For example: I'm worried about Alex, it's scary seeing him so anxious, we're doing what we need to do for him and for us. <a href=''>No</a> feeling lasts forever, we'll get through this. <a href=''>Do</a> what you need to do to stay calm yourself. <a href=''>Find</a> time for yourself: take a bath, go for a walk, listen to your favourite song, have a hot chocolate, dance, etc <a href=''>Acknowledge</a> and validate your child's feelings. <a href=''>Instead</a> of saying,You don't need to be worried about going to school, it's really fun in there,' you could say, `You are worried about going to school today. You do not like being there without me right now. Children and teachers go to school, parents do not. Your teacher knows about your worries and wobbly feelings and she is there to help you with them in school. I'll be keeping you in my heart while you're there, and I'll be at the gate waiting for you at the end of the day. What's really going on for the other person? Who are they loyal to? What do they value? What could their perspective be? And most of all, ask yourself what do they have to lose in the situation? I was recently chatting to Karl, who had moved from a long tenured career in one large, global multinational to a new, more senior position in another, smaller, relatively new player in the same industry. The new company had evolved from start-up to a successful, competitive player and many of the management team had been there since inception. Karl started sharing with me his frustration at the managing director and some of the leadership team around a lack of speed, decision making and processes that he believed were needed to facilitate the next stage of growth and culture evolution. I suggested he get curious about each of his new colleagues and explore for each their perspective on what was happening in the business, what they valued most about their roles, the company and the people, and most importantly I asked Karl to think about what each person had to lose. He stepped off the dancefloor and onto the balcony (like we discussed in Facet 9) and this allowed Karl to widen his perspective, slow down his thinking, and develop more understanding and more appropriate strategic next steps.

Arjun would no longer fear killing his family and friends (and killing in general) because it dawns on him that no one will really die, anyway. All of life is a cosmic theatrical piece with Lord Krishna as the divine architect. Krishna informs Arjun that he cannot be attached to a life that does not belong to him. How can you be attached to something and claim it as yours when it is so dependent on the universe for survival? Can a human survive without oxygen? Can man survive without water? Can life itself survive without the sun? This is all nature. Man is dependent on external forces for survival, so how can we think that this body belongs to us? It belongs to that which it cannot survive without - nature. The incredible thing is that SVT has the power to help both twins. Twin B gets even more optimism, positivity, and a boost in mood. What it can do for Twin A is truly astounding: It can help her become a glass-half-full person again. It can short-circuit that runaway train of bad moods, naysaying self-talk, and unhealthy behaviors. SVT lays the tracks to get your brain back on course, creating a new confirmation bias. It transforms that pitfall thought pattern, reprograms your mantra, and makes your behaviors healthier. This article contains self-guided SVT as a tool for boosting mood. It is not a substitute for inpatient or intensive outpatient treatment when severe mental illness is present. Remember: SVT can also be used with a provider as part of an integrative treatment plan. Do you also remember the Jedi mind trick of the subconscious brain from the last article: the ability to change top-down processing?

OSA is not the only form of sleep apnoea. The following are less common, but worth mentioning and certainly worth investigating if you think one of them is affecting you. Central sleep apnoea occurs when the brain fails to send appropriate signals to the breathing muscles to maintain respiration during sleep. It's often associated with a central nervous system disease that involves a blockage or infection in the lower parts of the brain. It can also occur in neuromuscular diseases that involve the respiratory muscles - I've seen it most in patients with multiple sclerosis. Mixed sleep apnoea results from a mix of both central sleep apnoea and OSA. Usually the central sleep apnoea (which is not caused by any obstruction) is quickly followed by an airway obstruction. This is more common than central sleep apnoea, but less common than OSA. Upper airway resistance syndrome (UARS) is a term that was coined by US sleep researcher and physician Christian Guilleminault in 1993. UARS is characterized by repetitive arousals from sleep that probably result from increasing respiratory effort during narrowing of the upper airway. I trust the computer and never check whether the address I've selected is actually the person I want to mail. Often, it doesn't matter and I get funny responses back from people. But one time this simple mistake cost me $150K in business. I was working with two companies on a multi-year consulting deal. Both of my contacts had the same name, let's call them Wim. One Wim was an existing client, let's call him Wim A, and the other was a prospect, Wim B. Both guys wanted the same type of consulting for their companies. But I gave Wim A a better rate because he was a loyal customer. However, instead of sending the contract to Wim A, I sent the contract to Wim B. This time, it wasn't an innocent mistake.

Sunburn and scalds are the most usual causes of first-degree burns. Burns caused by exposure to electricity can have the appearance of a first-degree burn, but mask more damage below the surface of the skin, so always seek medical treatment for electrical or chemical burns and treat a burn as soon as possible to limit the amount of damage to your skin. Don't pour iced water or apply ice to the area as this can damage the skin tissue further. Creams or greasy ointments should also not be applied, although a thin layer of petroleum jelly or aloe vera is fine. Change this once a day as you wait for the burn to heal. Don't be tempted to break blisters that occur. An open blister can get infected. TREAT A CUT OR WOUND If the wound is bleeding, apply pressure with a sterile bandage or clean cloth until the bleeding stops. For minor wounds, rinse the area with tap water. On a break, I kicked around a soccer ball with the kids. One gangly student walked over to me, grinning through crooked teeth. Eyes shining, he made a fist and used it to pound his heart. He then wrapped his other hand tightly around the fist and pushed the fist up as the constraining fingers slowly opened, until each was fully extended in a reach. The gesture captured me totally, and his smile said everything. Two translators came over and told me he was expressing his thanks for helping him grow today. His hands showed a seed breaking open to express his feelings. I signed the same gesture back to him. Shifting my mindset had made this moment possible. There are three aspects you can shift to help create a mind-share mindset: attention, intention, and imagination.

One side wins but both lose. Medicine is all about grey areas and consensus. There is seldom absolute clarity in important decisions. If things were that simple these decisions could be made with some clinical algorithm. Life is not like that. I rarely feel resentment towards relatives who insist on futile treatments that serve only to prolong their loved one's suffering. Everybody wants what is best for the patient and people's views, even if I find them bizarre and ill judged, are none the less heartfelt beliefs held in good faith. I cannot know in what furnace their ideas have been forged. Perhaps the furnace of guilt, religious conviction, poor education, an abusive past? Who knows and who are we to judge? And certainly, a lot less funny. How to Finally End Polarization(the article where I pretend to end polarization! I've hammered the nail of polarization until my right thumb is powder, but one thing I failed to mention: it's a lie that we don't enjoy polarization. Some minuses just can't become pluses. Come on--if we all hated polarization so much, it wouldn't exist at all. We wouldn't have tennis or Ping-Pong. Can we agree on that? The fact is, polarization is super fun. We love antagonism as a spectator sport, and we even like participating in it. Almost every single reality talent show has that as its principal engine.