As Carl Sagan said, science is a way of thinking much more than it is a body of knowledge. Data can be considered knowledge, but until this point in our history, most of what we thought we knew has been exposed as wrong (see: sugar is harmless; So what makes us think that what we're doing right now is any different? Having more information can give us a useful starting point, but don't fall into the trap of believing that it proves anything beyond fallibility. Start with the data and then let your body, awareness of your environment, and your coach's experience guide you from there. Do You Get High? In The Lego Movie, the protagonist, Emmet, looks at a set of instructions each morning to see what he's meant to do. The final statement on the cover of this manual promises that if he just follows the rules, he will always be happy. We invite people to come see our offices by attending our 2-day business workshop. We're basically putting a years' worth of consulting into two packed days. We're providing all the facts and actual steps you need to implement successful growth for your business! Our business conferences are actually the highest and most reviewed business conferences in the world. Just search on Google thrivetime show business conference and you'll find thousands of people screaming our praises. So, let's review. What else do you need! Even with all of this, people still think it's a scam. They still can't imagine it happening in their own lives. They believe the great testimonials and reviews are just something special that only happened with those people. He doesn't have to go to outside of the home or office, put himself at physical risk, or cruise the streets. Anytime, day or night, in the comfort of his home or workplace, his fix is available with devastating consequences just as harmful as realtime sex addiction.

Just as the majority of alcoholics are not homeless, most sex addicts do not fit the erroneous stereotype of criminal offenders who satisfy their needs by forcing themselves on helpless victims. This is not to say that there are not victims in sexual addiction. In reality, all addictive sexual behavior is victimizing; The behaviors of a sex addict are often emotionally hurtful and disrespectful of others, but only a few behaviors are considered crimes and those differ in the degree of personal violence involved. Certainly, child molestation and rape inflicts deep emotional wounds, but many people who commit sex crimes, specifically child molesters and rapists, are not compulsive. They are sociopaths engaged in acts of aggression. Sexually addictive behavior does not necessarily indicate criminal behavior; Research in the field of addiction supports the belief that different forms of addiction taps into the same brain chemistry. This is a cynical observation about our society's hyperoptimism but also an accurate one. We've elevated the pursuit of happiness above life and liberty, and when our epicurean lifestyle doesn't live up to expectations, we take pills to moderate our emotions because we think we're depressed. Fitness technology feeds into this need for constant happiness by rewarding us with an endless string of visual, auditory, and haptic encouragements and congratulations. And just like Emmet, we look to our devices to tell us what to do so we can achieve this perma-happy state. What we've overlooked is that our physiology is constantly seeking a return to equilibrium, which means that for each high there needs to be a corresponding low to level us out. Frank Merritt believes that we've focused so much on stimulating our happy hormones that we've conveniently forgotten that others are meant to bring us down again. We might be pursuing constant happiness, but it's not natural or obtainable. To rediscover emotional equilibrium and well-being, we need to first recognize the differences between happiness and joy. The former is a reaction to our surroundings that relies on an external stimulus, like a wearable vibrating when we hit a new personal best. Joy, on the other hand, is an intrinsic feeling that we often come to through trial and adversity. They don't even bother to watch the reviews! The reality is, it's a much deeper issue that plagues these business owners.

It's a bigger problem because, just like in the stories from Phil Jackson and Kathryn with DecisionTech, it's an internal problem. These business owners no longer believe in themselves. They no longer trust themselves. The Biggest Betrayer of Our Trust? There's a bigger crime that happens on a daily basis to everyone. It's not from the potential scammers out there who could take advantage of you. It's not from the lawmakers who won't keep their word. It's not from the car salesperson who's trying to get you to buy a car just so they get a commission. Whatever the substance or behavior, it can manifest in any one of these types. Arousal-type addictions are also thought of as intensity addictions; The danger can be physical danger or a social danger, such as being caught in the act. Satiation-type addictions are seen in behaviors that medicate personal pain and anxiety. Fantasy-type addictions involve imagined sexual experiences. Many addicts mix and match their sexually addictive behaviors as well as other addictive disorders. One can move from fantasy and escape to arousal and back to escape. For example, a man who masturbates while fantasizing he is having sex with a woman he sees on the internet. Then at greater risk to himself, he moves on to meeting this woman in person and after having a clandestine meeting of rough sex he returns home to a night of drinking to oblivion. Addicts live an all-or-nothing kind of life, not knowing how to moderate themselves. If we cease relying on a machine, the circumstances of our life, and other people's likes, retweets, and follows to provide happiness, we might be able to get closer to finding real joy. If you're unhappy, it might not be that you have too much suffering or adversity in your life but too little.

