As you have probably figured out from reading this article, I like cars. Some of these ideas were points that came from a great salesman at an Aston Martin dealership I visited. The first salesman I met had a plain card and hadn't bothered to use his business card as a sales card. I walked out not buying and really not being interested in buying. Nevertheless, something kept nagging at me and I really wanted to learn more about that car. When I went back to look at it again, another salesperson gave me his card. On the card were a bunch of reasons why to buy the car from him. He offered a free rental car when my car was being serviced. Our heart hammers in our ears, and we suddenly remember everything we'd forgotten, and we say what we really mean: Kiss me. The angelfish and dogs and cats and snakes and white rats and horses and guinea pigs and rabbits and turtles that share our homes and our lives and our hearts and our souls? Dogs possess a quality that's rare among humans--the ability to make you feel valued just by being you--and it was something of a miracle to me to be on the receiving end of all that acceptance, writes Caroline Knapp in her memoir Pack of Two: The Intricate Bond Between People and Dogs. Jardine remembers a Wyoming morning when she mounted a horse for the first time in many years and felt tears in her throat, then she was bawling. It came on fast and did not make sense. She had a visceral sense of the horse's kindness: he took her up and down narrow, rocky mountain paths even though Jardine surely transmitted fear and total incompetence through her body, and the horse could have reacted. The horse's calm didn't seem to come from being docile but from being generous. Luckily Jardine was wearing big black sunglasses, and the tears dried up anyway, since she was in this red-rock, blue-sky paradise with a beautiful beast and it was impossible not to grin like a fool. For seventeen years, Jardine had a ragged anarchist rock star of a toy poodle named Zoe (who came into her life when Jardine was twenty-three and Zoe was eight weeks old) and Jardine loved that little one beyond words. A better question, one that might actually drive us to implement what matters to us, is, What would make you feel more alive, independent of the opinion of others or outside metrics of success, and why haven't you begun it? <a href=''>To</a> implement successfully, to enjoy the process and be engaged by it, we need to get out of our own way. <br /><br /><a href=''>Or,</a> rather, to enlist our own natures in supporting us in the process. <a href=''>By</a> working with who we are, by developing a business acumen based on the value our work will provide, by limiting our options, making decisions and detaching from the outcome, we allow ourselves to move from the conceptual to the tangible. <a href=''>As</a> Goethe said,Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Limit your options. Build engagement by starting and finishing. Hack your nature. Develop commercial acumen (then back yourself). Detach from the outcome. I played guitar and flute and taught my kids to play. We spent evenings making our own music, playing and singing. Sometimes one of us read a article aloud to the whole family. The mountains in some ways afforded more social life than New York had. A neighbor invited Gaines in to have biscuits and beans whenever he passed. She taught him much about gardening and shared a lifetime of experience on the mountain. Other neighbors were not so friendly. One man lived with a woman who had a daughter from a previous relationship. Years later, when he decided the girl was old enough, he kicked the mother out and forced the daughter to marry him. Belonging was not easy. He also offered a pickup service. So I bought the $175,000 DB7 from him and threw the other guy's card away.

I was kind enough to tell the first salesman that he should change his business card to a sales card, and the next time I saw him, he had done just that! You want to make your cards an incentivized advertisement. That way, if someone found it on the ground, they would want to keep it for the day when they will want or need your product. I have seen many business cards that left me wondering what the person was selling. Have your cards made as if they were a small ad in a popular newspaper, magazine, or billboard. For things to change, I have to change. For things to get better, I have to get better. My spouse doesn't need to change, nor my family, job or my circumstance. Zoe had a front-row seat to Jardine's messy not-sober life, and never left Jardine's side, and never loved her any less, no matter what condition Jardine was in when she came home. Jardine's partner, Neil, had a sleek, elegant mutt, Olive, who saw him through addiction, and then also saw him recover. When Neil relapsed once, she panicked and wouldn't come into the house. Animals feel everything. To endow animals with human emotions has long been a scientific taboo, writes Frans de Waal. But if we do not, we risk missing something fundamental, about both animals and us. Even if you can't commit full-time, shelters desperately need people to foster dogs and cats. Many of our friends love to do this. You can also volunteer at stables or pounds or rescue operations, walk a pup on your lunch break, or hang out with one for a few hours on the weekend. To get that animalistic connection happening. You've reached the end of this article, but we would hate you to think of it as an end. Rather, it is an invitation to embrace the future by developing the skills that will always matter.

The need for the skills we have gathered and shared in this article is unending. This is their ultimate power. Of course, these are not the only 12 Forever Skills. We identified many skills that had to be clustered, intimated or even omitted, or else you would be reading forever! We hope you will also identify your own Forever Skills. That you will share these 12, plus your own, with your communities, companies, teams, families and kids (and even us -- we'd love to hear from you). That the knowledge accumulated through lifetimes of experience will continue to help us all navigate the future. We ask you to talk about the idea of Forever Skills with those around you. The Gaineses went to a funeral of a woman who had lived near Huttonsville for sixty years, since her marriage at the age of eighteen. Of course, a man remarked, she wasn't really from here. She was born south of here, in Webster County. Guests were frequent, because the families from New York and Michigan visited often. They thought we had lost our senses until they got here, Gaines said, and then they thought we knew better than anyone else how to live. We never heard traffic because our house wasn't near a road. We never saw airplanes. I forgot they existed. We lived there thirteen years, from 1973 until 1986. I missed the end of the Vietnam War, the Carter years, much of the Reagan era. Sometimes, animals are wiser and kinder than anyone we know, including ourselves, and they don't care what channel we're watching or what bag of chips we're devouring or what chore we're ignoring as long as we want to cuddle with them. Amanda is still surprised, every morning, to find herself in thrall to a tiny black schnauzer named Schneffles (after Mount Sneffles in Colorado).

But from the moment Neffie rushes to give Amanda her wake-up kiss, with her impossibly fluffy sweet face, through the afternoon--Amanda typing and Neffie snoozing at her side--to the evening, when a walk with Neffie saves Amanda from happy-hour cravings, it's love. And then, lights out, Neff places her paw on Amanda's arm: I'm here. You can sleep. When Amanda got sober, she knew she didn't want to be stuck at the dinner table or in the living room when her friends and family members were a few drinks in. Her true heart told her to get out. But where the heck was she supposed to go? One winter vacation, Amanda looked up from the grown-ups' table and saw that her children were already in pajamas and gathered around a jigsaw puzzle across the room, laughing and sipping apple cider. She stood, and as if in a trance, walked toward the kids. That you pass on this article and the skills you have gleaned to others. Debate what is evergreen and eternally powerful. Decide the things worth keeping in your company, team or family. And the next time someone hyperventilates about the changes hurtling towards us, calmly provide a little perspective so that they might see all Three Spheres of Change, not just one. There is so much that is changing, so much that needs changing and much that is unchanging. What's changing? In researching this article, what also became abundantly apparent is just how much of what is changing will ultimately sit beyond our control (despite control' being one of the three clusters of Forever Skills that we identified). <a href=''>What</a> needs changing? <a href=''>There</a> is so much that needs changing. <a href=''>It</a> needs people like you to change it. <a href=''>I</a> was barely aware of him and didn't even know what he looked like. <a href=''>I</a> hated the idea ofI wish this day or week or month was over.