This grief was related to a past life in which his wife (his same wife from this present lifetime) as well as a child died due to a disease that was sweeping through their village. Physical Benefits Psychological Benefits Scientific research and thousands of years of use all over the world both say that regular meditation practice can boost your physical, mental and emotional well-being. So how about you? Are you willing to try one or more of the simple meditation techniques in this article, and practice it faithfully every day? I hope you will. Because YOU deserve a healthy happy life. The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large.You have to develop a Wonder Mindset and the ability to sustain that mindset through the right environment. The combination of those two things will make you unstoppable, taking you to places you never thought possible. Right Your Story Even the social workers and the nurses presented a desocialized picture of the patient, leaving out most of the story of how their pain had influenced and been influenced by their life experience. In the one or two minutes left for his presentation, the psychiatrist had no chance to cover this ground adequately; There were ghosts present in the room. I'm sure of it. For each case discussed, the shadows of the players in family tragedies and comedies and melodramas in the workplace seemed to float in the corners of the room, unseen and unheard. Because the social world of pain was not adequately examined, there was little chance the behavioral interventions could identify some of the most central determinants of the experience of pain, problems that were likely to undermine the treatment regimen once the patient left the wholly artificial circumstances of the hospital and returned to the real world. In this sense, the way that pain is configured and treated in the biomedical and behavioral paradigms that now dominate pain programs contributes to the chronicity of the problem. In both visions the patient is dealt with as if he were either a billiard ball shot around a pool table by unseen forces or a sociopathic spider entrapping caregivers, disability experts, and family members in a web of his own spinning, pulling threads to manipulate now one faction, now the other, sucking all of them dry. Consider the case of one patient in the program.

Helen Winthrop Bell is a twenty-nine-year-old minister's wife from a rural area in Georgia. He felt guilt that he could not take care of her, that he could not save her. He created a contract that he would always love her and take care of her. As Matthew related this, he realized that he was still in that position. He experienced clarity that his wife was dealing with a significant amount of grief herself and that he was still trying to save her. He called up the opposing force, or the aspect of him that appeared as his wife. This opposing force was in his throat area, and his grief intensified when it came up. The wife revealed that she was struggling with grief that wasn't hers, and that she was resistant and cold to Matthew to protect him from it. She believed that this was something that she needed to take care of herself, and that she needed to remain stoic in the face of all she suffered. Matthew asked this force what she needed, and she said that she needed him to not try to save her but support her instead. He agreed, and we went back to the imagery of the past life and let go of the contract of needing to save her, and offered relief and healing to the past life he had experienced. The Key to a Life Filled with Magic Throughout this article, we've explored the myriad ways that you've been led to tell yourself stories that aren't true and how all those stories have formed a narrative that drives your belief system and therefore your habits and behavior. Once you begin to understand that, it becomes easier to see that just about every problem is a storytelling problem. Along the way, we've also explored the role that wonder plays in permitting you to embrace a new narrative and a new mindset and to create new atmospheres in your environment, all enabling you to step into ownership of a new story. I like to think of this process as story righting. To guide you through the story-righting process, I'm going to walk you through the five steps we've utilized in our group coaching and Mastermind programs to move others from awakening their wonder to attaining the creative, magical lives they were meant to live. Before we begin, it's important to know one thing. The goal of righting your story doesn't mean the story you've lived up until this point has been the wrong one. It's just incomplete.

At the beginning of this article, I introduced the Transformation Map and the idea that all change is driven by going from an old story to a new one. She has had chronic pain in her arms for six years. She has undergone eight surgical procedures, has been treated with more than two dozen medications--two of them prescribed narcotics to which she briefly became addicted--and has been in the care of four different primary care physicians. She has already failed two local pain clinics. Bell is at the end of her first week in the inpatient pain unit. The discussion of her case at the pain conference lasts thirty-six minutes. First, the anesthesiology resident reviews the past medical history and the results of X-rays, nerve and muscle tests, blood studies, and various physical examinations. Then one of the behavioral psychologists reads the results of the psychological test battery: depression, anxiety, bodily preoccupation, hysterical personality traits, and very substantial anger. Everyone shakes his head knowingly, and a few jokes are told to indicate what an extremely hostile and difficult patient Mrs. It is noted that the pain seems to be an effective way for her to get angry at her husband. The social worker reports that Mrs. He asked his body to shift and change and felt a release of energy through his heart and throat. He asked his body deva how much of this he should say to his wife in physical reality, and it replied that he should encourage her to heal this past life and to seek counseling for her present-day difficulties in functioning, but to do so in a compassionate way, and to let it go after that. He ended the session by saying that he needed to think about how he could approach his wife in a way that was supportive but not looking to save her. Matthew worked further with his heart area to learn how to relate in a new way to his wife. He reported that his wife feels much more comfortable sharing what she has been experiencing due to his efforts and that their relationship has a sense of ease that it did not have before, but that she is not yet in a place to seek out her own healing efforts. Irina was a woman in her mid-thirties who wanted to work on the fact that she had never really felt feminine. She didn't wear makeup, dressed simply, and was uncomfortable with anyone noticing her. She defined herself as gray, which meant that she rarely felt sexual attraction for anyone. Irina immediately clued in on a part of herself in her abdomen that was a teenager who was confused about the fact that she didn't want to date and several experiences that were embarrassing for her, including a school dance.