Start seeking out experiences (preferably outdoors) that push you and make you feel uncomfortable (see article 9 for some suggestions). In Pole Position One of the keys to being a competent athlete and a fully functioning human being is developing the movement literacy needed to access all the basic movement archetypes--basic body positions, like a squat, lunge, and press--at any time and in any environment. That's one of the reasons I enjoy jiujitsu so much. Unlike some other martial arts that have rigid systems and require participants to memorize complex series of moves to earn their next belt, jiujitsu requires you to constantly improvise, whether you're standing or ground fighting. It has certain foundational principles, but these are applied fluidly, and no two grappling sessions or fights are ever the same. I also find practicing it to be a humbling experience, particularly when I'm being thrown around by current and former world champions! The constant variation that you find in jiujitsu is similar to what I enjoy about surfing and stand-up paddleboarding, which put you in an environment that's always different and ever-evolving. It's not from the shady big-time executive who lords over us with their stock options. The biggest betrayer of our trust is ourselves. How do you communicate with yourself on a regular basis? It's commonly known as your self-talk. The way my boss likes to put it, is by asking this question, If someone you met talked to you the way you talked to yourself, would you be friends with them? What I'm getting at here is our self-talk and the commitments we make to ourselves matter more than anything else. If we can't trust ourselves to make the right decisions or to follow through with our own commitments, why should we expect others to do the same? This should remind you about our discussion early on in the article about The Bias Blindspot. We carry around with us a perception of reality that always looks to benefit us. What decisions will help us the most in life? They know two ways: full-out high speed or full-on brakes. Intensity addicts who are more apt to engage in high-risk dangerous situations commonly engage in satiation fixes to calm down and soothe their heightened energy, enabling them to be able to resume normal activities.

My father raged and was abusive. By age eleven I found what my father had--power in raging. It protected me from my fears, my sense of unworthiness. Then I discovered masturbation and it calmed me. It was a solace. Rage gave me the high, the power, and masturbation was my anesthetic. They worked in tandem for years. Because a sex addict is a person who never learned to tolerate his painful feelings, he seeks escape from those feelings. There is no app, device, or piece of technology that can teach you what you need to excel--or even survive--in these activities. Immersion learning is the only way to become proficient, and doing so requires a time investment and complete mental, spiritual, and physical commitment. Cues, Not Crutches Earlier we looked at technology that coaches can use to improve your self-awareness and to reinforce teaching cues. There are also certain tools that you can use on your own to identify and self-correct mechanical, positional, and other issues. I'm not going to push any products on you in this article, but something I've found to be very helpful in my own training and that of my athletes is the Shoe Cue. This is essentially a piece of plastic with little knobs that you slip into the heel of each shoe. When you thud down onto those heels instead of landing softly on the balls of your feet and then lightly tapping your heels to the ground, you get immediate feedback--just enough of the ah crap, there's a rock in my shoe sensation to make you feel that you're not landing correctly. We use the Shoe Cue during warm-ups to connect a mechanical fault that compromises performance and will cause injury if left unchecked to an exaggerated heel-striking sensation. Once my athletes instinctually identify the problem--heel striking--and then self-correct by landing on their forefoot instead, we're done with the Shoe Cue for the day. How can every situation be made beneficial for us? Let's just cut the crap here.