Reflecting on her success, Bronnie shared that she believed,
Courage is the greatest tool for bringing our dreams into reality,' adding,Courage is often the pedal that accelerates us from ideas to action. We all have unrealised ideas in our heads, possibilities that are yet to become realities scribbled on scraps of paper and in Moleskines: half-finished projects, designs for inventions, plot lines for novels and
big plans' we'll get to one day or some day. <a href='https://images.google.com.gh/url?q=https://http://eurofixings.co.uk'>However,</a> as the online meme goes,Someday isn't a day of a week'. Of course, dreams are wonderful, but they don't ultimately count. What matters in the end is what we implement: the actions we are prepared to take and the dreams we are willing to bring into reality. It has always been this way. History articles are full of those who completed or at least tried. Those who kept their dreams hidden are seldom recorded. Self-taught Amish electricians and plumbers are not always competent, as we learned when we had to have nearly everything in our own house replaced or repaired that had been installed by Amish workers. Their honesty and craftsmanship are highly rated, but, like people everywhere, not all are skilled, and not all are honest. The Amish respect for the land does not always apply to the rest of the world; I have seen Amish at the local hay auction and fair throw paper plates and napkins onto the ground even when trash bins were close, although I hope these people do not represent the majority of their group. The Amish are mostly law-abiding and community oriented, but they do not like to become involved with the English even if their own best interests are at stake. They do not regularly take part in task forces that monitor zoning changes or groups that seek to protect waterways and parks. While some Amish leave the church, very few people ever join because the rules of membership keep their communities closed to almost everyone not born into them. When a colleague tried to become a member of an Amish church, the elders told him he would first have to leave his wife and four children because he had been married before. The Amish way of life is more sustainable than that of the larger culture because the community members produce much of what they consume, yet like non-Amish they consume things they do not produce, including conveniences that create waste, such as disposable containers. They also find land scarce. That one tip could have stopped my last venture from draining our life savings! As I watched you talking from your heart, I started to laugh and nod my head in agreement, finally really getting it, and I just knew that I was going to get rich!
I know he was really thinking that if this undereducated farm girl could make that much money, then he would make even more. After all, he had a college degree and years of experience. That is exactly what should happen. This particular gentleman reached his goal in just three years. The very first time I met him, he came right up to me and said, If you think you can ever get me making more money than I do now and quit my job of over twenty years with Boeing Aerospace, you really are crazy. I'm going to help my wife part-time, but I don't believe you even make this much. Who could blame him? I was still in my thirties, and even though I held a copied check of over $20,000 for that month and also had the previous checks from EACH month for the last several months laid out before me, showing each check increasing every single month, I still had trouble believing it! Amanda pushed open the door. Hey there! You need anything specific? A childhood in Catholic Sunday School made Amanda freeze. She just shook her head mutely. Well, you let me know! How Amanda envied her breezy self-confidence! Murmuring, Oh my, and Oh dear, and Oh my! The voice of her Confraternity of Christian Doctrine teacher at Sacred Heart intoned with disgust: Amanda, this is not for you. But what if it was? This makes implementation our 12th Forever Skill. Performance and action drive engagement, not the other way round.
