Developing boundaries means knowing your physical and psychological comfort zone--your safety zone--and knowing what you like and don't like. It is having a sense of your own self, separate from others. It defines you as a separate human being, not someone else's possession. Your ability to protect yourself psychologically and physically is linked to the durability of your boundaries. The skill to develop healthy boundaries is limit setting. They are mechanisms that bring safety into your life by establishing healthy control. As you strengthen your boundaries you gain a clearer sense of control of yourself and your relationship with others; Boundaries are statements about what you will and will not do, acting as limits for what others can and cannot do to you. Cow's milk does not have vitamin D in it, so we fortify it with vitamin D. Similarly, almond milk also is fortified with vitamin D. We have data to suggest that vitamin D (700 to 800 IU) is a daily dose that lowers the risk of hip fracture in adults. Vitamin K is another important vitamin for bone health. Data shows that taking in less than 110 micrograms of vitamin K daily can increase your fracture risk. In the Nurses' Health Study, those who ate a serving of greens every day experienced only half the fractures of those who ate just one serving per week. Other substances in our diets may also raise our risk of osteoporosis. Excess coffee and caffeine may increase the kidneys' ability to remove calcium from the bloodstream. In the Framingham Osteoporosis Study, older women who drank caffeinated soda had a higher incidence of fractures than those who did not. Bottom Line: We have no data to suggest that dairy is needed to lower our risk of osteoporosis. If you have a heartfelt conversation with a Republican about how restricting this one piece of legislation will be, about how it will result in a real, terrible circumstance to happen in your life, it might create doubt in their mind. Legislation isn't the easiest thing to read, so work with your new democratic allies to decipher weak spots.

The best weak spots are ones that have nothing to do with the moral implications of abortion. In order to sway a Republican towards delaying an abortion ban, or even killing it, find weak spots in spending, implementation and/or the language of the bill. If there aren't too many weak spots to exploit, have your democratic ally add amendments to the bill that morph it into a piece of legislation that Republicans don't actually want. All this being said, these are long-term moves, and your real best bet is to simply remove the current Republican members of the Senate and House of Representatives. While you wait for the next election to come by, donations always help out! It seems like a simple, uninvolved gesture, but it's especially helpful if you are busy, but still want to commit some effort to the cause. You can donate directly to Planned Parenthood, or put your donations toward paying for someone to do the relationship building with elected officials on your behalf. You know, fund someone's efforts to reach out to congress and stoke the fire. By setting boundaries for yourself, you are exercising your inherent power to declare that you are a separate and independent individual, not a possession or extension of anyone else. This skill is vital to defining who you are and how you will be treated. You don't set boundaries to punish another person; It is up to you to decide how you want to live and what you can and cannot live with. It is up to you to set boundaries that help you feel safe and confident so you can heal. This takes time, but you can do it. While people readily recognize physical boundaries, we also have emotional, sexual, relational, intellectual, financial, and spiritual boundaries. Emotional boundaries define the self: our ideas, feelings, and values. We set emotional boundaries by choosing how we let people treat us. Our spiritual development comes from our inner self. We do need calcium, but we don't need much. We also need vitamins D and K to help calcium build bone density.

The goal should be to eat calcium-rich, nondairy products. Guidelines recommend people below the age of 50 get 1,000 milligrams of calcium daily and postmenopausal women 1,200 milligrams daily. However, there is no scientific data to confirm that drinking cow's milk is better than the alternatives. We need to focus on a diet with lots of calcium-rich greens (also rich in vitamin K) and an adequate dose of vitamin D daily. What About Milk and Cancer? Studies suggest a correlation between milk intake and bladder and prostate cancer, as well as a potential link to colon cancer. This association was found in women who drank more than three glasses of milk per day. There has been much speculation about the increased risks of reproductive cancers from drinking milk produced from cows that were injected with different hormones to produce excess milk. You could also chip-in financially for someone to go through with their actual abortion. If you don't have any finances to spare, you can volunteer your time. The best thing for a cause (aside from money) is crowd participation. You can participate in planned events advocating abortion, volunteer to help out at your local Planned Parenthood health center or simply bring encouragement for people who are currently in a tough spot because of restrictions on abortion. You can post about abortion articles and topics regularly on social media. Not so much that you lose friends, but, maybe once per week, you could post an informative story or article about abortion. Now, if you've spent years trying to sway your government to look more favorably on abortion rights, and you've made little traction, you might consider moving to a different city or state. There are just some states that are deeply Republican and will not budge on their views. Unless you'd like to spend as much as a decade to gradually change the mindsets of the people in your state, you should likely move somewhere more liberal and abortion-friendly. The states of Oregon, California, Maryland and Vermont are currently viewed as the best states for women's reproductive rights. Only we know the spiritual path for ourselves. We have sexual boundaries: limits on what is safe and appropriate sexual behavior.

We have a choice about who we interact with sexually and the extent of that interaction. We have relationship boundaries. These boundaries define the limits and expansion of appropriate interaction with others. Our intellectual boundaries offer us the opportunity to enjoy learning and teaching. They allow us to be curious and inspired. It's important to establish boundaries that are flexible but within limits; For example, you may not find it acceptable for a stranger to give you a hug, but you are willing to receive a hug from a family member. It is not okay for an acquaintance to expect to stay at your house while on vacation, but that might be an appropriate expectation from friends or family members. Colin Campbell, author of The China Study, also feels that overconsumption of animal-based proteins can be detrimental to health. He specifically conducted rat and mice studies that showed a 20 percent casein (milk protein) diet promoted liver cancer in the animals, and when the animals were fed a reduced-casein diet of 5 percent, their tumor growth was reduced. Even when the diet was switched from high to low casein, the results were the same--reduced casein resulted in less tumor growth. Animals that consumed a diet containing 20 percent casein were all dead at 100 weeks. What About Milk and Autoimmune Disease? Milk has been linked to inflammation and oxidative stress. However, it is likely through a leaky gut (see articles 41-45). In some people, milk is like gluten, triggering breakdown of the tight junctions and allowing food products to enter the bloodstream. These food products prompt an attack from our gut defense system, bringing on a full inflammatory response: a body on fire. Dr A believes strongly that dairy triggered her leaky gut and caused the autoimmune reaction of her disease. This is all a starting point towards pursuing and advocating this specific cause. By starting here and diligently taking action, you turn yourself from a normal, apathetic human into a caring, empathetic person.

Sounds great, right! Well, at least for me, advocating abortion rights, participating in rallies, and calling senators until my head explodes? That doesn't sound so great. Sorry, not sorry. But remember. That's okay. You can't care about everything. I know I've spent a good majority of this article preaching about how most people barely care about anything, but this lesson applies to folks who are slaving away with too many things. Boundaries should be fixed enough to preserve your individual self, yet open to considering new ideas. They are firm enough to uphold values and priorities, and open enough to communicate your priorities. Having healthy boundaries convey that you have determined certain behaviors are inappropriate and/or appropriate in the context of certain relationships. As a consequence, emotional, physical, sexual, spiritual, and financial safety can be created by the use of effective boundaries. Living a life of intimidation, doubting your own perceptions, partners find it almost impossible to protect or defend themselves when it might upset the addict. Your response is to back off; In recovery, you need to learn to strike a balance between showing respect and concern for others and equally showing respect and concern for yourself; I was so afraid to say that I needed things to be a certain way for me in this relationship. He started attending these groups, but I just wanted him to tell me what he was going to do differently. I wanted him to be different because I didn't know if I could really live and be on my own. Eliminating milk products healed her. What About Yogurt and Sour Milk?