As Steven Mintz points out in his article Huck's Raft: A History of American Childhood, this move toward individuality can be illustrated by the concurrent shift in baby-naming conventions. the American Revolution, children were typically named for parents or a close relative in order to reinforce the significance of lineage and honor for the family over the individual. By the mid-eighteenth century, however, parents began to bestow unique names on their children, sometimes paired with a middle name in an added display of individuality. Other customs that paid service to political, social, and familial hierarchies, such as children bowing to their parents, fell out of favor and the spirit of revolution began to seep into the minds and habits of a citizenry who refused to view themselves as subjects of any master, political or otherwise. As you will discover, meditation is about letting the world in and awakening to your life, which means you can even meditate on a bus! But for the purposes of creating a regular practice, find a space in your home that feels sacred or relaxing for you. You might decide to create a little altar, a display of reminders that you feel supports your practice. You might want to place a picture of a teacher whom you connect with on your altar, or a candle, or perhaps some incense. Next, consider your meditation seat. As you will learn in the article on posture, you want to sit in a way that allows you to feel lifted--and this can be done on a cushion or a chair. Some choose to use what is called a gomden, which is a hard, square seat that lifts you up so your knees are below your sacrum. You can also use a zafu, a circular cushion, which is a bit softer and lower. Find the cushion or seat that works for you. If you have a bad back or a lot of knee pain, you can sit in a chair. The idea of having fun goes back to the 4th century BC Greek philosopher Aristotle, whose ideas are best read in The Basic Works of Aristotle. He referred to the highest good as Eudaimonia, or happiness. Sadly, they got the idea all wrong. Eudaimonia, more accurately translated as human flourishing, does not refer to personal enjoyment. Rather, it points to the public act of striving to make something unique. The world only sees what you give it, not what you take from it.

You and I can believe all we want, for instance that we are kind and good people, but as Rachel Dawes, childhood friend of Bruce Wayne (Batman) said in the movie Batman Begins, It's not who you are underneath, but what you do that defines you. Actions speak louder than words. Karl Marx admitted that, Philosophers have only interpreted the world. The point, however, is to change it. Anybody may try to persuade us that we will be better off if we go to church on Sundays, but we would strongly resent being forced there willy-nilly. What is more, given all available information, more often than not we do make those decisions that are right for our own needs as we see them. The reason adults tend to make the right decisions is that they want to be happy and are fundamentally rational. When they make mistakes it is frequently because they have had so little experience in decision-making during childhood. Thus, just as we want to be free to live our lives as we choose, so we should allow our children the freedom to live theirs as they see fit. We can offer our children the information which we have and which they lack. We can tell them what course of action we believe will make them happiest. But in the end all children grow up and must make their own decisions, and the more practice they have had in exercising their judgment as children the easier it will be for them as adults. As John Holt says in What Do I Do Monday? Only from making choices and judgments can he learn to make them better, or learn to trust his own judgment. Today, there's nothing really wrong with my life with Keith and our sons. Nothing except that it stings that we can never bring back the early days. Back then we had a lot of free time, time we spent getting coffee and seeing movies and taking trips; Sometimes a week goes by without us really talking, and we find ourselves passing each other in the kitchen. We disappoint each other sometimes now and are not always as attentive or generous as we used to be. We've lost steam.

One time Keith told me that he went to an overnight comic article convention and I realized that I didn't remember that he had ever gone and I had no idea that he even liked comic articles. It's like we've turned into different people without even noticing, and it kills me. I see his eyes wandering to an attractive woman and I don't even feel jealous, because I look, too, and because I'm secure that he'll never leave us. So, how exciting can we be to one another? If you set a personal goal to increase your steps and wear the pedometer, you will likely find that you've added 1,000 or more steps within a few weeks. You become conscious of walking and start walking more. CDC Fitness Recommendations The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention now urges two types of fitness recommendations for men age 65 and over: Moderately intense activity Vigorous activity For the three-fourths of the men who are already overweight, fitness goals ought to include strategies for both greater energy expenditure and less calorie intake. Weight loss needs to be gradual, and you'll want to consider a target date--what is a reasonable amount of time to reach that desired weight loss? So if you want to drop 10 pounds, many people recommend that whatever target date you choose, double the timetable. You'll be more likely to be successful. I'll be late--and this is a dangerous street. Feelings: Heart beating fast, feeling hot and sweaty, irritation, anxiety. Thought: I'm scared. I could get mugged--this is really bad! Feelings: Stomach clenching, hard to breathe, dizzy, fear. Thought: I'm freaking out.

I'll lose control. Can't move. Can't get safe. Feelings: Strong adrenaline rush, panic. This means we must stop judging ourselves. We must forgive ourselves for being human. We must forgive ourselves for being imperfect. Because when we judge ourselves we automatically judge others. And what we do to others, we also do to ourselves. The world is a mirror of our internal selves. When we can accept ourselves, and forgive ourselves, we automatically accept and forgive others. This was a hard lesson for me to learn. Thirteen years ago I woke up on the cold marble floor of my bathroom. My body ached and my breath stank. There will always be the Crazy Horses and Galls of the world. Over the ages, such individuals appear and rise to the challenge whenever there is a need. But if we think that dynamic leadership only occurs on the battleground, then we are denying ourselves the profound learning opportunities we are offered every day. Within many organizations and in every community there are ordinary people who rise to meet a need or to help achieve a seemingly simple goal. They may not capture the headlines or be noted in the history articles, but these people nonetheless demonstrate the most effective model of leadership. They are showing the way by providing an example, and by doing so they also exemplify true leadership.

Real leaders do not sit back and push people or papers around like pawns on a chessboard; The actions of Crazy Horse and Gall during the Battle of the Little Bighorn contributed significantly to the Lakota and Northern Cheyenne victory. Those actions were not random, but were a consequence of their experience and status as military leaders. Even before that fateful day they had achieved leadership status as a result of their abilities and because Lakota society enabled the development of leaders--because strong leadership is essential to the survival and growth of any group. It's situated between your bladder and your rectum, shaped like an inverted pear and about the size of a small fist (prebaby). The uterus is made up of three segments: the fundus, which is the upper portion; Cervix Although the cervix is technically part of the uterus, it works so hard during pregnancy that it deserves its own description. It remains tightly closed throughout pregnancy to hold in your baby, amniotic fluid, and all the other uterine contents. During labor, it dilates (opens) and effaces (thins), to allow your baby to make his way through the birth canal. Urethra This tube runs from your bladder to just in front of the vaginal opening (vulva) and allows for the passage of urine. Although it's not a sexual or reproductive organ, it's located very close to your vagina and uterus, which means that it can be affected by pregnancy. For example, as your baby grows, this can place extra pressure on the bladder and the urethra, so you need to go to the bathroom more frequently or have less control over the urge to pee. Ovaries and fallopian tubes Your fallopian tubes extend from either side of your uterus, each arching over an ovary. Your ovaries contain all of your eggs from the time that you were six months in utero. And you will be driven by the fear that disaster is inevitable or that something this good can't last because it's too good to be true. And then your wealth, relationships, or success will create pressure. What I'm talking about throughout this article is a transformation of the self. When you are transformed, your life will automatically be transformed. The Bible says: But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; kingdom of God is the sense of love you experience, the sense of certainty that you are in tune with a greater power, that life has rules guaranteeing you all you want, and that you will always be provided for.