You will feel depressed, seemingly without cause. The truth is that the imprint has triggered your feeling. You or those around you may not understand what suddenly went wrong; This is the primary reason why our moods fluctuate several times throughout the day. Various images, words and things trigger our reactions in the subconscious. Hence, I cannot stress enough the importance of recalling as much detail as possible when you perform this exercise. The information recall in the fifth session, for instance, will be much greater than in the first. So repeat this exercise till you get over the incident completely. The devil is in the detail. You may also do this exercise with a friend who is willing to listen to you without judgement. You could take turns. You could help the other person heal, and they could help heal you. That is why sharing - talking it out with someone who is not judgemental - can make you feel lighter. Each time you talk it out, it further reduces the hurt of the painful emotions associated with the traumatic event. This is the reason why people tend to share their ordeals with their friends. It is the mind's natural coping mechanism. When you speak about matters of concern or pain, their imprint softens. No imprint means no pain. No pain means you are healed. Healing of the mind is almost like returning to your original state of peace and bliss;

It's like being born into a new skin - or perhaps it's more like slipping the new you into the same skin (body). Other than working on erasing the imprints of negative experiences to heal yourself, you should pursue that which makes you happy and brings you joy. In the ideal world, you would have the full support of your friends and family, who steadfastly encourage you to do whatever gives you a sense of fulfilment. Nothing heals faster than love and care. The security that a sense of belonging engenders can do miracles. If you don't have such supportive people around you, it will help your cause if you take charge of your life and work on your own healing. Some of the following options may appeal to you. Do some selfless service or engage in an emotionally fulfilling social or spiritual cause. If you like the outdoors, painting, cooking, reading, dancing or any other salutary, life-affirming activity, do it. Distance yourself from those who drain you emotionally. This is a time when it is you who need a strong shoulder to lean on and a good listener. A warm conversation can be truly healing. In any case, try not to talk about your depression to those who either don't understand it or have little empathy. Most people will say there is nothing to worry about and that you are just stressed, and others cannot do a thing to help you, anyway. Everyone else is likely to suggest that you visit a therapist. All this is nothing that you didn't already know. Depression is not a type of fear that you need to face like a warrior and decimate. It is a state of mind, albeit an undesirable, dysfunctional one. The more you understand it, the better you can handle it. The more you take care of yourself, the quicker you'll come out of it.

Treat yourself with care, with love, with compassion. Depression can bring a feeling of great inadequacy, but you and I both know that this feeling is illusory. The self-help author Marianne Williamson brilliantly sums up our predicament, exhorting us to see the true light within and let it shine: Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. If you ponder nature, you will understand that the universe moves freely. Soaring mountains give way to deep valleys and water to mighty rivers; There's no yesterday, just a constant flow. In the same profound depths of your being and highs of your ecstasy, you'll realize that you are likewise complete and free; Whatever it is that you are holding on to, it's restricting your freedom - it's limiting you.

Freedom is strength, it is love. Sheikhs, pirs and preachers cry, At the moment of death, they all have to go. Even the kings cry and dressed like fakirs, They go around seeking alms. The miser cries for having to leave his wealth behind, The scholar cries for he can't carry his learning into his next life, The young woman cries for she has no one who loves her, O Nanak, the whole world is suffering. - Guru Nanak23 Seeing Wood For The Trees What Isn't Depression I was sitting, eagerly waiting for my order to be served at this amazing Italian restaurant in the Blue Mountains near Sydney. The sun had long gone below the horizon, the mercury had dipped and it was chilly outside. But inside it was warm and cosy, just how you feel when you are secure and happy in your heart. I casually looked to my left, and there was this beautiful quote framed on the wall. It was a long quote, but so insightful that it became etched in my mind:

For years I thought, real life was about to begin. For years I thought something big, something grand was going to happen in my life and I would suddenly start feeling happier. I thought what I was living was not my real life, that I was meant to do something else. And one day I would be free of all shackles, I would be free of all my engagements. Then I would embark upon this journey of discovering myself, of being happy, of always being fulfilled. But there was always some unfinished business. There was a bill to be paid, there was a call to be made, and there was an email to be replied to . There was always some obstacle on the path of my happiness. One day, it dawned that these obstacles were my life. We do everything we can to avoid suffering because we want peace, happiness and a life free of stresses and strains. We desire a life that's smooth and has no surprises and shocks for us. We want the future to announce itself before it arrives on the doorstep of our present. We want nature to go according to our plans. The truth is, we want too many things. We have unreasonable expectations from life. Not all sadness is depression, and peace is not about being free from stressful work. It is about seeing purpose and finding joy in what we have to do. A king once wondered if peace could be depicted, and if so, what it would look like. He announced a grand prize for the artist who could paint the most apt picture of peace. Numerous artists from his empire crafted beautiful paintings.