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How many of you would feel at least a little anxious if your significant other confronted you with that same workaholic accusation? Anxiety produces butterflies in the stomach, tingling fingers, cold feet, a dry mouth, and rapid heartbeat. Your thought feed looks something like: This isn't good. Something's got to give here. Whether an analysis of more recent play therapy cases would show closer agreement with Seeman's results is problematical. It is quite possible that in a study based upon only four cases, observed discrepancies reflect sampling errors. With respect to the client categories, the most marked trend was an increased physical activity during the last three fifths of the therapy process. Also, during the latter period, about 70 per cent of client responses were expressions of feeling (verbally or in action). This percentage is significantly greater than the approximately 50 per cent observed in the first two quintiles. A Chi Square analysis indicated that the increased feeling was significantly related to the actions, rather than to the verbal responses. This is in agreement with common formulations of the rationale of play therapy. Unlike results reported for adult cases, Landisberg and Snyder found that it was the negative feelings which increased during play therapy. Positive feelings remained about 30 per cent of client responses throughout therapy. This is contrary to Seeman's data for adults. Their high self-esteem and the accompanying creativity have brought them many abilities that are essential to finding the job they want. They have also developed tenacity and optimism, enabling them to stick to their choices until they obtain financial benefits. They are the affirmation of life. For them, work is an expression of love and a way of being. Simplify your life (Minimalism) Living a simple life brings balance, joy and freedom.

Minimalistic living has been proven to be very advantageous. Starting to live simply and enjoying these benefits leads us to asking this question: Can I eliminate distractions elsewhere in life, simplify life, and focus on basic life? Once you can answer this question, you will realize the important things in your life. Too much material property makes your life more complicated to a higher degree than you agree. Either my career or relationship is going to suffer. The thoughts that fuel anxiety are all about the fear of a perceived future threat. Just as with violation for those with an anger radar, look hard enough for danger coming down the road and you'll find it, even if it's not really there. Mark Twain wrote, I've lived through many terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened. THE FRUSTRATION RADAR Perhaps instead of (or in addition to) feeling angry, you feel frustrated by this encounter. Again, that's a normal response. Frustration is a physical hybrid, mixing the agitation of anxiety with the flush of anger. Your thoughts might run to something like: There's nothing I can do here. I have no options. Although negative feelings comprised about 15 per cent of the child's responses during the first quintile, in the final fifth of therapy negative and positive feelings were of the same frequency. The latter finding is in agreement with that part of Seeman's report in which no distinction was drawn between tenses of expressed attitudes. Furthermore, in contrast to results with adult cases, children's expressions of feelings tended to be more and more directed toward other persons as therapy progressed. Here again, one cannot know whether this is a true difference between the psychotherapy of adults and children. Because the small sample was also homogeneous with regard to age, it is not even possible to state that the observed trends are likely to be true of the process of play therapy at other age levels. Further investigation is therefore indicated.

It might be more fruitful if future research in play therapy did not depend too heavily upon categories derived from the study of adult cases. Categories are ways of summarizing information. In order to be true to their basic data, they ought probably to spring from it. Otherwise, their forced character may mask significant findings. They drain your attention, energy and bank account. They keep you away from your loved ones and keep us away from a life based on the values you have. Declutter your unnecessary items in your life and you will always be happy that you took that decision. Time commitment Many people are fully committed from morning to the evening: work, family, community activities, children's activities, hobbies, religious activities. You need to cut the number of goals you pursue to a few. Reducing the number of goals you are trying to achieve increases your concentration and success rate. List the things you want to accomplish in your life and choose the two most important. After completing one, go to next one on the list. Negative thoughts- Many negative emotions you have are entirely useless. I'd rather be at home more but I can't; I've got to be at work. It's the classic feeling of being stuck between a rock and a hard place. If this is your common radar pattern, it falls into the bucket of beliefs known as lack of resources. For some people, this isn't a one-off. Their radar is tuned to pick up on the resources they don't have rather than the ones that they do.

This radar will lead them to see all the things they don't have as larger-than-life, while the things they do have appear to be microscopic. THE SADNESS RADAR Sadness shows up in our bodies like a heavy weight bearing down; It also often brings with it the feeling of being on the verge of tears. A study by Finke (59) attempted to overcome the disadvantages of adult-derived categories. Nineteen categories of feelings expressed by children in therapy were employed. These came from an examination of play therapy protocols. Inter-scorer reliabilities for categorizations ranged from 66 per cent to 77 per cent agreement with the original judge. The aim of the study was to determine whether any trends existed in the differential frequencies among feeling categories during the course of therapy. For this purpose, the therapists' notes on six cases of children between the ages of five and eleven years were analyzed. Four were boys and two were girls. The number of contacts per case ranged from eight to fourteen. Six different therapists were involved. The group included children seen at school and at a children's home. Jealousy pain, resentment, and hatred will never improve your quality of life. Be responsible for your own ideas. Forgive past hurts and get rid of negative thoughts in your mind and instead have positive ones. Benefits of living a Simple Life Personal Significance and Contentment Living with less stuff can help you wean yourself off your dependence or obsessions with material things and in the process, help you experience the true and lasting joys of contentment and a sense of personal significance.

Many people go bankrupt with mountains of credit card bills because of buying too much stuff they can't even afford to buy in the first place, thinking that the more they have, the more content they'll be. They also tie the amount of stuff owned to their self-worth, which aggravates the situation even more. Materialism is flame and buying more stuff to feel content is like pouring gasoline on it. Believe it or not, clutter has a way of keeping us from moving on from our pasts, especially undesirable ones. Your sadness thought feed for the same scenario would show as something like this: I thought our relationship was better than this. I thought we had an understanding and were in sync about my work. The fundamental belief behind those deeply attuned to sadness is that they've lost something. Perhaps it's a real-world loss, like losing a job, a relationship, or even your wallet. Or maybe it's a loss of self-esteem or a sense of self-worth, when you thought you were good at something and suddenly realize you're not, as in, I thought I was really strong in that interview, but not getting the job shows me I wasn't. Or perhaps it's what psychologists refer to as the ideal/real gap, as in, I thought my relationship was way up there, but I just got a sudden reminder that it's down here. The bigger the gap between the ideal and the real, the greater the sadness. THE UPSIDE TO DOWN EMOTIONS: Emotions are a biological and evolutionary gift. For instance, when we're sad or grieving, we slow down. Thousands of years ago, that would have meant we'd get eaten by a predator. These variations were introduced in order to ensure that results could not be attributed to the effects of any one therapist, playroom, or type of problem. Rather, the one factor common to all the cases was nondirective play therapy. Only five categories showed significant trends. A trend was defined as a deviation from theoretical frequencies in a consistent direction for at least one-third of the total number of contacts. The category, Story Units (stories made up by the child) showed a peak in the fifth contact and then declined. The category, Attempting to Establish a Relationship with the Counselor, showed a peak in the third contact.