Oxytocin also gives instructions to your cells to promote the functioning of your immune system to fight disease. These feeling molecules keep you healthy. If, on the other hand, your co-worker's distress reminds you of a past event in which you felt that person did you wrong, you might feel resentment, which is similar to anger, which is related to fear. Then your body immediately makes feeling molecules of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Those particular feeling molecules tell the cells of your body that there is danger, there is something to be fearful of. This triggers your blood vessels to enlarge to get more blood flowing through your heart to your muscles, ready for a fight or flight response. Those molecules also tell your body to reduce immune-system response and decrease blood flow to your stomach, liver, kidneys, and other organs that are not essential to fight a battle or flee danger. When you move your legs and feet with a purpose, it means you are shifting from a point to the next one. Arm crossing in front of your chest announces a confrontation to your audience. Alternatively, it may also mean that you are thinking deeply about the response to the audience question. When you stand still while listening to something means you express interest in that question. Several body movements that happen unknowingly; These natural body gestures help in deliver a strong message to the listener however, unnecessary gestures distracts the audience. Examples of distracting body movements include: Swaying gesture: when you keep moving constantly from one side to another, whilst addressing the audience from the podium, the listeners cannot focus on your speech; Walking up and down at a rapid pace: When you move along the corners of the room at fast pace without any purpose, the audience members lose their concentration and look at your movements. Repetitive hand movements: When you hide your face constantly with your hands such as moving out hair from your eyes, you are actually distracting the audience members.

Our cognitive style, affective state, and verbal and nonverbal forms of communication contribute to the effect. Where stress occurs over a prolonged period or where a chronic medical or psychiatric disorder is present, as I have noted in the preceding articles, existing pathology may be exaggerated by the meanings of situations and relationships, or by institutional constraints such as disability claims. But such somatization also stems from our prior experience of the symptoms and our current anticipatory fears of, and need to control, symptom exacerbation. That is to say, somatization occurs routinely to patients with asthma, heart disease, arthritis, diabetes, and chronic pain syndromes, as does its opposite, minimization and denial of symptoms. The experience of chronic illness provides personal training in both ways of responding to symptoms. Physicians contribute to somatization in several ways: they may help to confirm the patients' suspicions that there is something worth worrying about; Families, too, often contribute to somatization by untoward patterns of responding to, and therefore inadvertently encouraging, certain forms of complaints. In cases of chronic pain, as we shall soon see, the problem is magnified. For chronic pain syndromes are almost by definition conditions in which the degree of pathology does not seem to explain the severity of perceived pain or the limitations in bodily functioning the pain produces. In this setting the pain patient feels pressure to convince self and others that the pain is real--hence the unwillingness of many pain patients to accept psychosocial explanations that appear to deny that their pain is founded in a real bodily experience deserving of somatic remedies and a legitimate medical sick role. We can simply realize something and have it brought into our consciousness without action. Letting our resistance know this--that we can simply receive all the facts or understand what is going on with ourselves so that we can determine over time what to do about it--is one of the best ways to move past resistance. The other aspect of resistance is fear--fear that if you were to know something, you would somehow not be able to handle it. This again is a protective mechanism, and it often brings up valid points. If we were to open our hearts again, they might be broken again. If we were abused as a child (and a part of ourselves is still frozen at that age), we may not want to open or release energy from an area because it was an area of violation that perceives that it needs shielding. If, as a result of a parent, child, or friend passing, we experienced a lot of grief that was overwhelming at the time, we may have sectioned off that grief because we simply needed to go to work and get on with our lives. Understanding and feeling compassion for this resistance and understanding the time and reasoning for the resistance is critical. We are not commanding, pushing away, or telling resistance that it is bad here; And as it reveals that purpose, we can determine how much, if any, of the protection it offers we still require.

