I turned forward and began the process of setting boundaries around the respect I had for my life and my value. It works both ways. While I believe my lifestyle compromised my immune system, my willingness to hear my inner voice and trust myself got me to a diagnosis and treatment at an early stage. Then embracing life and health drove my desire for recovery--to live life in truth--my truth with integrity. It's been ten years now, and I've never been healthier in mind, body, and spirit. Clearly chronic stress has a strong impact on the immune system, particularly one that is already compromised. Learning how to take care of yourself in recovery will help you to relieve stress. Behavioral Health Issues They know that it's not good to have a session that looks excellent on paper (or, indeed, on a screen) but really sets you back because you used poor technique or put yourself in harm's way. An expert coach knows how to look at the quality of each session and notice indicators that don't show up on a tracker or that make its numbers useless. Perhaps you PR'd your dead lift but your knees caved in while you were doing it. In this case, your wearable would congratulate you on a job well done, while your coach would know that you gave up proper form and risked injury. He or she can explain to you that this isn't sustainable and what the consequences are when you compromise tomorrow for the sake of today. Such insight requires a human perspective. You're More Than an Algorithm App developers are falling over themselves to produce software that creates diet plans, training programs, and recovery protocols based on the latest and, supposedly, greatest algorithms. Yet no matter how many people's data they're using to create lines of best fit, they can't escape the fact that physiology is and always will be highly individualized. Say you have two female skiers who are both twenty-five, weigh 150 pounds, and are five feet eight inches tall. What was important for Kathryn was for the team to be open about good-natured, civil confrontation. There's a moment in the article where a team member is shown some honest criticism about her snarky attitude.

After the team heard about each other's lives and stories, they were more comfortable to work as a team to address issues together. That was where Kathryn wanted the team. She needed them to overcome the need for invulnerability. She needed them to eliminate their need to hold up a powerful facade. Remember from the Introduction how people have the Bias Blindspot? By eliminating the tendency to think that we're always high and mighty, we're much more inclined to work together and build a trustworthy team. So, did the company improve after two years of work? Here's how the rest of the story goes: ADDICTION: SUBSTANCE AND PROCESS It is not uncommon that as a response to stress and as a means to manage intolerable feelings, a betrayed partner finds herself engaging in and depending upon addictive behaviors. It may be a substance addiction found in the use of alcohol or other drugs. Often it is a process or behavioral addiction. Food is a particularly strong anesthetizer for women. Anorexia and bulimia with themes of control and image management are pervasive and common. Frequently, partners identify with compulsive spending or shopping. Some partners find solace in gambling or online gaming. It is also possible that any sexual acting out on your part may be addictive. You may find yourself relying more and more on the use of these manifestations to help you cope with the stress of the betrayal. An app would likely conclude that they're the same and spit out identical programs for them. And yet if you dig deeper, you'll find that these women have different injury histories, body compositions, and many other differences that aren't evident in rudimentary and reductionist data and would impact how they respond to the app's programming.

So if they both stick to the plan, one might progress in leaps and bounds while the other stagnates. This is another area that a good coach can help in, as they can dig deeper into an athlete's physiology, history, culture, and background and then combine this knowledge with their prior experience to create effective, sustainable, and tailored programs that don't rely on algorithmic assumptions and one-size-fits-all recommendations. Getting to know an athlete means going beyond what the numbers tell us. The Progress Report Risk Users of some wearables get a weekly progress report so they can see how they're doing with step totals, total exercise time, heart rate, and so on. Some gear makers also enable users to select several people to compare themselves with. The issue with this, and why I used quotes around the term progress report, is that technology can reduce progress to increasing daily and weekly totals. For people who've been sedentary for years, such reports can provide a little short-term motivation, and some people can find welcome accountability and encouragement in comparing themselves with a group of friends who are at a similar level. There were four other dysfunctions that she addressed and solved with the team. I'll give a brief statement about to teach. Inattention to Results - born out of a need to seek individual attention and acclaim at the expense of the team. Fear of Conflict - which creates artificial harmony, not true harmony. Kathryn levels with them by saying, I'd trade that false kind of harmony any day for a team's willingness to argue effectively about an issue and then walk away with no collateral damage. Lack of Commitment - there isn't true buy-in with everyone in the team, creating weak, hesitant followers. Avoidance of Accountability - by not holding each other accountable to what the agreed commitment was, drifting occurs and goals are not met. Each of these areas are built on a foundation of trust. A lack of trust in a team, according to Kathryn, must be solved before diving into any of these other issues. These issues are illustrated here: Complicating the situation, many partners will come to identify with relationship and love addiction, often within the coupleship making it difficult to engage in recovery practice due to unhealthy bonding to the person acting out. Today we know that as far as the brain is concerned a reward is a reward, regardless of whether it comes from a substance, behavior, or experience.