There is a seemingly endless supply of motivational quotes that remind us of the importance of the capacity to implement: To act is difficult. To act as one thinks is the most difficult. If I make a commitment to something I will stick to it no matter what. The list is almost endless, and yet, despite all of the aphorisms and incitements to take action, a capacity to implement is one of the Forever Skills we still need to develop. How do might we improve our ability to implement? Limit your options. Build engagement by starting and finishing. Although about 10 percent of their number leave the Amish way of life when they turn eighteen, their numbers are growing because they have large families (ten to fifteen children are not uncommon) and many try to purchase land from non-Amish. When they buy English houses they tear out the electrical wiring but retain other conveniences. In Holmes County I have seen bonneted women sitting on plastic Walmart chairs on the decks of split-level houses. A young woman of my acquaintance who left her Amish family told me that she realized very early that she would leave the community, but she had to keep quiet about her plans right up until her eighteenth birthday. She worked in a factory after she finished eighth grade and turned all her wages over to her father who never explained to her how he used the money. Child labor laws do not apply to their situation, as parents in most states have the option of taking their children's earnings until age eighteen. She did what most Amish do who want to leave the order--she made friends with an English woman who gave her a home until she could save enough money to finish her GED and enroll in college. Choosing the larger world often means separation from families. Many who leave know they cannot return, even to visit. Although she had not officially joined the church before she left home, my acquaintance had not seen her parents or siblings for four years. I wonder what would have happened to both of us if we were to know then that my check would keep growing every single month for the next several years to way past $100,000 a month! As I got to know him better, I understood why he was so afraid that I would help him reach his goals.
It was the same reason why so many of us don't bother to look into something like this. If what I was saying was true, that meant that he, now in his fifties at that time, had been following the wrong plan for over thirty years! No one wants to admit that. This is the really sad part for many of us. How can we let go of the idea that we've spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on a degree and 30 years of our lives in a job that we really didn't like? How can we let go of a job that we have invested five if not seven days a week into (not including all of the special training, continuing education classes, travel, and time away from our family)? In addition to all of that, my friend had been spending two hours every morning and two hours every evening driving to work. How could he possibly admit that all those years following that plan had been wasted? What if it could be? Maybe we do want to take a pole-dancing class or surprise our lover with tickets to a burlesque show. Schedule boudoir photo shoots in latex and lace. There are thousands of videos online to check out, to feel good, to find out what we like. One articleworm friend has sworn off literary novels, cuddling at night with juicy erotic ones--anything by Christina Lauren. At Cindie's, Amanda moved on to lingerie. She normally favored silk men's pajamas and Gap Body supersoft nightgowns. She'd tried to wear a thong in the early 2000s but never got used to it the way her sexier friends promised. Amanda's thoughts on panty lines were, Why ya lookin'? Could Amanda put on these thigh-high patent leather snow-white stiletto boots and try out the whip in the mirror? Hack your nature. Develop commercial acumen (then back yourself).
Detach from the outcome. Limit your options In 2000, psychologists Sheena Iyengar and Mark Lepper published a study that suggested that sometimes more isn't always better. The study involved giving people a lot of choice or a little choice. The researchers decided to conduct their experiment in a specialty grocery store after Sheena noticed that she would often walk out of the store with nothing, despite spending a great deal of time visiting and browsing. So, along with Mark, she set up a jam display and swapped out the number of jams on display every hour and then observed what happened. The more jam, the more people stopped (60 per cent). Less jam meant fewer people stopped (40 per cent). This young woman and others who have left the Amish tell me that, far from the simple life where everyone is equal and people help each other, Amish communities have the same stratification the larger society has. The families with least prestige are those in which one or the other parent suffers from some mental illness--more common among the Amish than outsiders know. While they will consult physicians, they will never go to psychiatrists or psychologists because they believe that mental illness stems from personal failure. Clinical depression thus has the status of a character flaw, and the whole family suffers from discrimination by the rest of the community. It is true that when one family needs help--getting in a harvest, for example, or rebuilding a barn that has burned down--the whole community shows up to pitch in. They then return home, my acquaintances tell me, to gossip about the family who was careless enough to let the barn catch fire. A common belief among Amish women is that having large numbers of children will give them a better place in heaven, and they compete with each other to see who can have the most. Death of infants or children is considered the mother's failure. One former Amish woman told me about a mother who bragged widely about her eight healthy children but suffered a nervous breakdown when her ninth child died. She grieved, my acquaintance claimed, not because her son was dead but because she believed the death was her fault. He didn't have to and neither do you! Every minute of every year we can take with us.
Reflecting on her success, Bronnie shared that she believed,