The client's beliefs about conflict and how affection was displayed in the family also need to be explored. Some people do not have an adequate understanding of the concept of nurturing and healthy attachment to a caregiver because it did not occur consistently within their own families. Consequently, the client may not have a strong sense of how to feel safe in the world. All this information provides direction in terms of what might be addressed first in therapy. In the initial interview stage, the therapist may or may not know that the client is dissociative, nor will the therapist necessarily be looking for it. The initial goal will be to take a thorough history to determine the most likely direction to proceed diagnostically. Other indicators present in this interview that might point toward DID are periods of amnesia for parts of the individual's childhood as well as amnesia that occurs currently, referred to as dissociative amnesia. Clients may make statements such as, I have a really bad memory or I do not remember much before the age of [pick a number]. Dissociative clients often provide the therapist with conflictive information, such as Oh yeah, I had tons of friends while growing up. Then, in the next breath, they might say something such as I always felt so lonely when I was a child. Barbara was shocked; When she told him there would be no smoking in the house, Craig argued that he should be able to smoke in the den. So they compromised on that. He also thought that he should stop accepting his regular paychecks. Saying no to the corporate world would surely help him advance in his creative one. Craig believed that the corporation was draining the life out of him, so he quit and gave up the company car and his salary. He wanted to earn a living as an astrologer, and although he got everything ready, the clients never came. How do you intend to build your business? He had no definitive answer. He just thought that Spirit would bring him clients--that his practice would build on its own.

Just take time during your snack to apply the mindfulness techniques you have learned. This way, you'll get used to them even if you don't try to meditate on purpose. Additional Tips to Achieve Mindfulness Many people can try to abide by the steps on how to achieve mindfulness but not all of them can succeed in achieving this state of mind. Achieving mindfulness can be a challenge but here are some tips to ponder on and abide by if you want to successfully achieve mindfulness and ensure your efforts are not in vain. Know the Obstacles to Achieving Mindfulness. What makes the achievement of mindfulness a real challenge are the obstacles you will meet along the way. One, achieving mindfulness takes time. It is not achieved instantly and sometimes you will reach the point of giving up before you actually achieve and master it. Two, achieving mindfulness takes a bit of effort on your part. Illusionists don't need to lie to trick people. Basically, illusionists create scenarios in which people deceive themselves. Can we trust our senses? Is seeing really believing? Maybe what we perceive to be true with our senses and feelings is not always reality. It might be time to check the narrative ruling your life and driving your choices and behavior, because the story you're telling yourself shapes the story you're living. That untrue story you were fed is what turned your wonder switch off, and it stays off by repeating that story over and over again. It's time to change the narrative. By now I hope you're beginning to understand that the same thing that is crushing your wonder today is most likely the thing that crushed your wonder as a child. Most psychologists agree that most of what shapes your current belief systems was in place by the time you were seven years old.

The media, the education system, TV, music, even your family, may be unconsciously working to make you disbelieve that your success - even your life - and happiness is under your control. As such, I ask you to put the blinders on while you're reading this article. Let it influence you. If you allow it to, the worst thing that could happen is that you gain much more control over your life and how its lived, and the direction in which you point it. The Talent Myth Talent is insignificant. I know a lot of talented ruins. Beyond talent lie all the usual words: discipline, love, luck, but, most of all, endurance. We like stories of talented people with innate abilities. We like them because it means that greatness or success or mastery is born and not earned. Your body does not know the difference between molecules generated because you feel an old resentment and molecules generated because there is physical danger like a fire that you must flee. The molecules give the same instructions to the cells of your body regardless of what caused the feeling. If resentment or anger is a rare thing for you to feel, your body will not build up very much adrenaline and noradrenaline, and these feeling chemicals will not cause much change inside you. If, on the other hand, you have anger or anxiety on a regular basis--like when I was living in the apartment and hearing abuse from the woman downstairs--you are generating a continual flow of anxiety and fear molecules, and you are likely creating an environment for disease and damage to your body, as I was to mine at that time. Healthy Feeling Power During my years working at a counseling center, I remember helping a woman named Sarah who was going to school, raising a family, and working. Like many people, Sarah was working hard to take care of her family and striving to achieve a dream at the same time. She did not have a lot of money and was constantly worried about whether she had enough to pay the bills each month. She had a fairly constant level of worry, stress, and anxiety running through her all the time. This stress was causing damage to her body.