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For example, right here in section 1094b and 1095a in my reprint, I've underlined them. His first sentence starts with Now, the second says, and further. This remark was designed to understand the feeling and to clarify the idea expressed by Mr C in such a way that he realized it was his personal impression he was advancing. Unfortunately it goes beyond what has been expressed by Mr C, and hence is perceived as somewhat threatening. It's just a mind game you're playing out. The trick is to use our anxiety to discern which thoughts to pay attention to and which are unnecessary--so we don't get hijacked by an anxious mind. Fear and anxiety have the same physiological stress response. When anxiety is prolonged, this response causes the same emotional and physical damage discussed previously. Anxiety can easily become chronic and wired into us, so we move through life with generalized anxiety. Our minds are constantly looking for things to worry about. We're so worried about the future that we lose sight of the present and don't realize that the thoughts aren't real--they're just thoughts. NEGATIVITY BIAS We are naturally wired for what scientists call a negativity bias. I bet you have experienced what I'm talking about even if you haven't heard the term before. Linger on every point. Think about the good you do, and take it to heart. Level Three Connections I believe in what my company stands for, and I enjoy trying to make a difference within the company. I am a voice of reason for people in my organization. I contribute a valued perspective.

I motivate people in my department to do their best work. My work is meaningful because it makes a difference in the well-being of many people who use our products. I help bring beauty to people and make them feel good about themselves. I am the person customers see when they come through our doors. Mr C feels the pressure of the attempted clarification. Mr R and Mrs. H seem anxious to pound some insight into Mr C and at the same time defend Aristotle. It is interesting to note a subtle group mood being expressed here. Since Mr C's last remark, it seems fairly obvious that even while the others are making their own points, they are at the same time attempting to aid Mr C in working through his original attitude. S, do you mean that what sound like positive statements are really progressive steps in reasoning? S: That's right. He makes his premises and then forms his conclusions. Mr C: Perhaps I was a bit hasty in judging this man. I've been known to do that. It's that tendency to give more attention or weight to negative experiences over neutral or positive experiences. You get six compliments on your haircut, but when one person doesn't mention it, you're convinced it must look awful. The negativity bias is biologically built into us, another remnant of a well-developed survival system. Think about our prehistoric ancestors. To pass on your genes, you need to find food. You also need to hide from predators.

Miss out on that potato and you may have a chance at finding something else to eat tomorrow. But if you don't avoid that tiger today, there will be no tomorrow. The negative stuff usually has more urgency and impact. So, it's not surprising that our brains evolved to be more alert to danger--and that this process is even more acute in those of us with trauma-impacted brains. I represent the face of our company. Through my work, I give people financial peace of mind. I am making a difference for children by engaging their minds and imaginations. I help spread joy. I make it possible for many of our employees to earn good salaries and support their families. I am mentoring the younger generation of our company. What you do really does matter. When you look at your work that way, it can go from being the ultimate drag to one of the most fulfilling, energizing lifts in your life. My Plan for Energizing My Work I choose to work on this skill because: I always seem to get a lesson when I open my mouth. Inst: And so he left, clutching his article and dragging his sword behind him. Mr C: How is it you know just how I feel all the time? Mr S: I'd like to raise a question about Aristotle's knowledge of human nature. Pleasure seeking, political, and contemplative. Mr S: Perhaps I misunderstand, but it seems to me that most of us engage in all those activities during our lifetimes.

Inst: You're objecting to the labeling of -- That is, you object to dividing all life into only three types. In retrospect, this response seems completely unnecessary and certainly redundant. Here it appears that the group activity has been exerting its effect upon Mr C in spite of his silence. He verbalizes an insight, and at the same time seems to be saying a left-handed thanks to the group. The amygdala uses about two-thirds of its neurons to look for the negative. Negative events and experiences go straight to the mind's memory bank, unlike positive events and experiences, which usually need to be held in awareness longer if they are to transfer to long-term memory. As neuro-scientist Rick Hanson is fond of saying, the brain is like Velcro for negative experiences but Teflon for positive ones. This hard-wired tendency toward fear means we often overestimate threats and underestimate opportunities and resources. In a day in which a hundred small things happened, ninety-nine of them neutral or positive, my negativity bias means I tend to focus on the one thing that was negative. I then try to remind myself that the tendency toward the negative is just me being human. By accepting that a negativity bias is an inherent part of the human experience, we can adopt strategies to manage it. CONFIRMATION BIAS Negativity isn't the only assumption our brain sometimes puts in our way. Humans are also wired with what scientists call a confirmation bias, the tendency to search for or interpret information in a way that confirms our preconceptions. My unique contributions to my organization, industry, or the greater good are: I will put this list in the following place so that I remember to read it often: Day Fourteen Connect to Something More The Payoff: Reinfuse your life with meaning and joy What sustains you?

What gives your life meaning? Those are the questions we're looking at today. When it comes to cultivating a deep reserve of resilience and calm to sustain us through life's choppy waters, we need to be moored to something greater than ourselves. Connecting to something greater than ourselves gives us direction. It is difficult to assay what the purpose of this remark may have been at the time. A rationalization which would be kind to the instructor might be that he carried along with the generally humorous group tone at the time. Is there a hint of resentment here? Perhaps the instructor's attempt at humor has backfired. I believe it is worthy of mention that Mr S surveyed the group rather intently as he spoke. It seemed to me that he was actively looking for acceptance from the group. Implicit in this is the idea that he felt the responsibility involved in his interpersonal relations in the class. The instructor's simple acceptance of Mr S allowed him to immediately communicate how he felt about what he read. Mr S: Yes, suppose you just look at a single day and try to interpret your motives. It's far more complicated than the way I'll describe it, but it's good enough to explain what I mean. It's a painful, stuck place to live, and it only amplifies our sense of fear and self-doubt. As an example, I fix on stories of past rejections. This makes me nervous going into social situations as I look for the rejection that I expect to happen. Maybe that's true for you, or maybe your experience is more like my friend's. They reflect on the fact that they have never been thought attractive enough to be placed in situations where rejection is a possibility, causing them to expect that same invisibility, again and again. Looking at this from an evolutionary perspective can help us make sense of why a confirmation bias is wired into our brains.