Love and relationship addicted patterns may occur, and these are shaped by an underlying belief that your worth and value are measured through your relationship with a partner regardless of how he or she treats you. We live in a quick fix, feel good culture that reinforces seeking outside answers to inside problems. While it may be your partner's behavior that led you to read this article, this is also the time for your own self-exploration. The behaviors may have preceded the sexual addiction in your coupleship or they may be an adaptive response to this crisis. It's important to recognize being addicted is not a statement about your worth or value, nor does it reflect a lack of strength or willpower. It does not in any capacity lessen the impact that your partner's sexual betrayal has on you and your relationship. A simple way to think about whether or not something is a problem for you is using the acronym of SAFE: Is the behavior, the substance, the frequency, or the amount in which you engage something others are not aware of? But for those who are already active, the usefulness of weekly graphs and charts soon diminishes. Anyone who is above a novice level in a sport needs to shift their focus from how much they're doing to how well they're doing it. Otherwise they get caught in the high-mileage, high-volume arms race that has burned out, injured, and forced the retirement of all too many athletes. Often, it takes the expertise of a coach to analyze the kind of numbers that wearables deliver to your inbox daily, weekly, or monthly, put these into context, and see how the quantity of the work you're doing is positively or negatively impacting its quality. The data can provide some useful baselines, but it typically takes the experience and broad view of a coach to draw meaningful conclusions from it and to make these actionable. Ryan Hall, one of the best American marathoners of his generation, is a prime example. He stepped away from elite-level running in 2015 because all those steps had left him broken, at the ripe old age of thirty-three. Too many miles had led not just to injury and a lack of a new personal best since 2008 but also to chronic fatigue and low testosterone--telltale signs that an athlete's nervous system can no longer cope with their training volume. The issues that forced him to quit aren't just occurring at the world-class level but are also increasingly prevalent among recreational athletes. Since he stopped logging high mileage, Hall has put on forty pounds of lean muscle while embracing the strength training that he worried would make him too bulky during his competitive career. The team needed an additional company retreat to continue dedicated improvements and training on the five dysfunctions. Mikey, one of the senior team members, left the company during the 2nd company retreat.

She did not like all the change that was occurring and actually left to work with a competitor. DecisionTech met their revenue goals three out of four quarters after Kathryn's involvement. Instead of the company being in 3rd place against their competitors, DecisionTech is now in a tie for 1st in market share. The overall morale of the company has dramatically increased and there's much less employee turnover. The team trusts in each other's commitment. The new team member to replace Mikey, Joseph, commented on the new team, two years after the 1st company retreat. This was his takeaway: For the rest of the day they launched into some of the most passionate debates Joseph had ever heard and ended those debates with crystal-clear agreements and no sense of lingering bitterness. Is it something you do not want to discuss openly? You may think it is not a secret, but in fact, if you find you're not being open about the degree to which you spend time engaging in or are preoccupied with it, then it is secretive. Is the behavior or substances hurtful or harmful to yourself or another at this stage? Is it hurting your relationship with someone else even if he or she is unaware? Is it harming you in some way, keeping you away from other priorities? Is it harmful to your self-esteem? Your finances? Your health? Does this process or behavior separate or remove you from your feelings? Does it medicate your feelings? Asked about his new routine by Runner's World, he said, I feel like it's giving life to my body instead of taking it away. Now I can go run and not feel fatigued and feel good.