This part of her received clarity from adult Irina about why she was the way she was. When you look at the map now with a fresh perspective, where do you find yourself? Remember, as discussed in article 1, we adopt a variety of narratives throughout our lives, and you might find yourself in a different place in the circle of transformation in one narrative compared to another. By understanding the role that inciting incidents play in our stories, you can begin to see how trauma can lead to a broken narrative, which means it's possible to have a part of your life driven by a narrative absent of trauma, and therefore less impacted by it. In more simple terms, it could be similar to a fear of flying on airplanes because of a close call while on a flight, or closely witnessing the events of 9/11, and instead, experiencing no anxiety while driving a car on a highway. It doesn't matter if planes are statistically safer than cars. The trauma you experienced of 9/11 affected the narrative you've formed around flying, but the narrative you've formed around driving cars is less affected due to a lack of trauma. If you've been involved in a traumatic car crash, that's a different story--literally. Every facet of the story you've lived so far has played a role in shaping who you are today. But if you've lost your sense of wonder and settled for a counterfeit version of the life you were meant to live, it's time for some course correction. You need to get your story back on track, and this simple five-step process will transform your life by helping you make the leap from a broken narrative filled with untrue stories to a new story of meaning, purpose, and possibility. Bell is extremely difficult to interview. She denies all problems, even though there are reports in the medical records that she doesn't like her life as a minister's wife and has been on the verge of considering divorce. There are also reports that the cost of pain evaluations and treatments has exhausted the family's insurance and savings, and that her relationship to her husband is cold and aloof. The senior psychologist adds that the couple's sex life reportedly has come to a halt and that the patient's pain has been observed by the ward staff to worsen at the times her husband visits. He interprets this as evidence that the patient is using her pain to manipulate her marital relationship. The nurses jump in at this point with further impressions of the relationship between the Bells: evidence, it turns out, that is greatly contradictory. They have been observed arguing, but also holding hands and praying together. The rehabilitation physician, in a dry and caustic voice, indicates his skepticism that the patient is trying hard at the physical therapy he regards as essential to her rehabilitation. He doubts that the level to which she raises her arms and the length of time she exercises (never more than ten minutes) represent her best efforts.

He implies that she is undermining her rehabilitation and that no one is willing to call her on it because they fear her anger. It helped teenage Irina feel better and feel like she had a support system in adult Irina. Since she did not disappear after this, even though she seemed okay, we asked if there was anything else she needed. The body deva said that she still felt as if she was wrong for her sexual preferences. We asked the opposing archetype to step forward. It looked like a hypersexualized woman from one of the James Bond films and was located in her pelvis. It said that she needed to look and act a specific way in order to be considered a worthy woman. Adult Irina said that she understood the archetype and felt like she denied the archetype a bit because of her wounded inner teenager. She and the archetype negotiated ways in which she could feel more feminine, such as placing flowers around her home and being more confident in her attitude. The opposing archetype disappeared, happy that she had been heard. Irina's inner teenager realized that she did not need to act or be a specific way to be considered feminine or a woman and disappeared. Now, just because this process is simple, that does not mean it's easy. It is simple to understand but difficult to execute. The path toward healing can be challenging, but it's a path I have walked, and continue to walk, and I promise the work is worth it. A new story awaits. Step 1: Awaken If you've read all eight articles up until this point, this first step shouldn't surprise you. Naturally, the first step in your story of transformation is to wake up. Awaken from the slumber. Awaken your wonder.